Guys, is it awkward/annoying when a female friend grabs onto you when she's scared?

[Bethany22]

Is that behavior only allowed from girlfriends, or can female friends get away with it, too? Scared, I mean like a scary movie, dog, tripping and falling, bear, scary people, etc, and she clings onto your arm.

[lovetohate28]

I believe it boils down to two things before i can answer your question.1: the separate relationship status of the parties in question. and 2: is either party involved being friend zoned? Ok with those questions in mind ill do my best to clarify this. If both are single and neither person is being friend zoned then there's a good chance that this will be welcomed because in the history of the universe there's not ever been a guy and girl friendship happen that at least at one point throughout the friendship that one or the other didn't hole it could be more. So if both people are not wanting more currently then he's still your friend and should be happy to comfort you when able. If he's hoping for more from the relationship then he'll welcome the opportunity to help protect you and have you close because well. Thats how things generally become more. If friend zoned and knows it may be slightly irritated but should over all ve ok with it. Now if either of you is in a relationship then its a case by case basis. If scary human then by all means grab the friends arm. If bear you'll likely be dead anyway. If movie just dont do that... You know you're gonna wanna grab him when scared and its basically a highschool tactic to have a reason to so at that point you may as well confess your undying love for him and take the chance. Basically if either of you have a partner that involves more people than the two of you then dont touch. Because if you actually value each other's friendship then you'll be hindering that by way of jealous boy/girlfriend.

Im aware this got a bit long winded but i think i answered the question in a way that should make sense. Sorry if it does not.

[clampfan101]

I’d be fine with it. It just means they trust me.

[AviatorTom]

It happens... and doesn't bother me. I'm always there to help when I can.

[NathanDavis]

nope... it's very common actually, so you get used to it...

some other times is funny, like in the movies... or even cute, for example when it's just a bee, or a chihuahua lmfao...

and no, some men do it too... it's just an instinct and most of the time you can't even help it, if you find something THAT frightening you just want to get behind someone or something or go away...

I do know a few of "huge, manly man" that could take on anything on anyone but NOT... a rat, not a roach... not a spider, the very moment they see one of these little things... they will freak out lmao

or needles, needles too...

[Titanic1912]

My ex was always afraid of thunderstorms. Whenever the lightning flashed and then the thunder boomed, she would simper and cling to me. I just held her and comforted her and she kept saying, “Hold me. Hold me.” And I kept saying, “I’m holding you, Honeysuckle. It’s okay.” One night, it was raining really hard and a there was a crash of thunder that shook the entire house and she buried her face in my shoulder and I shouted, “WILL YOU CUT IT OUT? YOU’RE GONNA KILL US!” I wasn’t yelling at her; I was yelling at the thunder. There there was another loud crash and we started screaming and yelling together as our faces touched. As the thunder continued, we just looked at each other and we started kissing. We ended rolling on the floor of her basement kissing and cuddling while the storm raged on.

[JacobJordan]

Happens more often than you think with women other than my wife. Even when my wife is present. Women will gravitate towards the seemingly solid large object which is me. It's definitely different as I spent most of my early life being ignored and now I am some kind of beacon or Anchor for people

[MrOracle]

No, it's generally fine unless there is already some kind of tension or drama going on.

I've always found it funny how most girls seem to love scary movies, but only when a man is around. My girlfriend was excited to watch some movies around Halloween, but could only watch them if I could stay over - she's too terrified to watch them alone.

[20yearsolder]

First of all, it's really none of their business how many partners you've had in the past. You're not damaged goods if you've had many partners in the past. Now you're pretty sure you found the right one so as long as you're true to that person that's all that matters

[robhazelnut]

The only time that's perfectly fine is if she is tripping and/or falling. Otherwise, I'd prefer that she instead cling to my shirt /jacket at the side or back so that both arms remain free. Best not to hinder one's protector.

[robhazelnut]

"The side or back" at points below the chest, that is.

[Daniela1982]

What is he going to grab onto when he is scared? How about when both of them are scared? Do they grab onto each other or to the guy dressed like Santa ringing a bell on the corner? Guys are big and buff and I bet, nickels for peanuts, that they love a girl to grab onto them.

[KrakenAttackin]

@daniela1982. True enough.

[Lliam]

No. It doesn't bother me. It's an understandable female reaction.
I'd probably be amused unless they glomed onto me in a real emergency, restricted my movement, and wouldn't let go.

[Yannae]

Awkward no. Annoying no. It's hilarious when they do, or cute. It does trigger something though, the want to protect her. As for tripping I'll be the one grabbing her so she doesn't even touch the ground.

[Nik1hil]

If I am single, they are allowed to , it's not awkward or annoying..

If I am not single, you are allowed, but If my girl is nearby, leave me as soon as the threat is averted

[Nifrayu]

It is annoying in fact. It's also potentially dangerous. It's the opposite of helpful especially if there is real danger. By a friend grabbing my arm for example, it hinders my ability to act defensively if I need to. It would be both distracting and restraining. If this is something you do, then I would suggest training yourself to react differently to fear.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No, I've had strangers do that on a number of occasions. Doesn't bother me.

[Pohjolan]

She's pretty innocent if she still can get scared by a movie but that or tripping/falling is fine.

Its not fine if we might be in combat and the guy will need both of his arms.

[lirikri4]

I'd probably advise against it if the guy is not single.

But if he is... hell, go for it. Feel free to hold his hand on walks and stuff. Although you'd probably not want to give him ideas. Otherwise do it. NOW.

[SotiCoto]

I'm Autistic. I do not and will not ever tolerate unprompted physical contact.

[Agape93]

One of my friends is like that, except for him it's contact from people he isn't aware of and doesn't know.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I would be a little uncomfortable if a female I didn't know or even a female friend grabbed on, but I think it's adorable if my wife latches on :-)

[worldscolide]

Awkward, and would cause my wife to react very badly.

[ThrillSeeker01]

No, it's perfectly fine. It's a compliment, that she trusts me and feels comfortable doing that with me.

[HouseMoat]

No, and it's also more likely with me that it'd be the other way around. I'm like a horse; scare easily