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That picture is hilarious. LoL!
No, she wouldn't be a turn off for me because I too am needy, clingy and desperate.
It would be a match made in heaven.
Lol thanks, I thought it's a common one that people have seen many times before already. So I guess you understand what it means to get attached to people easily? What are you're views on it, how does it feel?
I haven't thought about desperate or needy but if she would call me every 3/4 hours a day i think it will annoy me.
So you see it as a "Turn off" then? I don't think anyone would call you 3/4 hours a day lol they'd get fed up and annoyed themselves by doing that...π
For me it's not the attention itself, but that it seems to wear off right around the time that I become interested.
Why don't you consider it a "Turn off"? It wears off because she's comfortable that you're not going to leave her...
Yes that would be undesirable. I would prefer a more independent partner.
Why's that? What if she only desires you're company, time and attention?
I am an introvert. I need my alone time. I want her to respect that. It will damage the relationship if she is 24/7 around me. I want her to have other interests other than me. She won't be mine for long if she is into me as me as you describe.
What if she's Just a friend And not a partner?
It isn't a turn off per se but I don't like the idea of her always counting on me for things but not do a little herself.
What if her happiness was tied to you and the way you treat her? What if she was so attached that she wanted you to be around everyday to keep her company and to talk to her?
If she is needy like every second she needs to talk to me then yea cause I like to be by myself sometimes
Loads of guys Just don't like it that way, they don't like having to talk and spend time with her everyday unless he gets something out of it.
i would love her even more i have never had a girl like me to that extent
Lol I believe you're saying that because you've never had a girl get attached to you before...
No, personally, I like it because that means I'm really dear to her.
Exactly right. Loads of guys see it as a bad thing especially if they don't like her. They Just don't understand. They're always like "Tell her to stop caring about me, cause I don't care" and whatnought...π
Yes, I'm quite the opposite. It's something that I value a lot. The only way it would be a problem for me is if she did not leave me some breathing room at all. Everyone needs time for themselves if they want to remain healthy. Don't bother with guys who don't value your attachment in my opinion.
Ahh I see, so it's only guys that are Jerks that would say something like that. Gotcha ππ»
More like guys who aren't ready for all the responsibilities that go with a relationship. Some guys just want relationships for what they want (sex or things like that) but don't care about their partner's needs. I'm not that kind of guy.
But what if the guy is already in a relationship and the girl that's attached to him is single?
But I totally agree with you. There's not many decent guys left in the world. All of them want to use a girl then dump her like trash like she doesn't exist. I've given up on guys to be honest, I've had enough of their games. Non of them really want me for me, they Just want me for what I can give to them. It's sad...π
What are they, friends? If so, I think it's fine but don't expect to get priority over his girlfriend.
About guys, just because you had bad experiences does not mean the rest of the batch is bad. Focus on identifying good men and bad men, learn to differentiate them and things should be less stressful for you.
Of course the priority would be low. It's expected to happen. So you say that her getting attached to the guy with a girlfriend would be okay?
Yes, what's the matter with being good friends? As long as it does not interfere or sabotages the relationship, I think it's fine.
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing π, but another thing came to mind... It's only if the girlfriend doesn't get Jealous that some other girl is attached to her guy π
Yes, that's why I said as long as it does not interfere with the relationship. Now, if the girlfriend gets jealous, I think it's up to the guy to sort things out. Personally, because I'm loyal, I would never cheat on someone and I would rather break up, I don't see why a female friend would be a danger and I would do my best to explain that to my girlfriend. I would do everything to keep both my relationship and my friendship intact.
Yeah exactly, but guys always handle things in not so mature ways. They end up ditching the female friend for the girlfriend. Which becomes unfair. I've seen almost every guy do this, the girlfriend is always a high priority lol, so much so that he has to get rid of the female friend and not talk to her ever again. Yes, a female friend wouldn't be a threat, but an attached female friend WOULD be a threat, which is why this type of situation requires hard thought. Obviously you're way of thinking is mature, but all the others guys would ditch the female friend for the girlfriend if they were in that situtaion.
Bte sorry for my late reply life gets busy lol and I was flooded with notifs.
No problem. Yes it's unfortunate but, usually, if they do that, it's because their girlfriend is giving them hell on their side and they prefer the "easy" solution. Personally, I feel that the best way would be to invite both my girlfriend and the friend in question so that I am less of a middle man and so that things can get sorted more easily.
As the guy, you're basically being "attacked from 2 sides", you're being the middle man and it's an awful position to be in. I would just have a chat with both in the same room so that we can clarify things and, in my opinion, if someone is cheating, they would try to hide the person they are cheating with. I don't think they would just openly show who they are cheating with so, to me, it's an extra proof that I'm not guilty of anything.
Yeah, it's true guys always look for the easier way out, even if it means giving up on someone. Especially if someone is bugging him too much, but you have to admit guys will almost always pick their girlfriend over some other girl no matter what lol. And Yes I agree to what you're saying, that would be the best way to clear things out.
Yes, it's true. Personally, I would rather try to keep both, even if it means having to deal with a more complicated situation.
Yeah, that's sincere of you. It's a shame not every guy is like you or thinks like you do.
Aww, thank you! It's just I don't like conflict and I'm that kind of "idealistic person" that hopes that we can all be friends or nice with each other so I try my best so that people feel at ease.
You're welcome! π and that's the type of attitude everyone should have β€
Aww, stop it, I'm going to blush :)
Sorry...π π
I'm just playing with you, it's okay. :) It's just that negativity is already so abundant in this world and it spreads so easily. I just want to counter that by bringing positivity and kindness to people around me as much as I can. Who knows, maybe that little positivity I brought to someone made their day or even changed their perspective on the world or gave them hope. That's why it's so important to me to bring positive things to others as much as possible.
And that's a good thing β€
Thank you!
Nope i can get pretty attached as well depending on if theyβre a friend or girlfriend
I think she should channel that attatchment and clingyness into something physical. Dont text too much, dont, but feel free to ask questions. If they really love their boo, they should express it in person.
Lol but what if it isn't their "Boo". What if it's a female friend, acquaintance or someone they've newly met, know for a few months and is already getting attached?