I want a relationship and he wants to focus on school?

[Cubsfan92]

I have a crush on one of my coworkers. He is a bigger guy but he is sexy he carries himself well he's a nice, chill easygoing guy. I told a couple of my girlfriends I liked him and wouldn't mind being in a relationship with him...well the next day I find out my one friend told the guy I liked him and wouldn't mind being in a relationship with him. She told me he just smiled and said he already knew I liked him he also said she's cool and I love my Mexican girls but I don't want to be in a relationship right now I want to focus on school, he is very goal oriented and has plans to open his own business (HVAC/Electrician) What 19 year olds are self assured, confident and willing to work hard to be successful? He is a rarity and I respect a man like that. I guess you would call me a tomboy I don't like to fix my hair up or wear much makeup...I love watching sports and running.(I want to be a sports broadcaster) I am the good girl I don't smoke, party do drugs or sleep around I'm picky when it comes to the men I want to be with I can't be with somebody who is a junkie I have WAY to much respect for myself to be that dumb. Anyways even after all that he still says hi to me when he comes into work even if I'm super busy and multitasking, he remembers all the little things I've said to him. A couple weeks ago I went to Kohls with my mom so she could pick up a couple of things and I asked the makeup lady who happened to be working on somebody what my colors were and she was adamant on doing my makeup so I said yes (I'm Mexican but I have an olive tone to my skin so I'm often confused for being German or some kinda mix of Mexican and White the makeup artist thought I was Greek HA!) Everything went well her personality was bubby uplifting and sweet which is everything you would expect from someone in that business ( I've always had redness in my face and a bit of darkness around my eyes but when she was done it looked amazing I felt so GLAMOROUS! she kept raving about how she loved my cheekbones (she said the redness was because I didn't moisturize and the darkness around the eyes were most likely allergies and that they could be cleared up if I took the right allergy meds. She Kept referring to me as her Marc Jacobs and when she was done she brought me around the store to show the other ladies who worked there she wanted to take a picture of me for her porfolio! I was honestly so f'ing shocked when she told me I could do some modeling on the side to help pay for college. Well after we left Kohls I took some pics of myself and put them on Facebook ( I'm friends with my crush on FB) and the next day he made he was really talkative and was joking around trying to make me laugh. He has gotten his hair cut he rarely wears his glasses now and smells like cologne when he gets into work. I really want to be with him but I know he doesn't have the time for a girlfriend between school and work we've never openly talked about my feelings for him but he knows and he knows I know he knows...now what? BTW: I'm starting college myself in a couple of months.

Signed, hopeless romantic

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

He would have asked already. It's my feeling that if anybody, guy or girl, is truly interested that they will make the time. So... move on.

Honestly, I think you're idealizing him too much. I mean yeah it sounds like he's a great guy and focused but maybe it was easy for him to fall into the HVAC industry because his folks are already into it.

I could've done more as a young man if I had some direction but my parent's are immigrants working in the labor industry so they didn't know what to do with me. They just told me to go to school. So here I am with no direction trying to find my own way through life. Didn't help that I wanted to start working... mom threatened to kick me out of the house unless I went to college lol. All I'm saying is that maybe this dude had some doors opened for him that helped him see things better. :o)

There are plenty of guys with the same drive. They don't all wear their resume on their sleeve though, obviously, so it's hard to find them. You found this guy because you work together.

[washize]

HE doesn't want to date you. It sucks I know. But that is the end of it.

You're going to college, you'll meet someone there if its that important. You should be more focused on school though. There will not be a shortage of men anytime soon.