I've been talking to a guy for four months - we live three hours apart so we have only had the opportunity to meet once.
He says a lot of things that make me feel special. For example, he once said that it is rare for him to meet up with people, and when I said it's rare for me too, he said "Guess we're made for each other". Or, when he complimented me once, I jokingly replied saying he is easily impressed and he said "Forgive me for not going around checking out women". There are multiple occasions when I say nice things about him and he says he'll "take the compliment and take me with it". That's just a few examples.
However, I have been getting really bothered because he is literally surrounded by women. He follows a lot of girls. When he posts a photo, a lot of the likes come from girls. He has female friends, one of his best friends is a girl, and most of them don't bother me because I can truly see they're platonic. But others really put me on edge. In particular, there is one girl who has a fitness account who he never fails to like a photo on, and some of the pictures are so revealing.
Since we're not exclusive (that would be crazy after meeting once) he technically isn't doing anything wrong. But I am the type of person who has a lot of pride and I don't want to come out of this looking like a clown if I found out it was all a big act. I don't want to get my feelings hurt because, of course, after four months of talking I'm starting to get attached and like him more, especially considering the stuff he says to me. The idea of me being so emotionally vulnerable with him, sending him selfies, complimenting him and hyping him up, and accepting his compliments to me when he's talking and saying the same thing to other girls makes me feel kind of humiliated.
My question is - is it possible for a man to be surrounded by girls and not be involved with them? I keep telling myself it is, but I think I'm being delusional and if so, I think I need to cut him off.
