Are women more attracted to guys who act disinterested in them? (Page 2)

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This is based on something I saw a woman briefly talk about in a Take she wrote. She was saying that females like it when a guy doesn't show a lot of interest because they like the idea of trying to tear down his wall. I guess like hard-to-get but with the woman being turned on by that.  I do know that actually has been true for me when I really was disinterested in some women I've known but not others. What do you think?

ASEXY · Answer

I don't think that's true about all women. But there have been a lot of girls who were attracted to me even though I was clearly not interested in any of them...

HikerDude · Answer

No, they're attracted to guys who have high status in some way.

Catie101 · Answer

I don't know why, but I think I am more attracted to guys who don't show a ton of interest. They have to show SOME interest, but I seem to really go for guys that seem like more of a challenge lol

Naydyonov · Answer

Definitely, a mix. I was talking to a girl, and so when I'd stop calling/texting she'd be like "Dennis wtf talk to me"
I start talking more often to her and it's alright.
I start giving more attention and she starts her "I'mma avoid you a bit then talk to you because I'm interested then I'mma leave again"

yeah so fuck

Shiba1490 · Answer

No. I'd rather the guy be upfront about if he liked me or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys are too!
I heard it's a psychology thing that people perceive someone giving them all that attention as low value and they can find better.

I've noticed this too. The guys I'm all over keep me at a distance while the guys I barely notice try to get my attention!
Sadly it happens in the reverse. When a guy is all over me I feel kinda smothered but when a guy seems kind of interested like barely, I want to talk to him more.
Maybe I like the chase, I don't know but I'm trying not to

Valkyrie1 · Answer

I tend to think if a guy isn't interested in its my problem and I just got to get over him.

tumblrrr · Answer

I like it when a guy give me a lot of attention at first and makes it clear that he likes me and I act neutral but when a guy begins to show disinterest or less attention I panic and start chasing

maestrodematimaticas · Answer

For a fact they do. I made it a point to not act overly interested until they do it first. Nothing better that when a girl you like blows up your phone.

Peachman · Answer

i read the same thing somewhere I guess its something like thrill of the chase or something

FakeName123 · Answer

Yes, it can create initial, superficial attraction. But its something that fades off just as fast.

vijo29 · Answer

you can't generalize this like this. If the girl had some sort of contact with the guy then maybe in the future if she sees him with others this will arouse her jealousy. not because he is different but because the lady would want to know why the new girl the guy picked is better than her. yet ignoring is just rude and not human

bryangerman95 · Answer

hell yes.. its basic psychology; women feel the need to validate thier worth and impress a guy thats uninterested, where as if she has him fully enganged then she feels she can do better and is too good for him.

Pandagirl9175 · Answer

in my opinion, I don't like a guy to be disinterested, like I want to know that he cares about me/isn't annoyed by my presence, but I don't like it when he's too desperate and annoying. Just being nice in general and not a snob is a good rule of thumb

Prof_Don · Answer

Those women are "challenge" lovers, which is a big red flag for me

momo770 · Answer

I think some women are fickle and it's an attraction for them. I like guys who like me.

Lilwarrior · Answer

No this is the dumbest thing I ever heard she most have watched to much twilight. If a guy is interested so am I assuming I like him. If he's not then I'm not wasting my time or playing games. Girls in high school like to do that not woman

archiz · Answer

I have a tendency to think that all guys are interested in at least sleeping with me😝😝 Over inflated ego much 😂

jackastro · Answer

women prefer guys that don't act interested usually because they see it as unusual... if a guy isn't hitting on you, he must therefore be a keeper because he's got so meny options type of deal.

LifeLearner · Answer

I think it depends on the woman. Not all women are the same. Some like when guys do that and some won't even try to do anything if she sees that you are not interested in them.

jason15300 · Answer

Yes because guys always want something they can't get it. For example if there was car you couldn't afford, you will have desire to want it even more than a car you could easily afford

HonestGirlAlways · Answer

Can't speak for other women but that wouldn't work for me. I like attention and being pampered lol.

adab_ · Answer

I have noticed I like guys who are kind of hard to get but at the same time who I have common interest with and or if he has qualities that I am lacking.

ksam93 · Answer

yes, i have faced it, if u follow d girl, she runs away, if u ignore them, they come close... true story

burntgold · Answer

Well for me I usually end up getting attracted to guys that have no interest in me but that's not because of the disinterest they show, it's just because their physical appearance is pleasing.

Pizzalover101 · Answer

Sum are I've had girls the more I dint pay attention to them try harder an start tring to make small talk saying things like being single an where are all the good guys

Wolframium · Answer

Well, I hope that’s true, since I’m not interested in anyone currently, so, girls, please, stop throwing yourself on me. Man can handle only so much. :-)

Babsie1984 · Answer

It would turn me off if a guy was super needy. I like it when a guy shows interest but is independent and doesn't "need" me if that's makes sense?

redsox490 · Answer

I don't know how women act, but for me personally. I hate it when girls try to play games with me. Please just tell me your true feelings and if you like me. It will save both of us a lot of time.

reixun · Answer

We are more attracted to boys who have dignity and aren't desperate.

Anonymous · Answer

not after like 5 minutes it gets old and then we think you're not into us

Anonymous · Answer

I actually do like men who doesn't seem interested. I dont know the reason. Maybe its what you said or maybe i just love torturing myself

Nic0le97 · Answer

Honey go find u a mature woman, because nobody has time for mind games :) Its either she is interested or she isn't

bente2 · Answer

I think this is true. Indifference is often confused with confidence and unreachability.

AshrafWest · Answer

No, B*tches are. Ladies are attracted to gentlemen. The same way b*tches are attracted to m*therf*ckers

Kenni · Answer

we just like someone who plays hard to get, just like you do. we don't want get attracted to somebody who completely turns us down.

Margillard · Answer

It definitely ratttles them if no body is interested in them.

goodtimee42 · Answer

it's hard to say maybe at times but for the most part I think women want to be appreciated but that subject to change

Robbey · Answer

I've never been like that.

Ccmama · Answer

I guess it all starts with the good old saying that "we want what we can't have."

akadatank44 · Answer

Yes some women. Those that I don't and probably you don't want to be with. Hence when they fear losing you, they go for a Hail Mary pass to see if it works or doesn't.

Halumi5 · Answer

Show a girl you don't care and she will chase you, show a woman you don't care and she will replace you!

Xtownsen · Answer

Dat is true if you do act distance they come to you sometime not all the time.

ElleB · Answer

If someone I like seems disinterested I move on and find someone else

Samyelson · Answer

The idea of a stupid game to be played for dating disgusts me, and being rejected for not playing agitates me. There is no winning for me. 😞

TheDevilInside · Answer

Ummmm no. I need attention

MenAreMysterious · Answer

No. Why would I go after someone who appears not to like me?

karahiri · Answer

Not me. I take no interest in me to mean... move on.

lord_chilled · Answer

From my experiences, the only guys that get chased by women are the guys who ignored said women. Weird, but true. The only other way to get girls is by appoaching (which is what 99% guys do)

LilyArsenic · Answer

heck no!!! if you show interest its quite a confidence boost, if not then it kinda hurts.

Apope16 · Answer

Great question dude. I always sende chics are needy and like attention.

Anonymous · Answer

not who ACT, but who ARE, but not exactly disinterested more like zero neediness and having real abundance of experience with females.

seagreen · Answer

Personally I am not attracted to guys that act disinterested but I don't know the other women's feelings about that issue.

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

She's lying! That's the stupidest thing I've heard here! She's probably perverted. How is a girl going to know he's interested if he acts disinterested? Same for guys.

Anonymous · Answer

For me this is a definite yes! I don't know why, but once a guy starts to show interest in me it turns me off from them. Wish it wasn't this way though!

pooper89 · Answer

No I just assume he's not interested

the50wattbulb · Answer

Thats something you can't really answer without generalising people.

tenebrisscriptor · Answer

I do like that, but if you're trying to apply the hard-to-get you need to at least give me a clue that you're definitely into me, so I can play that game too. See who falls for the other first.

pjmax07 · Answer

I believe that is true. Because women usually are attracted to independence, its not that a guy is disinterested but that they are independent enough to not chase after them.

Anonymous · Answer

i just dont like a clingy boyfriend bc i want to be the one to cling on him

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