Girls, Touching her in her sleep?

[Anonymous]

Hey, I got a question.
In my last relationship my girlfriend was really into me touching her while she was sleeping. And I really liked it and it turned me on too. Gently touching her while she's sleeping where ever I want... I especially enjoyed gently massaging her breasts, caressing her back and her hair, laying my hands on her butt or kissing her really really lightly. xD
But what do you girls in general think about this. Would you enjoy that too in a relationship (where you are already sexually open to each other)?
If yes how would you want to be touched while sleeping?

Yes, I would like if my boyfriend would do such things while I sleep

No, I wouldn't want my boyfriend to do that

Updates

+1 y

Little update just to be clear.
She agreed to it and was actually the one who brought it up in the first place. I think it's sexual molestation to do such things without a clear permission and this question is more about after your boyfriend (or girlfriend) would have asked and told you he likes such things, what would you want

[Xoxocutekitty]

I like the physical touch but I don't like the expectation that someones been up and ready to have sex and I'm supposed to within 2 minutes of waking up (probably tired af) be reved up just because I opened my eyes like once. Touching is nice, intimacy is nice, but in relationships guys always forget that they have to put the same amount of time and energy into foreplay as the first time. No most get lazy and are like I've tapped that before, she knows I want it, let me just take it because its mine and NOT think about proper foreplay. Oh she's not in the mood right now? I'll blame her for blue balling me. I wish there was a way to ingrain in men that all acts of sex are mutually exclusive. Like you made her come once? Congrats doesn't mean if you do the same exact thing next time it'll work. Women aren't machines. It's not a on or off button, it's learning how to read a compass while being dropped off in a different location each time.

[Asker]

I just love to touch the girl I love. To feel her skin, to caress and kiss her and when laying in the same bed with her not have to be afraid I may touch her in an "unappropriate" way. I love to touch, caress and kiss her back, her hair, her arms, her hands, her belly, her shoulders, her face and lips, her neck and yes, also her breasts, butt and womanhood. Carefully and only if she's okay with it. Why do I like to do it? Cause I just want to explore her body, to touch her, be close to her, smell her, maybe tease her a little and to see how her body responds.
BUT I never mentioned that I want to have sex with her while she sleeps or that she has to be ready for anything after two minutes or even to wake up in the first place. I said "touch" and even if it's a turn on for me, that doesn't mean I'll blame her for anything. I'm perfectly fine letting my boner be boner and to just be amazed by her.
And yeah you're right that foreplay is important. Just as important as sex itself. To me sex is all about conection and love and I'm more a giver than a taker when it comes to it. It really arrouses me when she has a great time but she'll only have it with a good amount of foreplay and affection put into it. And just thinking about having sex with and uncincios person makes me feel uncomfortable. So... I really don't know why you bring all that up. ^^'

[Xoxocutekitty]

I added it because there are people who aren't content letting a boner be a boner. Like you said, you're a natural giver, but there are a lot of people (girls too) who call themselves givers because they count how much they give and expect to cash out in sexual acts if you know what I mean. These are the people who feel entitled to things because they consider sleep caressing foreplay and they count the amount off time they wait as being "selfless". Im not criticizing your behavior, it seems you have perfectly intact intentions, I just wanted to add in perspective why some women may not that action. You say it with the intention of physical expression of love and i don't doubt that one bit. Yet, because of malicious intentions experienced previously with that specific physical behavior, some women may not initially register it a "selfless" act love. Even though your intentions are pure, some people do natually have preferences of a more verbal or concrete acknowledgement of consent because they define it as mutually exclusive (not an encompassing touch and go as you please policy). I don't mean to criminalize the behavior, just show why some people have different perceptions of your intention based on prior experience.

[Asker]

Hm, okay, gotcha.
But I gotta say that I think that every person in this world would get frustrated over times if the whole thing is too one sided, I experienced that myself. You can't always give and never get anything in return. Be it with intimacy or anything else. Everone wants to feel loved, cared for and wanted in a relationship. Otherwise it won't work, will hurt and if your partner doesn't consider your feelings there, count as mental abuse over the long run. I don't want to defend things like blue balls, someone who expects things just because he/she was nice or gave something and especially not someone who cheats or talks his/her partner into, or even does something to them, they don't want... Things like that are never justified.
But I think people should try to understand first.
Sorry for being a bit salty, but to me these things felt unjustified to a question which didn't feature taking an unfair advantage of someone or "giver"-/blue-ball- whining in the slightest and like you were putting words in my mouth I didn't say.

[Xoxocutekitty]

No worries. And I realize I come as rather extreme. I'd like to think that most people don't do these things intentionally but think of it like the story of snow white. Everyone knows there was an evil lady who gave her a poisoned apple. Snow ate it. In this parallel, Girls who have heard this story are brought up being told to question every free apple that is given to them. boys while not listening to princess stories climb trees and learn that giving apples after a hard days climb is a chivalrous gesture. Girls that have eaten poisoned apples in the past are much more suspicious of all apples (it doesn't matter from who) and girls that haven't will probably end up thinking all apples are a good thing, thus making the existence of a bad apple less credible, because the assumption becomes that apples, giving apples, eating apples, the intention is good.

[Asker]

No no, you stand up for the things you say and I respect that. But anyways, you maybe want to further discuss this in the dm's? xD

[sageevalentine]

I'm a touchy girl. Not in the emotional sense. But when I'm with my boyfriend, he just can't keep his hands off me. He's always holding onto my wrist, and hugging me. Or everywhere we go he's got his hand on my waist. And sometimes when I'm washing my face or just doing my makeup, he'll be stroking my legs. I really like it. When I asked him, he just said that he really likes my skin. I quite like it. He's a bit older than me, and very tall and broad-shouldered, and it makes me feel safe.

[Asker]

I don't exactly know if you've read my question, but that really sounds damn cute. I'm just like him when it comes to touch. xD

[TarrAva]

Once the intimate part is over and out, I need my sleep and in no case will I want and accept to be awaken by unsolicited touching in my sleep.

There is a time for everything and my sleep is sacred to me. I make it clear to my partner that I will not tolerate unilateral interactions.

Also, I need to sleep alone, meaning no spoon position because I am generally too hot at night. And, being the little spoon also has its problem because the big spoon tends to poke the little spoon for some common spooning...

[Anonymous]

I guess if you like it. But how would I know since I’m asleep

[Asker]

Good point. xD

[Anonymous]

To me if I'm sleeping with that person why not. Literally
Never had sex or anything like that. but when im married i wouldn't mind.

[candycanehearts]

If i knew he was doing if lol i would b creeped out if i woje up to it

[311WasAnInsideJam]

That's literally sexual molestation.

[Asker]

Well, it's not. My ex agreed to it, otherwise I wouldn't have done it.

[311WasAnInsideJam]

Well then, carry on.

[Asker]

Well, that relationship doesn't exist anymore. So I was just courious what other girls think about it since I'd really like if my next girlfriend would be into it too.

[Special-patato]

I wouldn't give a shit if we were dating

[Special-patato]

Thats only if youve been intimate before. If you haven't gotten to that stage, don't do it