There's this girl who has a thing for my boyfriend. calls him "bub", "sweetie" , "hunnie"...

[hopeisallwegot]

comments on EVERY status on his fb, does things that she knows would grab his attention..

worst thing is, my boyfriend confides in her when WE have problems. for the first time, I realized this recently when we had a fight, and he cried on her shoulder.

she knew we were having problems, and continued to call him hunny and sweetie and bub, knowing I would see. she NEVER speaks to me.

my boyfriend says even if he was single, he wouldn't go for her for long term, maybe just date her and have fun, she used to send him dirty pics before he met me, also, she's pregnant and he says she just needs a friend so he's helping, but cried on her shoulder when we fought, instead of talking to me about the issue.

WAT SHOULD I DO!

[SectumSemprae]

He shouldn't be confiding in her when you fight; that's personal business he's putting on display for her. Tell him that he should be confiding in YOU when you fight, and work things out with YOU, rather than go running to someone else - especially someone who makes you feel so deeply uncomfortable. Maybe you could explain to him why you feel uncomfortable, and ask if he set some limits on what intimate details he shares with her about what goes on between you two.

Another thing ...next time he goes to see her, ask if you can come along. That way you're not telling him he can't be friends with her or anything ...but you're making it clear to both of them that you are a part of his life. It is up to him if he cherishes you this way. He should; if he doesn't, then he is just hurting you and isn't worth your time.

[Anonymous]

You should probably break up with your boyfriend, this guy is messing around with her behind your back. He is obviously doing something to encourage her behavior and really ain't doing a good job at hiding it either. if he's not messing with her now, I bet money he would if he had the opportunity and thought you wouldn't find out. he knows what's going on here...this girl is not the enemy here, you need to be mad at your boyfriend

[noasarch]

I wouldn't assume that he's messing behind her back instantly,so either talk to him about her or talk to her and say its not appropriate of her to act like she does and call him names like cute etc...

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

I'll tell you what you shouldn't do, don't tell him to remove her as a friend, that will just scare him away.

All I can recommend is to try your best to have less problems and you could tell him how uncomfortable you are with him being so friendly with this woman who he has a past with, he should understand.

[stercor]

He's made his choice --- her.

Let him bear the responsibility of his choice. Let him date her and have his fun. Then see if he's there when the baby is born.

She's no real friend of yours either, doing what she does on fb, then ``comforting'' him.

[l-hedoniste]

He needs to distance himself from her. Female friends are okay, but not THIS female friend.

The next time you have problems, he'll be crying into her crotch. That's her plan, anyway.