Guys, Be honest are you a SIMP?

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Hey look I will not judge you if you are a SIMP, I SIMPED too for some men, Any guy here who is going to admit that they are a SIMP has Guts! By definition A simp is a guy who puts women on a pedestal especially if they find that women attractive, these guys literally go above and beyond for that woman, they would do anything for them especially when the woman that they so love or like is not really going above and beyond for them. The symptoms of a simp are:- 💣Always doing the most for a female that doesn’t like them. 💣Always trying to impress females. 💣Puts females before themselves. 💣Will defend a female just for a drop of *😼*. 💣Hates slander of any female. 💣Lets females walk over them. So are you a SIMP?

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

The way it works for me is if I am attracted to a girl, I will go out of my way to do nice things for her, compliment her, you know, go the extra mile. That would be sort of simp-ish behavior. But the thing is, usually she likes me back, and it's a reciprocal sort of energy. I give, she gives, win-win.

But what can also happen is she's not interested. I shoot my shot, and if she's not having it, I'm not going to keep pursing and try to convince her. I'm actually turned off by a girl who's not interested in me, and I lose interest even if I thought she was attractive before.

For a real life example, there's this girl I work with. Actually, she works for the same company, but we rarely work together. But she was covering a shift one night for someone else, so we ended up working together all night and had a really great "all-nighter" conversation. I realized how interesting she was and started to be attracted to her and think about her a bunch, so I asked her to hang out outside of work and she agreed. We went for a motorcycle ride and a hike out in a wilderness area. It was fun, but she approached me a couple days later and said she thought she maybe gave me the wrong impression and was kind of beating around the bush, but I could tell she was trying to tell me that she wasn't that into me. I didn't stress about it, or get offended or feel rejected or anything. I just moved on and pretty much forgot about her by the following week. I understand but also don't people who pine and yearn for people who don't give two shits about them. To me, that's not just pointless, it's pathetic. And also to be honest, a little bit rape-y. I mean, why would you want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with you? That's actually the literal definition of rape.

Like people who propose in public and get told "no". Wtf were you even doing asking this girl in the first place? You should know before you even ask that the answer is definitely going to be "yes", otherwise you're being kind of a jerk trying to use public pressure to manipulate someone into saying yes to something they don't want. So they deserve that humiliation they are trying to put on someone else. Yuck.

UncleBertie · Accepted Answer

I used to simp in my younger days. I believed the myth that all women were sugar and spice and all things nice - perfect creatures who were always right. It took me years to wake up to the reality of female nature, to realise they are no better than men, with some aspects of their behaviour being innately worse than the behaviour of men. Women to varying degrees manipulate, lie, malign others, are sly, lack accountability for their actions and have a bloated sense of entitlement.

I would counsel young men to be wary. Make a woman earn your trust. Look for red flags - such as she:

has selfish attitudes;
is untruthful and evasive;
demonstrates inconsiderate and controlling behaviour;
excessively criticises you and others;
has an automatic expectation that her preferences and desires take priority over yours;
refuses to socialise with your friends;
often complains of boredom when in your company;
shows a lack of generosity;
expects you to spend your money on her, particularly where she earns as much or more than you;
regularly interrupts conversations to change the topic to a subject involving her - except when she's criticising you;
doesn't listen to you and others;
never asks you about yourself, nor shows any interest in your life.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I was before this year. Then I change, I got heartbroken, laugh out by girls, insulted, the number of times I got told I was too ugly I can't even count.
But now I am tired and I don't care anymore. I don't want to put any efforts in women anymore. I rather take care of myself and follow my passions. Why would I want to care about women after all this?

I was the type of guy that would pay every dates, drive you home, literally pickup my crush when she was with another guy at midnight (yes the nice friend zone type of guy). I always wanted to be a loyal guy, find a good girl, propose to her and have a family. You know the type of guys that make great dads and are keepers... that all girls want but reject every time?

Now I am getting older, I am 27 and my mentality as changed. Why should I be the one investing into the relationship all the time? As you get older men stay more attractive physically then ladies because of hormones. This is proven by the way. I see no point on investing my time, my emotions and money in something that is just going to hurt me. I refuse to put any efforts until I see a girl that shows she's worth it. Honestly if not I'd be totally fine being single the rest of my life. I travel the world, keep in shape at the gym now, I love camping and hiking. So for me it's fine and I accept it. I don't have anymore energy or patients to put out for women anymore.

Afterall you can just pay a very hot escort for everything and be satisfied without any time consuming efforts. Just a bit of money.

Sorry ladies, but your pushing lots of great guys away and making them careless. I will never understand why.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

No but I have been accused of it a number of times, as well as being a white knight. People don't know what that stuff means.

I defend people when I feel like I need to. When I see something wrong. Now don't get me wrong there is a time to speak up and/or take action and a time to keep your mouth shut knowing the difference can save you.

But I will also be just as quick to call a woman out if I need to as well.

I don't try and force someone to like me either. If a woman isn't interested I also loose interests. I am not defending them to have sex with them either.

I know the kind of guys you are talking about and it is really just sad and pathetic especially when they defend a woman who is in the wrong and get involved in something they shouldn't be.

People should not let someone walk on them ever. As well as stand up for people who do have people walk all over them as well. I try and stand up for myself as well as others.

It is crazy how some men have so many women who are so much better yet they go after the ones who don't even like him. I guess some people just want what they can't have...

But, I will say this there are women who display this same kind of pathetic behavior as well out there towards men

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I probably did some of that several decades ago but not now. This is the coffee cup I gave my girlfriend when she moved in with me:

but then I quickly showed her MY coffee cup:

and I explained that I would treat her like a queen only as long as she treated me like a king. The King and Queen are still together!

ohshee · Answer

I am me and if I choose to do something for someone it's because I want to you can give me a title you can call me a name you can whisper behind my back in front of my face I love when people know exactly who I am because then I don't have to worry about it I I say keep thinking whatever you want to think and I will keep choosing who I want to be by the things I say and do whether it's for you or somebody else I see things a little bit further in a little bit deeper than most people I like when I'm judged because when I'm judge people don't know me at all and I like that more better

arrenopos_zeus · Answer

Too much blah blah so i will reply on the title, in simple words no.
I like adventure, i love sex and i am sex positive towards women too, because I see from my own girl friends that they are not feeling secure with something on them.

For example i know exactly which friends feel insecure about their breasts, and always for the shake of the humor I tell them that if i was someone they liked i would be someone would lick and give more affection to where they feel insecure 😏

They know me as sexoholic so it is accepted among my friends and don't find it creepy basically it is with a quite playful note and causes giggles too.

But no way i would stand begging for a single girl, she would be the one who would begging on bed 😂

I see every single woman on this planet (except the ugly ones and thoose who raised me) as potential sexual partners, so why should I feel motivated to blindfold myself? lol only the retards do that, and they sit crying and begging, its annoying, pathetic and make our nuts (balls) more swollen than a persons hodgking's lemphoma, or an edema 😂

RavVid · Answer

I'd have to say mostly NO. I am naturally quite protective of females.

A lot of guys automatically think that if a girl looks nice, she has a nice character. However I have learnt that the more beautiful a girl is, the more she can get away with. So I long ago started to assume beautiful girls were exploitative and, despite my physical desires, not to have anything to do with them.

It is not always true though. I have known two very beautiful and comely girls who had beautiful kindly characters and personalities.

Texaskid1 · Answer

When I was younger and weaker I simped a few times for several women that - in retrospect - were not that special. It took me several bad experiences to learn the error of my ways. Now I am more indifferent to women - if I meet a woman that I found attractive I just remind myself of my past suffering and that helps me to keep things in perspective as they say.

As a middle aged man I know better then to put any woman up on a pedastool. The 20 year old me not so much. Now I work , save up my money , do some side investing , go to the gym 3-4 times a week and actively practice minimalism (the idea that life is less stressful when you begin to minimize the amount of material possessions you have).

MCheetah · Answer

Nope.

And I like redhead gals a lot; doesn't mean I'm going to give them my money or kiss their ass.

I know some simps out there are "Still Alive" and kicking, but I have absolutely NO respect for simps. Not even johns and guys who pay women to f*ck them; I'm talking about ACTUAL simps. Beta males. Weak men. Male feminists. Men subservient to women. Men who let women get away with murder. Amber Heard supporters. And so on. Society sucks so much in large part due to them and the awful women they create with their submissive weak behavior.

serious · Answer

In short the answer is NO.

Under normal circumstances I always treat women with respect. When I speak I speak properly and in full sentences, no short forms and of course I am always straightforward and honest.

That being said, this respect will only last till the time she doesn't do anything that I see as " unforgivable" in my view. If a woman ever does I see as inappropriate and unforgivable then the next instant she will be out of my life forever. It will not take a second for me to throw the woman out of my life. I have plenty of self respect as a man and there are many things which I will never tolerate nor will I accept that.

For me removing people, throwing people out of my life is very easy. Yes so that is my opinion.

Guy__ · Answer

I was never a simp growing up. Even leaning towards the opposite extreme. More recently I've been trying to balance myself to allow myself to simp at will, because women deserve respect for who they are and many men treated them like shit, myself included.

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