Attractive guys with no social life?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy. He's tall, dark, and very handsome. I always see him at my school and he's always alone. All the girls literally drool over him and he's either oblivious to it or doesn't care. He barely talks at all but has an amazingly sexy voice. Like he really is the biggest mystery ever and I really want to talk to him but I have no idea what I would even say. Why would a guy that can get pretty much any girl not have any friends?

[Yriuqni]

I have always been the least social person in school and college .. never had too many friends and barely talked to anyway .. though people used to tell me that I am good looking and all that.

Anyway, if this guy is anyway like me , I don't suggest just walking up and saying "Hi".. if he isn't that sociable , then he most probably lacks the conversational skills .. so you better have a good reason ..something that will assure you a conversation. If he will eventually blend in and be nice, then he is just like me .. he lacks social life and doesn't know why ..but is pleased to make some friends.. however dislike talking to random people ..

If he is different than I am .. then he most probably doesn't like having/making friends, or something big is going on in his life.. like he suffers a lot at home for example .. or someone loved died.. you never know. But all in all , I suggest having an opening subject to talk about , so he won't think that you are just like any other girl who wants to talk to him..

[Anonymous]

He sounds hot. You should go see what he's about girl.

He might actually have a girlfriend but she might go to a different school. There's this guy like that at my school but he actually has a girlfriend. I found out by stalking him, nah j/k, I overheard her talking to her on the phone before class. I have never seen him talking to any girls and I think that's just because he's a good boyfriend and don't want to deal with girls coming on to him. And let me tell ya, girls practically throw themselves at him.

But there is the small possibility that doesn't have a girlfriend or any friends and is simply a loner because I am like that. I don't know if guys are drooling over me (probably not) but I don't have any friends and I'm always alone. Some people are people that have to have someone around them most of the time and some people just prefer to do their own thing by their lonesome.

[Opinion Owner]

If you do approach him approach him like a normal person and not like he's a God. The guy I know of have a lot of girls approaching him almost ravenously, and they never get anything out of him. He actually talked to me on his own accord because I wasn't preying on him like the other girls.

[pixistix]

I'm not gonna lie, I absolutely love guys like that. They're modest and relaxed, and more often than not, more mature. Also because it's exactly the way I am. I can be outgoing, but I like time to myself and if it's between sitting with people I can't stand and being by myself, imma by myself. Maybe he just doesn't particularly like anyone there?

[Asker]

Which is why I don't want to talk to him haha.

[Tractor4161]

Because he is probably just someone that just doesn't mind not talking. I'm kind of the same way. If he doesn't feel the need to say anything to anyone, he won't and he doesn't care what anyone else thinks. He probably developed this when he was younger and developed into a better looking person now. As far as approaching him, just say: Hi I'm so and so. What's your name? And mention something you observe him doing or at, etc. A lot of guys find it sexy when a woman approaches. You most likely will need to carry the conversation, but Hey your female, that's easy enough

[dipta]

That's assuming all females are good at making conversation, which isn't true, but good advice anyway...

[Nomad93]

Women almost expect men to approach these days I have been told I am good looking but I don't really care what people think and I have the same issue as you @ dipta not knowing what to say so usually I don't say anything really maybe a hello or a smile and that's about it. Nobody has introduced themselves to me in years its like a one way battle up hill al alone.

[usernamechecksout]

I'm like the guy the girl described. He is an introvert (introvert doesn't mean shy).
Considering that he is always alone (like me lol), he may be very introverted, so if you try to approach him like the guy above described, he may get annoyed, unless he was already interested in you.

The best way to approach him is to get both of you into the same activity, in a group, and do be too "intense" or he may get annoyed; like I said, if you approach him "for no reason" (well actually if he knows he is handsome, he will realize you are flirting with him), he may get annoyed, unless he was already interested in you. Or he will be polite and show interest, but will just answer to your questions: he won't ask anything, and he won't say anything outside of what you asked him (I did this, and the girl just kept asking, until I became annoyed and told her that I wanted to be alone; I wasn't interested in her. I know it sounds incredibly bitter, but we the introverts need our space).

[usernamechecksout]

>the guy above
I was talking about Tractor4161

[Anonymous]

It might not be that he is a loner its just sometimes when people haven't always had positive friendships/ relationships some people just stop trying and get frustrated and just go about their life. He probably has friends but just doesn't need to be with them all the time, a lot of guys are like that. But he sounds oblivious to the female attention.

[Anonymous]

oh. the loner type of guy. I've never met a guy like that.

he sounds a lot like me. I'm a loner and don't really talk to anyone. and my sister says guys look at me alot, but I doubt it's because they like me or something. oh and I don't have friends. don't feel the need to have any. I haven't met anyone I'd care to hang out with. people always tend to bore me.

idk. this guy probably doesn't like small talk and would rather have deep conversations. maybe most people bore him. or he has social anxiety. or he's just introverted. idk. I'm basing these assumptions off of myself. maybe this guy has friends outside of school. or he's too shy?

most likely, he's just a loner and he likes his privacy and his own company. (I am like this.)

[Opinion Owner]

oh and if you want to talk to him, just smile and say hello to him whenever you walk by him until he warms up to you. it might take a while though. just don't seem to pushy. :D

[bDizzie]

He doesn't know he is attractive, also he probably is looking for strong signals that girls like him.

[AlwaysBelieving]

what dDizzle said X 10

[JustChris]

Exactly.

[wildchild1]

Sometimes when someone is super attractive, we forget that they too can have personal problems. To me, it sounds llike he might be depressed and therefore does not socialise etc. He could even have a personality disorder, such as an avoidant one. If he has even a mild case of this, getting up and coming to school is probably not a pleasant experience. He could also just be shy and have a lack of confidence due to past or present happenings in his life

[usernamechecksout]

To me he sound like an introvert. Ever heard of that?

[Daniel89]

hey that sounds like me.. I hardly have a social life and I get lonely sometimes.. he probably a wounded man and needs time to find himself I don't know if a girl could help him discover what love if he dosen't do it for himself but your welcomed to try I'm pretty sure he's a nice guy

[wowzer]

Maybe he's an asshole? Maybe other guys don't like him? Maybe he has mental problems. Maybe he's moved in the last few weeks and not settled in. Maybe, he drama in his life. The prettiest girls are often the most friendless, why different for guys? I think you're lucky he's not popular. Now you can talk and make a fool of yourself. Chances are he'll appreciate the attention for a change, and if it backfires who's he gonna gossip with? ;)

[Nomad93]

@wowzer I love the attention I get at the gym, and no I am not grunting or anything just being a boss lifting heavy and running fast and looking good I swear ladies are watching the whole time. I had this girl look at me then go on the ass working machine right in front of me while I was working out my arms, Nice eye candy for my workout lol. I guess lonely people like attention!

[usernamechecksout]

Or maybe he is just an introvert.

[BCRanger10]

Maybe he's just an introverted loner (I'm one as well). He may want to socialize, but not know how to. Introverts are kind of hit and miss. Some of us have so much to say and others are totally oblivious. Say hello to him one day and ask him how he is. Try a few lines of basic small talk and feel him out from there.

[Nomad93]

I guess that makes me a Introverted Loner too of sorts. I have friends but not too many.
@BCRanger10 I often feel like socializing and don't know what to say or do that's probably this other guys problem too. Like I mean well but when I do talk I mess up usually not because I don't have anything to say just the surprise that someone actually wanted to spend a few minutes with me. I am exactly the same way sometimes I talk non-stop other times I merely nod and say yeah, uh huh, no , ok, depends on the time of the day and the mood lol.

[OldboyJon]

What the heck this just described My whole childhood his guy is either shy or a introvert who doesn't talk a lot basically me I'm always alone but I'll talk when ppl talk to me if u wanna talk to this guy just walk to him and ask him why is he alone all the time or just say you here again lol

[AlwaysBelieving]

I'm calling "the strong silent type with a bit of obliviousness." I'm also thinking introvert for some reason (either that or an extrovert that doesn't need to talk all the time.

Just say "hi" and see what happens. It might be that he's also not aware of his level of attractiveness.

[ThatBritishLad]

*Reads* ... You don't happen to live in Crystal Palace? xD

Well, I wouldn't say I'm exactly handsome, but I'm certainly not ugly. I've been asked out by a few girls in my time, but I've always turned them down: I'm just not the relationship type, maybe he isn't either? D:

[askq21]

Walk straight up to him and ask "If you have a sexy voice, Why are you always so quiet?"



don't wait for answer and walk away :D :D :D

[Anonymous]

just because you got attractive qualities does not mean you got game. in some cases, the person in question may not feel attractive because no one approaches him.

[Anonymous]

When you are wise or shy or an introvert you won't need/have many friends with you in public. Maybe he is shy or maybe he enjoys his own company and knows friends rarely last. Go up to him and don't try to rehearse anything at all. Just smile and smell good and let the conversation go where it may.

[aMuse]

Why don't you say "Hi"? You never know where that might get you...

[JustChris]

Exactly.

[UNKOWEN]

We do not make because friends are fake and girl friends want something form us. I will explain you why friends are fake because they love to take advantage or they want help and after help they will forget you. It's good to be private and be productive , It will taking care of your self.

[kambo_trick3y]

You literally described me to a T.

Minus the tall, dark, handsome and sexy voice part.

[Anonymous]

Well, he could have confidence issues like me because some girl called him "the ugliest boy she ever saw" in elementary school. Or he's just shy because his parents never took him out much, so he didn't communicate with people as a kid and learn how to converse. That's kinda what happened to me. At least he's got looks goin for him hahaha

[usernamechecksout]

Have you ever heard about "introversion"? By the way it doesn't mean shyness.

[bmelc003]

There may be a reason, but maybe he's just shy. Go talk to him and see if he's nice!

[tadpole25]

how do you know that he has no social life for sure, especially if he is so mysterious

[askq21]

Try short talk (really short...kind of yes/no/maybe questions :D )...and see if he responds.

[diegoD]

How do you know he can get pretty much any girl? some may droll over him, but as you say no one talks to him. how good is that? maybe there is something you don't know