A Letter To My Younger Self

[Anonymous]

Hello my former self. To myself, when I was a kid;

Don't worry about being shorter than everyone else. In 8th grade you're gonna start growing. Fast, and much. You are gonna end up being a little taller than most of the girls and some of the boys, and you're gonna hate it, but you're gonna make your peace with it. Enjoy your time as a shorty, but look forward to being grown and beautiful. I know you have a little more fat on your stomach and hips and thighs than the rest of the girls, but dont worry, once you start growing, you will have long legs and more harmony in your body. You'll get boobs and curves later than the other girls, but dont worry - it'll come.

I know you go home and cry when you hear that the boys in your class like your friends, over and over again, and no one ever likes you. You feel left out. You feel ugly and annoying. But guess what? In 9th grade 6 guys are gonna tell you they like you - to your face, all on them over the time period of one and a half year. One by one. Some will even start crying while telling you and others will try to kiss you, you are going to be one of their first love's. You are going to say no to them, cause you don't like them, but in a nice way - and this gives you strength and confidence. You are gonna get a lot of compliments about your looks and your personality. You'll have many friends.

You're gonna kiss a boy in a drinking game, and you're gonna regret it - but he just has a crush on you, and he's gonna try and get you to kiss him again you for a while, so be nice to him. But don't do anything you don't want to. And don't hold back on the things you do want to.

Treasure your time with your family. Grandpa won't be with you for long anymore. He isn't gonna get to see you blossom, but he got to see you grow into a funny, creative kid - which you will later on wish you once were again.

You will be making some hard choices when it comes to which paths you will choose in life. But dont worry about the exams - you'll ace it.

You'll have wonderfull things to look forward to - and more to come than I can tell you now - but one thing is certain, - just stop worrying about the little things. It'll stop you from seeing what's right in front of you.

Best of luck

Your older self

[Anonymous]

I'm happy for you that your looks eventually changed in a way that got you more attention from boys. Sometimes good fortune does come to those who wait and bails us out. It doesn't always stay bad, things that we don't like about our circumstances are sometimes only temporary.

[TomBradysJersey]

I hope in a couple years that I can be comfortable enough with who I am to be able to write something like this, because right now I am insecure.

[myTake Owner]

You shouldn't be. Brighter times are ahead. You seem like such a sweet guy

[TomBradysJersey]

You see I have adults tell me that and some of my friends that are girls well. I believe that I am, but it has NEVER gotten me anywhere. I think I'm to blame for that.

[myTake Owner]

Where do you want it to take you?

[TomBradysJersey]

A relationship

[myTake Owner]

Maybe try new things and meet new people, and dont have high expectations for anything. That way great things will hit you when they come. As you read in my letter I was insecure and never thought any good would happen to me, and I went from 5-10 on the happy scale so quick. You hardly ever get the things you want in life right away, and thats life - but other good things will surprise you, when the time comes, that you never knew could happen to you. All you have to do is live. The rest will come

[TomBradysJersey]

Yeah but I'm a guy the odds of me being approached are low. So is my confidence. I've never been in a relationship and I don't do hook-ups

[myTake Owner]

This sounds cheesy but if you seem like a guy who believe in himself and aren't afraid to talk to other people. People will most likely notice you and will want to hang out with you

[TomBradysJersey]

And that is my issue I'm normally at events but I'm the shy guy.

[myTake Owner]

Thats good. Its your personality , so you can work on that. Think: Why not just belive in yourself and be more outgoing? You can either go forward or stay where you are? Why not try it out, and if it doesn't work after a few months you can always stop it again?:)

[TomBradysJersey]

I don't think it is as simple as that. My heart wants to love but my mind tells me I'm not worthy of it. I'm not a homebody most of the time, so it's not like I'm living in my basement.

[TomBradysJersey]

And I'm only shy at first. I believe I'd be outgoing if a girl wanted to get to know me

[myTake Owner]

but maybe you should try to get to know the girls instead of wait for them to come around. From personal experience, if a guy is shy and doesn't put as much effort into trying to get to know me, as I do into getting to know him, I get the feeling I am bothering him and stop hitting him up. The thing with shy people is that you never know if they appreciate you being there, or if they want you to f off

[TomBradysJersey]

I know that I got to know her I would be upfront with her. Right now my confidence again is my biggest issue. Also I don't expect girls to make move on me

[myTake Owner]

No but things would change if you would put more effort into friendships and relations - I know guys like you

[TomBradysJersey]

I put effort in to friendships. Finding a relationship seems unlikely for me. My mind is very weird and complex. And I know it sounds like I'm complaining but this has been my experience so far. I'm not like the other guys around me.

[myTake Owner]

I know exactly, how you are. Another guy I know is the exact same way, I kid you not. Us girls usually talks about how he is so attractive and sweet he should just be more out there. It is literally the only thing you need to work with

[TomBradysJersey]

Confidence?

[myTake Owner]

Yes. Its a mental thing. Really

[TomBradysJersey]

Yeah as you can probably can tell, I don't have it. I thin I'm slowly getting better

[myTake Owner]

You shouldn't just say 'I dont have it there's nothing to do about it I suck'

Its a good thing you're are getting better and working on it

[TomBradysJersey]

Yeah, very slowly. Let me ask you this, do girls care if a guy is inexperienced?

[myTake Owner]

Nice girls won't care at all - as long as you are easy to talk to and fun and caring, all is good.

[TomBradysJersey]

Yeah I guess I worry about stupid shit sometimes

[myTake Owner]

Don't - it's what's holding you back

[TomBradysJersey]

Yeah it's what has held me back since I was 15

[myTake Owner]

Thats not even a long time. You are good to go, if you worry less about what will happen and try new things and believe in yourself

[TomBradysJersey]

Small steps. Thank you

[myTake Owner]

You're welcome. It's all about having yourself with you the hole way. Babysteps if it is what it takes

[TomBradysJersey]

And believing that I am worthy

[myTake Owner]

Exactly

[Dim1213]

My advice to my younger self is only 2 things. That girl that tells you that she likes you is not teasing and making fun of you. She actually liked you enough to tell you. The other is even though your shy take some time and work on it chase you will always be shy but the more you learn the easier it gets.

[Vickychan]

A letter to my younger self
when you grow up you'll still be very insecure.
Best of luck (:

[scooogy]

With some girls, I wonder what might have happened to them earlier in life that they became the way they are today

[Anonymous]

A letter to my younger self:

Hold on to yourself because this is going to hurt.

[John_Doesnt]

I wish I could tell my younger self not to lick those poles.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Dear younger self, learn to live with yourself and be more daring.

[Anonymous]

Put down the fork

[10dsw]

HAHAHAHAH that's so true (according to my married friends)

[GirlThatDraws]

Dear younger self,
Stop being fat and ugly. Just eat your damn vegetables. And stop acting retarded

[LifeKy]

This is literally me!

[Sabretooth]

don't take the summer of from ged.

[myTake Owner]

What?

[Sabretooth]

that's what i would tell myself

[myTake Owner]

I don't get it - care to explain?:) I'd be happy to hear

[Sabretooth]

i met a girl i began falling for-she started going to ged after i stopped for the summer. you're not suppose to to... and i wish i didn't-she moved after 3 or 4 weeks-found her after 4 relentless years. i screwed up-i knew she was having issues-she denied it... til a few days later. a lot was at stake-and despite my intentions-i said horrible thing-i was not thinking clearly-my mind was in a fear induced haze-like kids trying to pull a toy from each other. i think it could've been easily fixed-what i didn't count on was her family making me out to be the damn devil.

[Anonymous]

My letter to my younger self would read as follows

"Figure it out"

[Anonymous]

that grandpa part was so sad