I might ask, yeah.
Still, I say you either treat it like nothing's changed, or you ask so you can define things.
I honestly think that if you could be happy with it going either way, I say ask. Just say to him something like "So I was just wondering what this all means to you. I'm just curious; Where do you want to go with this?" and if you're really cool with whatever happens, then just take whatever his answer is, and go with it. Nothing weird will happen. You could explore a new relationship or go back like nothing happened, or keep doing this FWB thing if you want, and keep it casual.
If you just want a relationship, and it turns out he doesn't, then the key to it not getting weird is just getting his answer, and accepting it. If you don't get too torn up (to his face, at least) then things will normalize, in time, you'll get over him, and things will be ok.
If he wants a relationship and you don't then that;s the tricky part. Basically, you just have to keep it respectful, and try not to hurt his feelings. Just let him know your reasons, if you think they're good ones, and let him know how good a friend he is. Though careful how you word it, or he might think you're just saying that to zone him, because you think he was a mistake, or that he sucked in bed or something. If you do this, be tactful, but explain everything in as clearly and concisely as possible. Maybe even work out a speech beforehand, and refine it so that it's as airtight as possible.
Anyway, I think you can do all this without ruining a friendship. You just have to be smart about it. Just remember, the fact that you two had sex already complicates things. It's better you sort this crap out, before it gets too big. Sooner the better. So, yeah, sorry, I know you said you don't want to ask, but I think it's best you talk to the guy and define this relationship. Otherwise things can very easily get messy.
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He does care for you or he'd have let you go, but wait to see what he does next to confirm whether it is attraction and affection, or just friend drunkenness. If you like him though, no need to wait for him.
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