Are women more attracted to guys who act disinterested in them? (Page 2)

Question

This is based on something I saw a woman briefly talk about in a Take she wrote. She was saying that females like it when a guy doesn't show a lot of interest because they like the idea of trying to tear down his wall. I guess like hard-to-get but with the woman being turned on by that.  I do know that actually has been true for me when I really was disinterested in some women I've known but not others. What do you think?

Tephra · Answer

In most cases I believe its true that girls like guys who play hard to get; especially the girls who can easily get guys. They would like alittle challenge trying to get a guys attention.

Girls who have a harder time getting guys or hate playing mind games would immediately lose interest and walk away from him.

Depending on what kind of girl your talking about can vary but most girls on GAG can agree playing "hard to get" is immature and unappealing

Robsinsf53 · Answer

I know that when I was married & commuting on public transportation, I'd be sitting in my own seat, minding my own business and I would get a lot of attention thrown my way. I obviously never reacted to any of it being as how I was married. It was the wedding band I think because I only got the attention after our marriage.

Ruthless1 · Answer

I think women want to believe that they are not attracted to this type of guy. yet FB, and IG tell a different story. now to answer this question yes objectively would be inaccurate. however I will say subjectively yes. I have encountered too many attracted to the bad boy type, the untamable. and then complain that there aren't any good guys left. respect to the real women whom don't fall victim. and my regards to those who do. 😒

Underduress · Answer

I am going to separate gender from this because I think this one goes both ways. I think that if someone is dominant, lack of attention will turn up their pursuit until they finally get the memo. If someone is submissive then lack of attention will immediately cause them to lose interest. There is a lot more to it than that but nobody wants to read all the bs I could write about it.

TheMoroccangirl · Answer

I don't know in what kind of world she lives, but as far as I know it makes me lose interest drastically 😂. There were guys like that, at the first sight I liked them but once they kept appearing disinterested, my interest just decreased abnormally till the point they're just friend-zoned.
A guy who showers me with attention would be boyfriend material.

Kuraj · Answer

That's simple science.
If you display too much interest in a woman you will seem like the smaller catch.
You need to appear indifferent just enough so that you appear out of reach to the woman, so that when you do get interested in her she can feel good about herself for landing a superior male.

There are women for whom this does not apply, they are the "pampered princess" kind, avoid those as they are a very unreliable investment.

_olivia_white_ · Answer

In my opinion it's a turn-off if the guy didn't look interested in you. I like it when guys make me feel like I'm wanted.

DizzyAster · Answer

I think she's only talking about half of the story.
In reality, women (and men, no homo) like men who have a life and a purpose. That means he has something more important than she is, something grander, like world peace, high status careers, or reaching the top of the leader board.

That means they have a passion about something, and passionate people are a ton more interesting than not.

Iwjwamo · Answer

He need some to be 50/50 but just a little bit more interested than not to keep her hooked.
Too little attention she'll lose interest. Too much will lead to the same thing. To keep her hooked show attention then distance. Alternate

KateSkellington · Answer

I think it varies from woman to woman. For me, I like a guy who shows interest and gives me attention, basically I like them going after me and not the other way around but I'm sure there are women who like to chase just as there are men who like to be chased. There's nothing wrong with that, in fact I think it's cool that the roles have switched ☺

anglca__ · Answer

this is actually more rampant in my circles than liking bad boys. and I could see the appeal really.

I think the mysterious aura is what gets the woman interested. I even have a friend who gets turned off once the guy returns the affection or becomes overly affectionate.

jaydtre · Answer

Nah, women like guys who are on their shit. Taking care of grown man business and not always being readily available is attractive to them. This shouldn't be confused with being disinterested, when the guy has a lot going for himself then the girl will wanna be apart of that.

awesomespoken · Answer

I believe there is some truth to that. Evidenced by the women who enter abusive relationships. However I also believe that a woman would also never admit to it. The proof is in the comments. Think about it: if they admitted to be interested in disinterested men, then men would stop making an effort, then girls would lose the niceties of dating; having a man at her beck and call because he is interested in her. Effectively forfeiting the upper hand in the dating world.

Sweet_Nothing · Answer

Absolutely not. I get disinterested once they act like that, I'll even run the extra mile if I found out they were doing it in purpose to illicit feelings of want in me.. haven't got time for these childish games

Anonymous · Answer

Personally no, there is nothing less appealing to me then chasing someone who isn't interested. I don't want him desperate and drooling, but knowing he's as into me as I am him is a must

Freya_Martin · Answer

If a guy acts like "hard to get" kinds, I wouldn't bother myself much trying to decode him. That would least turn me on. 😇 💕

henryo · Answer

The actual thing there is that from experience the women I have actually lasted long was because I kind of lost interest immediately they give in and also when we had intimacy (f**k) so they will start chasing me and I like it that way. And if you don't give me attention at first I will ignore immediately.

intoxicatingen6 · Answer

Depends I was in a situation like that with a guy we liked each other mutually at first when we were dating but after that he became distant and I felt like he was not interested anymore. I started liking him more and would post more on instagrm to get his attention. Thankfully I've gotten out of that hole 😂

TuMeManques · Answer

Not at all. I'm super shy so if he acts like that I'd completely cross him off my list of possibilities

TheIceCreamQueen · Answer

No. If you love me, I shouldn't have to chase you down to give me attention. Fuck that.

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