The chasing game.. help

[Anonymous]

first I made him chase me, now I'm the one chasing him and he thinks I'm annoying and clingy. how can I switch it around and make him chase me.. when is it too late for this game to work?

[Malcom_Reynolds]

One thing I will say is that he can't chase you if you're already chasing him. The nature of games is that you never know how they're going to turn out. I try to avoid them.

In the case of the chasing game, some people play it just for the game and some play it with the intention of catching or getting caught by the other person. If this is the history of your relationship then it's nearly impossible to tell which he's doing.

However in either case, person A will only chase person B for so long. If you stop chasing him, you will force him to make a move, either he can start chasing you again or he stops playing the game. If he starts to chase you then the game continues and it's your move. If he stops playing the game then you're in an awkward position. You either start chasing him again, or the game is over.

I'm not actually sure if you actually like him, or if you just want him to chase you some more. Either way the game will eventually end with one of two outcomes: the chaser catches the chased, or the chaser gives up and the chased gets away.

This is why I don't like games, they're confusing.

[fly_high]

Wow, I don't know about the asker but this answer sure did help me, thanks :)

[Anonymous]

I think this game should stop all together, cause if you think of this as a game just to feel like a golden prize, then you're putting yourself high up on a pedestal to feel like you're more of a human being than he is.

If a girl made me chase her, just for her entertainment, I would of been moved on for good and stay single for a while. Playing these games is how two people get into arguments.

[Tapster]

Unfortunately, it might be too late, when a guy already thinks the girl is annoying and clingy, it is very difficult to change his mind about her, trust me.

You'll have to take this step if you want to try to save it,

You have to leave him alone for awhile,

that means, no looking, talking, calling, no nothing!

Try not to think about him too, go out with friends and have fun! Do something! Anything but think of him so you won't be tempted to contact him in anyway.

Let him be for awhile, cause you'll only make him dislike you more the way your doing it now.

You have to give him space, and if there is some hope, he might miss you,

BUT again as I said it before it might be too late.

If he ends up later missing you and talking to you again first,

let me know and I can help you get him back.

But if he doesn't and things stay the same even when you do leave him alone,

it is for the best to move on because his mind is made up, it might sound harsh but it's for your own good. Hopefully though that won't be the case but there are no promises in this situation.

Good Luck.

[Anonymous]

how have you chased him. how did he chase you. just curious as to how you guys have a balance. if he's playing a game he could be pretending but of he's not he's really tired of paying- but for real like how did it work so far?

[rockalong]

Jus make things simpler with him... if yu wanna switch dis thing around, jus play hard to get and bam he comes chasing after you... If this doesn work , tell him a little latr how yu feel... problem solved

[Asker]

Well what if I send him a text basically saying I'm done, will that bring him back

[rockalong]

Nop that won't have any effect on him at all... if he thnks yu are annoyin and clingy , then it won't work...do this: if yu are in a party wer he has also come , jus make him realize what a beauty yu are or speak to him with your eyes showing how much you like him and when he comes near you pretend that you ignore him ... do this for a while like 2 or 3 days... then let him know for real that you like him a lot.... mess with his head !! and he is yours :P.... Guys esp go for girls who confuse them :)

[GIntrovert]

Why play games? Tell him what you want, and ask him what he wants..

[Killfest400]

Indeed. This kind of thing is exactly why "the game" is bullsh*t.

[Anonymous]

You can stop and make him chase you again, it does get tireing after a while...usually its a good idea to quit after a while and give in...

[Louise123]

It's a game. Move on. :-)

[bBop345]

Stop chasing him. He'll wonder what happened.