cuz I foubd his answer the only one that truly addressed the issue, obviouslly no ones answer is any better than the next, because its all opinionated, but especiallyy look at the earliest girl comments, most all of them are blowing wind and talking about nothing I asked, thx for the question tho
Guys, as you know, when it comes to girls, think first with their d*** and later sometimes with that nodule on his shoulders. Only a girl can answer your question. I could never trust any guy's d***-oriented answer to your question. If you didn't like the answers you were getting from girls, further clarify your question and/or tell them their answer did not address your question. I didn't read that 'best answer' because it came from a guy.
as before stated the girls gave no answer or attacked me for being on the internet and that's why I can't get girls. ima guy, I have a d***... you read my comment
idk basically its because we're dumb x) confident guys do tend to be a**holes but we're drawn to them because they give off the vibe that when you're around them you're privileged and lucky to be associated with them. basically if you yourself think you're worth being with, other people will think so too. plus confident guys tend to be more manly, which is assicated with being protective and hotter in general. hope this helps (:
I am not say that it is true, but it is a general reason why girls go for confident men over quiet boys. I am sure some shy boys can provide and protect, but that type of personality is not what women are "taught" to go after.
That's another problem with a lot of the women I know these days. They're "taught" to go after something. Why not just go after what you WANT to go after. If you like the shy guy who can provide and protect then go for it. You don't need to follow rules and go after what society has told you to go after.
I am not saying women are taught to go after a certain man, but are taught to associate a certain attributes to confident men. If shy guys could somehow display the abiltiy to provide and protect without being confident then they too would get the girl. However, I am not too sure how that would look. AnywaysThe issues with shy guys is, that women don't know if they can provide or protect. I it is a reasonable assumption to see shy guys as non-confrontational, thus not being seen as a protector.
Look at the animal kingdom, females who are not pursued will never mate. The males do the pursing. Although for humans, both genders pursue each other. The confident guys pursue more females then the average guy simple because their courageous. Girls like a person who are able to chase them because it provides them a sense of security. (If they ever are faced in a life or death situation, the male will protect them)
Also, girls don't date guys who are d***s. They date guys for their d***s.
hmm, I disagree with your statement for several reasons. *looks at animal world* female arachnids wil typically eat the father (whos courageus there?). also being outgoing has nothing to do with
A.) ability to protect (I knock the sh*t out of plenty "confident guys")
B.) they aren't courageus at least the ones I'm talking about use a girl dump her and leave her to fend for herself... great helper
Well, I'm a girl and I was recently wondering this myself. But what I can tell you is, guys who are d-bags, are completely full of themselves and have no problem going up to a girl. Girls like to be persued, because we don't like to feel like we're clinging or creeping on you, so for shy guys, how are we supposed to know you like us or would like to pursue a relationship? It's not like we prefer these guys over guys who will treat us right, it's just that if we get the vibe that you're not into us, then we're not going to push it on you.
So my advice for shy guys is, if you get the vibe a girl likes you. She most likely does. I'm not saying to act like one of the d-bags, but put your shy-ness aside, because GIRLS LIKE GUYS WHO WILL TAKE CHARGE. End of story.
maybe its just me but I don't think being shy doesn't mean you won't take charge. I know what your saying tho, let me tell you something that you already know but may not have thought of.
ladies can read body language about ten times better than men can, so when that shy guy seems like he is not interested he may not even realize your into him. it may seem extremely obvious to you and maybe it is but its just another thought to put things into perspective.
The nice guys are generally selfabsorbed douschebags who if given the chance they would be d***s if they had better game. They lack the patience to woo a girl into loving them and instead they are constantly begging and pestering women to love them. Since the vast majority of women lack self-esteem, they enjoy d***s because they are not expected to love them.
Women with healthy levels of self-esteem like descent guys who treat them well but who have backbones. Sometimes I test a man's douschebaggery by acting like a bitch and if he demands respect from me I fall for him.
hmm, if your a bitch though hardly any guys are gonna want you, whether or not you are really a bitch, sum shy guys have backbones but they rather not be d***s... however many are just scared they will make a fool of themselvees
There is a difference between confident and cocky. Confident just means a guy who will pursue a girl he likes. Cocky is a guy who tries to push her around like an asshole.
look at my definition of confident... those guys get a lot of girls, but the shy quiet guys do not... of course not ALL of the guys that girls claim to be confident are d***s but as I said the vast majority are
You're on here posting questions, while they are out there meeting girls
You're bitching about how girls don't want you, while they are out there meeting girls
see my point?
They get the girls because they TALK to the girls. Not stay at home in front of their computers
and don't confuse confident with cocky. and don't confuse shy with not confident
Who doesn't want someone confident? Would you want a girl that asked your opinion about every little thing? Someone who calls you every 5 minutes to ask what you thought? Would you want someone who has trouble talking and communicating? No? Then why should I?
oy vey another one of you... sure I'm on the computer now, why? because I am supposed to be doing homewrok and just got back from a party where I had sex with some random girl (savannah), sooo... no I'm not not meeting girls I'm just wondering why girls wanna be with guys like I posted above. I've talked to like 5 girls on here and about 3 of them say that either there dad or boyfriend has beaten them... yes I would like a girl who's got trouble speaking to me because she likes me, thts cute imo
The guys that are out meeting girls have good looks and that's what good looking women care about the most.
I don't care if my woman isn't confident. As long as she looks good and loves me and we have a lot in common and has a big heart then I will stay with her. And I don't care if a woman called me often. I love to feel like I'm needed.
The guys that are out meeting girls have good looks and that's what good looking women care about the most.
RIght cause all we want from a guy is someone who's hot, not someone we can actually talk to and have fun with. With that attitude, you'll never change...
the people who got offended and voted this answer down are the babbies who don't want to accept the truth. Grow a pair of balls you pussies, she's right!
boy wwho the f*** do you think your talkin to? I bust you right in yo mutha f***ing head bitch, keep runnin yo jaw, yo moma did the same sh*t when I f***ed her had that mouth open the whoe time!
Lol, really mature "ladsin" I can see why you're in the under 18 section. Perhaps if you actually did your homework instead of going out and messing around with imaginary women, you might be able to at least respond in a dignified manner. The woman you describe in your childish response below, would certainly not be the same woman who actually raised "Asailum" who apparently has enought balls for the both of you. Another imaginary woman perhaps?
why would I be mature? as you can see I'm under 18, I'm not a mature old person and neither will I act like it... ima be me. to your question... why do you think I'm at home all day on this? do you have any proof? I posted a question on here, well obviously then your immature and need to grow up and stop commenting irrelevant things in peoples questions
This is actually very true. The reason men don't get women is because they become bitter & angry with women. I get so tired of hearing about men complain about women, as if men are so much better than women. The negative energy is just driving women away. If you want a woman, try appreciating her instead of insulting her. You say your nice to girls & really like them, but complaining about women contradicts this. Women like confident men because they don't downsize women to feel better.
the asker never said girls don't want him or that he is a shy guy he's just asking hey why is this like this. and you are confusing shy with spineless and clingy.
why do you assume people that are online never go out. I go online regularily but I also go out regularily.
also why do you have to be such a bitch and assume you know everything about the asker
Not entirely true but if you come off like a p**** then they will leave you. Lets face it, they already are the p**** in the relationship. If they wanted to be with another pussy, they'd go for the p**** they could lick. Speaking of which, I have some p*rn to go view now.
i dnt lyk guys tht are d***s but I do lyk a confident guy. guys tht aren't confident complain a lot they always tlkin bout wats wrng with them and a confident guy kno he look gud and he's sexc lol my boyfriend is confident bout himself and he cares bout me a lot
Bad Boys suck. My heart was broken by one and I am not a idiot so I won't just bounce back to those types of guys. I would much rather have a sweet and slightly insecure guy who cares about me.
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you should seperate terms confident and cocky. you're saying that only guys who are not nice are "confident".
I think your judjement is bad, maybe you had some bad experience or something...but that's not the situation.
girls will eventually allways choose the good guy who will treat her right.
A.) I said "confident" and I gave a definition from what I have seen. Of course not ALL confident guys are like this but the question is obviously strictly referring to them.
B.) Eventually? why would any guy want to wait for her to CHOOSE the guy who will treat her right.its like getting sloppy seconds she runs to all the guys who have "confidence" who bang and ditch or even just emotionally take loads of her love. it sucks
well half of them like nice guys and half do not.untill they realize what they want, yes you need to wait.
if a girl is not worth it then of course you shouldn't.
from all I can see you think all girls are like that. and you ARE wrong. if you keep on with this belief forever then you're not gonna get anywhere. only because you might like a girl who is into "bad boys" doesn't mean all of us do. go look for one worth of your attention.
I don't think a guy who is confident has to be a d***. When it comes time to settle down girls want a confident guy who is also sweet
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confidence doesn't mean the guy is a d*** or a douchebag...confidence is in his demeanor the way he hold himself and the way he goes about doing his thing. The way he believes in himself and his ambitions. Insecure pricks are the d***s and douchebags bruuuh. just because a guy is shy doesn't mean he isn't confident.
I think people are confused as to what confidence means
well, I always fall for the non-confident people or guys who would never approach me on their own. Although, that usually means me stepping up to the plate, which I'm very shy. But, it's totally worth it in the end.
Because if a man is not confident or comfortable with him self it means he is not in a good place in his head and can not be there for some one else if can not be there for him self,
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Why did you choose the Best Answer from a guy when only a girl or girls could properly answer your question?
cuz I foubd his answer the only one that truly addressed the issue, obviouslly no ones answer is any better than the next, because its all opinionated, but especiallyy look at the earliest girl comments, most all of them are blowing wind and talking about nothing I asked, thx for the question tho
Guys, as you know, when it comes to girls, think first with their d*** and later sometimes with that nodule on his shoulders. Only a girl can answer your question. I could never trust any guy's d***-oriented answer to your question. If you didn't like the answers you were getting from girls, further clarify your question and/or tell them their answer did not address your question. I didn't read that 'best answer' because it came from a guy.
as before stated the girls gave no answer or attacked me for being on the internet and that's why I can't get girls. ima guy, I have a d***... you read my comment
idk basically its because we're dumb x) confident guys do tend to be a**holes but we're drawn to them because they give off the vibe that when you're around them you're privileged and lucky to be associated with them. basically if you yourself think you're worth being with, other people will think so too. plus confident guys tend to be more manly, which is assicated with being protective and hotter in general. hope this helps (:
I think confidence sometimes get intertwined with being able to protect and provide.
hmmm. but I know a lot more guys who are quiet that are a lot stronger than loud/ confident guys... thx tho
I am not say that it is true, but it is a general reason why girls go for confident men over quiet boys. I am sure some shy boys can provide and protect, but that type of personality is not what women are "taught" to go after.
hmm, interesting thx for answerin =P
That's another problem with a lot of the women I know these days. They're "taught" to go after something. Why not just go after what you WANT to go after. If you like the shy guy who can provide and protect then go for it. You don't need to follow rules and go after what society has told you to go after.
I am not saying women are taught to go after a certain man, but are taught to associate a certain attributes to confident men. If shy guys could somehow display the abiltiy to provide and protect without being confident then they too would get the girl. However, I am not too sure how that would look. AnywaysThe issues with shy guys is, that women don't know if they can provide or protect. I it is a reasonable assumption to see shy guys as non-confrontational, thus not being seen as a protector.
Look at the animal kingdom, females who are not pursued will never mate. The males do the pursing. Although for humans, both genders pursue each other. The confident guys pursue more females then the average guy simple because their courageous. Girls like a person who are able to chase them because it provides them a sense of security. (If they ever are faced in a life or death situation, the male will protect them)
Also, girls don't date guys who are d***s. They date guys for their d***s.
hmm, I disagree with your statement for several reasons. *looks at animal world* female arachnids wil typically eat the father (whos courageus there?). also being outgoing has nothing to do with
A.) ability to protect (I knock the sh*t out of plenty "confident guys")
B.) they aren't courageus at least the ones I'm talking about use a girl dump her and leave her to fend for herself... great helper
Well, I'm a girl and I was recently wondering this myself. But what I can tell you is, guys who are d-bags, are completely full of themselves and have no problem going up to a girl. Girls like to be persued, because we don't like to feel like we're clinging or creeping on you, so for shy guys, how are we supposed to know you like us or would like to pursue a relationship? It's not like we prefer these guys over guys who will treat us right, it's just that if we get the vibe that you're not into us, then we're not going to push it on you.
So my advice for shy guys is, if you get the vibe a girl likes you. She most likely does. I'm not saying to act like one of the d-bags, but put your shy-ness aside, because GIRLS LIKE GUYS WHO WILL TAKE CHARGE. End of story.
maybe its just me but I don't think being shy doesn't mean you won't take charge. I know what your saying tho, let me tell you something that you already know but may not have thought of.
ladies can read body language about ten times better than men can, so when that shy guy seems like he is not interested he may not even realize your into him. it may seem extremely obvious to you and maybe it is but its just another thought to put things into perspective.
The nice guys are generally selfabsorbed douschebags who if given the chance they would be d***s if they had better game. They lack the patience to woo a girl into loving them and instead they are constantly begging and pestering women to love them. Since the vast majority of women lack self-esteem, they enjoy d***s because they are not expected to love them.
Women with healthy levels of self-esteem like descent guys who treat them well but who have backbones. Sometimes I test a man's douschebaggery by acting like a bitch and if he demands respect from me I fall for him.
hmm, if your a bitch though hardly any guys are gonna want you, whether or not you are really a bitch, sum shy guys have backbones but they rather not be d***s... however many are just scared they will make a fool of themselvees
Lol wow =)
There is a difference between confident and cocky. Confident just means a guy who will pursue a girl he likes. Cocky is a guy who tries to push her around like an asshole.
look at my definition of confident... those guys get a lot of girls, but the shy quiet guys do not... of course not ALL of the guys that girls claim to be confident are d***s but as I said the vast majority are
omg another one of these questions? really?
Here's why
You're on here posting questions, while they are out there meeting girls
You're bitching about how girls don't want you, while they are out there meeting girls
see my point?
They get the girls because they TALK to the girls. Not stay at home in front of their computers
and don't confuse confident with cocky. and don't confuse shy with not confident
Who doesn't want someone confident? Would you want a girl that asked your opinion about every little thing? Someone who calls you every 5 minutes to ask what you thought? Would you want someone who has trouble talking and communicating? No? Then why should I?
I concur
oy vey another one of you... sure I'm on the computer now, why? because I am supposed to be doing homewrok and just got back from a party where I had sex with some random girl (savannah), sooo... no I'm not not meeting girls I'm just wondering why girls wanna be with guys like I posted above. I've talked to like 5 girls on here and about 3 of them say that either there dad or boyfriend has beaten them... yes I would like a girl who's got trouble speaking to me because she likes me, thts cute imo
The guys that are out meeting girls have good looks and that's what good looking women care about the most.
I don't care if my woman isn't confident. As long as she looks good and loves me and we have a lot in common and has a big heart then I will stay with her. And I don't care if a woman called me often. I love to feel like I'm needed.
The guys that are out meeting girls have good looks and that's what good looking women care about the most.
RIght cause all we want from a guy is someone who's hot, not someone we can actually talk to and have fun with. With that attitude, you'll never change...
ummm... I still didn't get any recognition...
the people who got offended and voted this answer down are the babbies who don't want to accept the truth. Grow a pair of balls you pussies, she's right!
boy wwho the f*** do you think your talkin to? I bust you right in yo mutha f***ing head bitch, keep runnin yo jaw, yo moma did the same sh*t when I f***ed her had that mouth open the whoe time!
Lol, really mature "ladsin" I can see why you're in the under 18 section. Perhaps if you actually did your homework instead of going out and messing around with imaginary women, you might be able to at least respond in a dignified manner. The woman you describe in your childish response below, would certainly not be the same woman who actually raised "Asailum" who apparently has enought balls for the both of you. Another imaginary woman perhaps?
why would I be mature? as you can see I'm under 18, I'm not a mature old person and neither will I act like it... ima be me. to your question... why do you think I'm at home all day on this? do you have any proof? I posted a question on here, well obviously then your immature and need to grow up and stop commenting irrelevant things in peoples questions
This is actually very true. The reason men don't get women is because they become bitter & angry with women. I get so tired of hearing about men complain about women, as if men are so much better than women. The negative energy is just driving women away. If you want a woman, try appreciating her instead of insulting her. You say your nice to girls & really like them, but complaining about women contradicts this. Women like confident men because they don't downsize women to feel better.
the asker never said girls don't want him or that he is a shy guy he's just asking hey why is this like this. and you are confusing shy with spineless and clingy.
why do you assume people that are online never go out. I go online regularily but I also go out regularily.
also why do you have to be such a bitch and assume you know everything about the asker
im just going to ignore that comment by the cheshirecat, because that was the stupidest sh*t I ever heard
Not entirely true but if you come off like a p**** then they will leave you. Lets face it, they already are the p**** in the relationship. If they wanted to be with another pussy, they'd go for the p**** they could lick. Speaking of which, I have some p*rn to go view now.
i dnt lyk guys tht are d***s but I do lyk a confident guy. guys tht aren't confident complain a lot they always tlkin bout wats wrng with them and a confident guy kno he look gud and he's sexc lol my boyfriend is confident bout himself and he cares bout me a lot
Bad Boys suck. My heart was broken by one and I am not a idiot so I won't just bounce back to those types of guys. I would much rather have a sweet and slightly insecure guy who cares about me.
you should seperate terms confident and cocky. you're saying that only guys who are not nice are "confident".
I think your judjement is bad, maybe you had some bad experience or something...but that's not the situation.
girls will eventually allways choose the good guy who will treat her right.
two things to point out.
A.) I said "confident" and I gave a definition from what I have seen. Of course not ALL confident guys are like this but the question is obviously strictly referring to them.
B.) Eventually? why would any guy want to wait for her to CHOOSE the guy who will treat her right.its like getting sloppy seconds she runs to all the guys who have "confidence" who bang and ditch or even just emotionally take loads of her love. it sucks
well half of them like nice guys and half do not.untill they realize what they want, yes you need to wait.
if a girl is not worth it then of course you shouldn't.
from all I can see you think all girls are like that. and you ARE wrong. if you keep on with this belief forever then you're not gonna get anywhere. only because you might like a girl who is into "bad boys" doesn't mean all of us do. go look for one worth of your attention.
well confident and being a jerk is different. everyone has a different character. stay confident and nice
I don't think a guy who is confident has to be a d***. When it comes time to settle down girls want a confident guy who is also sweet
confidence doesn't mean the guy is a d*** or a douchebag...confidence is in his demeanor the way he hold himself and the way he goes about doing his thing. The way he believes in himself and his ambitions. Insecure pricks are the d***s and douchebags bruuuh. just because a guy is shy doesn't mean he isn't confident.
I think people are confused as to what confidence means
pheromones maybe? :P
hahaha:P I dt know honestly... I'm attracted to them too! although once he starts being the d*** that he is I bail :P
im usually a good judge of character so I wouldn't date d***s buuuut sh*t happens...
haha tru tru
Confidence is not to be confused with arrogance. If there is any lack of respect on a guy's part, I won't stick around.
confidence and arrogance often go hand in hand though
Sometimes, but not always. That's the thing that separates confident, nice guys from confident, assholes.
I don't have much to add to this, BUT. I've wondered this same thing for a LONG time.
well, I always fall for the non-confident people or guys who would never approach me on their own. Although, that usually means me stepping up to the plate, which I'm very shy. But, it's totally worth it in the end.
Because if a man is not confident or comfortable with him self it means he is not in a good place in his head and can not be there for some one else if can not be there for him self,
what if a shy guy is confident with himself... I completely disagree with your answer