I'm interested...she's not..then ignore her...why does she want to flirt again?

[tenchu11]

I've asked girls I like out on dates and I've been turned down or gotten mixed signals...such as sure sounds fun mind if blah blah and blah come along..and I say something like sure I'll talk to you about later. Then I never do...I'm polite and say hi and make small talk but no longer show interest in her. No longer ask her about her day offer to buy her coffee or a drink. Sitt by her at lunch and start spending time with other woman. Then out of nowhere maybe 2, 3 weeks even a month later she becomes super friendly. Walks by smiles "where have you been, haven't seen you around". Becomes overly flirty..

Maybe I'm jaded and I don't think she's into me or I remember her turning me down or being less then enthusiastic about being asked to go out. I just ignore her attempts to be flirty, shut it down completely and just say "hey...well I have to get going". Even though they are showing re-newed interest in me, I feel its only because they miss the attention and see another girl getting it and they don't really like me. It's an issue I can't get over...do I put myself back out there? Why is she all of a sudden wanting to flirt as if she is hoping I'd ask her out again. I never do I fear she'd turn me down again and like I say I ignore her. This has happened more than ones with multiple woman I've been interested in. I really like them want to get to know them get shut down go through a period of keeping my distance since it sort of hurt my ego...then randomly they want to be "overly friendly"

[Jd1729]

This is a tough scenario. Girls may flirt with you only to get attention for themselves. Unfortunately it is just something some immature girls do. It is not to say they don't find you attractive, but because they're nervous or they enjoy the attention they do what you described. You can either go with it, and understand that it probably won't amount to anything(but hope the connection leads you to someone else), or you can cut them off and see if they become blatantly back to you because they miss you. I am actually an author of the book on Amazon , "The Art of the Alpha Male: How to Be A Man that Attracts Beautiful Women", which may be of value for you.

[Anonymous]

Some girls are really stupid, and think playing hard to get is a winning strategy.

They become overly flirty when they get the idea that you're seeing someone, and it's still early days. They are (in a sense) trying to sabotage what ever you have going. (Even if there is nothing going on.)

You're doing the right thing. Girls like that are morons. Best avoided.

[maferotaku]

because we girls are like that, we have your attentiion then suddenly we don't have it anymore. and we want it back because it makes feel important.

[stillagoodgirl]

If you've made your intentions clear and direct more than once then just stop & move on

[yaddayaddayadda02]

They flirt again because they miss the attention. They want to keep you hanging around buying the coffees and hanging out.

You keep doing what you're doing - but ask them out before you start buying all the coffees and hanging out.