Do most guys who “put themselves in the friendzone” realize that the girl they liked was never interested to begin with?

[Anonymous]

I’m discussing this topic without putting the burden on guys or girls. I hear a lot of people blame guys for being friendzoned by not showing the other person they’re interested. I would say that’s true in some cases. Example: If she walks up to talk to you or pokes your shoulder or laughs at every bad joke, then it would be a guy’s fault he didn’t make a move.

HOWEVER, there are cases where after a guy talks to a girl he likes, it’s clear that even though she’s polite/friendly, her body language is negative (no eye contact, gets distracted, arms crossed, etc.). The guy knows if he asks her out, he’s getting rejected. So he doesn’t. But now people still say “it’s your fault you didn’t make a move”. Duh, he knows what the answer will be if he flirts or asks her out.

I’m slightly on the autistic spectrum but I can read body language to feel the vibe from someone I’m talking, in fact, to the point where I can predict whether they’ll follow me on Instagram if I request them.

Bottom line, a lot of this comes from pursuing someone out of your league. If you’re average looking, trying to ask out the hottest girl/guy won’t go well and you’ll get disappointed if you think you have a chance beyond friendship.

[HappyWoman34]

That’s not always true. If I met a guy less attractive than myself whom I found appealing, I could, would and have been their girlfriend in the past. I’d do it again. It’s not all about looks (to women); or even most people by their early to mid thirties. We’re all going to grow old and wrinkly and die. Before that time, someone who attracts you a bit but doesn’t have to make you burn with lust is fine for many people. The ones who don’t end up divorced.

[AmyHew1tt]

It does happen pretty often that way. But more so, men don't accept the friendship part of being put in the friendzone, and so keep themselves miserable. The fact is, no one is keeping anyone in the friend zone except yourself. You can accept the friendship and establish boundaries, or end your connection with that person.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

They may, most instances, no they are just hopeful she will suddenly realize ( like a bad romance movie or book) that he is the one and only for her!

If reality they refuse to acknowledge she just will never see him as a romantic option.

[Kaylei2006]

You have about a 3 minutes window of not being in the friendzone.

So, start off flirting please ;) so I know, Hmmmm, good idea?

[Billlewis]

Good one -- you're dealing tonight, Ms Kaylei🎯

[Kaylei2006]

@Billlewis - Lol, I got banned for a day from my reg. teen chat room, hang'n here, with the grown-ups ;)

[Kaylei2006]

@Billlewis - But, seriously just talk to me (does matter what u look like to much), be normal, I like attention and don't say anything to dumb, smh

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, will do how did you get banned, because the other site didn't want you to be here?

[Kaylei2006]

@Billlewis - I'm a bad, bad girl, with to much time on her, but going to watch 'The Boys' now, and Starlights booty!

[Billlewis]

And if I can add one more comment about the controversial subject of women's feet, it often takes a long time for guys to learn how to politely and gently praise a woman's feet without upsetting her or making her uncomfortable.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am,, thank you very much for sharing your thoughts"with me this evening. Maybe if I'm lucky, you'll consider following or messaging me, so I can hear more of your opinions, because they matter to me.

[Kaylei2006]

@Billlewis - Oooh, I know about feet I get 100s of DMs a day on chat.

And well, I can tell fakes on the site, men def talk better and lie better for sure ;) boys ask me what color my underwear is, lol

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, I understand, and I wouldn't dare ask you such a rude, intrusive question.