What does it mean when a girl says she doesn’t want me to get too attached?

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I've been getting to know this girl for about a month and a half now and we’ve been getting close lately, we have even had talks on starting a relationship. The other day she told me she had some news about moving back to Atlanta soon. She said she wants to continue what we have going but doesn’t want me to get too attached. She even told me that it was best for me to talk to other women and not just her. What does this mean😔?

TheLawAroundHere · Accepted Answer

Son, what we have here is an unfortunately situation. The reasons are few.

1. she's never even gonna see Atlanta on a map again. she's just laying the ground work for if or when her "other man" either works out, or doesn't.

2. She is already involved with 2 or more guys and doesn't want to look like a whore.

3. If she is rooting for you to get a side piece, then she already has her main squeeze locked down. In that situation, you sir are her side piece.

there's a few more. But u get the jist, im sure.

Sorry man. Its never fun to think of your one and only banging 3 dudes at a time.

Its a shame what a woman will do with her snatch. Meaning, torturing men. Women hold such power over us... and they dont even know it! Thank god they dont, huh? They would unite and kill off all the men, except for a few specimens kept for breeding.

Sensmind · Accepted Answer

I am hoping I am getting context right - I am assuming that Atlanta is a fair distance away - I think what she is saying that she doesn't think a long distance heavy relationship will survive (where ideal is eventually you will be able to settle together somewhere) - Possibly she is saying "Lets keep having fun and when I move back to Atlanta maybe a Long Distance Relationship on Friends With Benefits terms"
The thing to find out is why she doesn't think a serious relationship won't work which could range from (1) She is not that into it to (2) She is scared to commit and ending up hurt if things go wrong.

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

She’s basically saying that you’re a great guy and enjoyed the time that the two of you had together but don’t expect a serious relationship
just wanted something casual. She doesn’t want you to get too attached because if her intentions is not to be more than what you guys have there wouldn’t be any guilty conscious on her behalf since she gave you a heads up.

It’s best to do as she said and literally speak to other women and move on because she’s more than likely is going to do the same. If you remain in contact you’ll be putting yourself at risk because you will give yourself false hope that she may change her mind.

Save yourself.

Grande_Beefy_Swirl · Accepted Answer

It means she's got a life going on and she cares enough about you not to hurt your feelings as she tries to do what's best for her.

If i had to guess, I'd say it's because long-distance relationships (including friendships) are hard to maintain and, when you're going through the stress of moving to a new town, you might not have the energy to go through all of that at the same time.

I think she's doing you a favor by being honest. Don't get attached. It's clear she's doing her own thing.

Mad respect.

Apope16 · Answer

It means she just wants sex. Not a relationship. Never ask a girl for a relationship. just give her a good time and quality sex. Make it her desperate idea. She just wants sex. She has no romantic feelings for you and likely never had. So just enjoy it. If you wsnt a relationship you might need to move on. With that said, if you never talk about a relationship and she continues to have fun... the right around 2 months she will start to fall in love. She will test you by inviting you out with her friends. Because you have talked relationship stuff them you have set yourself back a month. Just keep having sex. Never bring up relationship talk. And see where it goes. Dont get your hopes up too high though.

peachy13_xo · Answer

So basically all the answers on here are some what right. What she’s saying is basically she doesn’t want you getting too close to her, because she’s moving back and she probably can’t do long distance. So she’s actually nice for telling you this so that you don’t get hurt in the long way. Start seeing other women, and maybe drop this one. She doesn’t want anything other than sex untill she moves away. Best of luck!

tiffany_g · Answer

It means she wants to keep things going until she moves but she's not going to try the long distance thing. In other words, she wants to stay together while she's there but that relationship has a time limit on it.

Daniela1982 · Answer

You are actually asking one of these "What does it mean" questions when you already answered your own question? It means don't get too attached as she is moving.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

She is cutting you loose, bud. Take her advice, spend some time away and distance yourself from her and start hanging out less to lower your attachment to her and then start talking to new women.

Will make things less painful when she eventually ends it and goes to Atlanta.

invisibleboy7 · Answer

It means what it means people tend to wanna hold on to things cause they r afraid they will loose them. We all want to feel wanted and if we don't we break and cry she wants to be your friend but also wants you to be strong enough not to fall so in love with her that someone gets hurt. Try to make it work but don't try so hard.

TheFlak38 · Answer

It means that attention from just one man is not enough for her. She needs thousands of orbiters showering her vagina with attention. Try to get into the mind of this girl. DO you believe she thinks about attachment and long term relationships or marriage? No. She wants to travel the world and fuck with a billion men until she's 30 and ready to settle down with the nice guy who finishes last.

Sarad89 · Answer

Means she is saying " Dude, don't show me too much care and emotion, although I need that still if you continue doing that I will drop you ". So, beat thing is to be easy on her and make her a less priority till the time she values you again and needs you. This is a cycle which you must maintain to retain your girl. Occasionally love her too much, then leave for a moment, again do it, till the time they enjoy this thing or drama whatever.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Ka-THUD! That is the sound of the Friend Zone door slamming shut.

She knows she has you wrapped around her finger and she led you on to get her attention-wh@re fix. Once she locked you in she decided to move on the next victim.

My advice, start baning one of her close friends! Watch her attitude change rapidly.

Kewlkaelyn101 · Answer

It means she doesn’t see things going very far with you. She knows at some point you will be disappointed and possibly hurt when you find out you and her do not have the a mutual interest in each other romantically.

mornings98 · Answer

She's not looking to pursue a long term relationship with you. Been through a similar thing with a guy. I didn't understand these red flags at first but I want you to know that you shouldn't make her your priority. Let her go.

slatyb · Answer

It means she enjoys your company but she's going back to Atlanta and doesn't want you to follow her. She doesn't see you as a long-term partner.

DiamondHu · Answer

She means she just wants to stay friends with you and is not interested in a realtionship, rough man.

Paris13 · Answer

It Means No Strings Attached, She wants her Freedom, Hun, To "Talk" to Others, To Maybelle Date. Continuance what you have Started but LDR is Hard Sometimes. See where it may Go... xx

MyExperience · Answer

It means she’s not going to get too attached. It’s actually quite thoughtful since she’s moving away.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I means you bought a one way ticket on the slow train to Nowhere.

ashley1616 · Answer

I like you, you are a good friend and I want to hang out with you but dont try and make me your girlfriend

chunlilovesvega · Answer

It means she likes to spend time with you but you are not her "one" and she still looks for another man while you keep her distracted.

Anonymous · Answer

broo, good thing she told you this, now you dont have to get too hurt, dont simp and dont get attached. because clearly she jsut hinted she is not down for a real committed long distance relationship. go look for another girl.

Киттйлинк · Answer

That she doesn’t really see you in her plans anymore.

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