Advice for the ugly teenage girl?

[Anonymous]

Do you have any advice for an ugly teenage girl?

I take care of myself, I eat healthy, exercise regularly, apply a little makeup and straighten my hair, but for some girls, that isn't enough. I know I am doomed dating wise because ugly girls are the ones guys use for sex or whatever cause we are sort of useless but I would like a little advice from someone who is older and in my position or anyone.

And please do not tell me that everyone is beautiful or that I have low self esteem because I don't. I have a great personality but personality will not work for much so please answer the question.

[creativeone2]

First off, I want to say that I think you're super cool to say it like it is! seriously!

Secondly, you are not a woman yet, and you're not completely filled out, so give yourself time.

Okay thirdly, there are "ugly" guys saying the same things about themselves... have you ever found a certain guy attractive that most girls wouldn't find attractive? People tend to date people that are on the same attractiveness scale as them... so there are men out there that are as equally attractive as you. Find these men! Here's the awesome thing about men who are not as attractive and/or un-experienced---they haven't slept with every std infected chick on the planet. And they will be more eager to please a girl once they actually get one! lol

Also, I want to add that I think it's weird how everyone is so scared of "ugly" people especially men... why do men seem so freaked out by an "ugly" woman. It's just strange! Most young, very young people are not as wise as older people, and they judge A LOT on physical appearance. As people age and grow up, they typically begin to understand more about life and how much more there is to it than meets the eye. Look at kids for example... the other day this 8 year old boy that I was babysitting told me that he wouldn't watch the Hunchback of Notre Dame because he doesn't like to watch movies with ugly faces! Now this is coming from a kid who has no wisdom to even understand anything beyond what he sees. In high school, kids were mean... in college they started to loosen up, they're more excepting, and beyond that they begin to see the entire picture of a person... but sadly the obsession with appearance never fully goes away... well maybe once we're in a retirement home and the only members of the opposite gender to check out are sagging like crazy! lol

Trust me though, not everyone is dumb enough to only believe what they see... Good luck and keep your chin up, you seem super cool to me and if you've got a vagina, a good attitude, and feel sexy... it will show.

[creativeone2]

And this is all written assuming that you do actually have a good heart and a good personality... from what I've read on here that you've written to other people, you should probably work on being a nice person. People definitely won't like a someone who is bitchy... that right there will kill your attractiveness before anything else.

[Anonymous]

first of all let me tell you that every girl if not then most, goes through this as a teenager. there is puberty, feelings on insecurity, and plus other immature friends and people in junior high bringing you down..ive been there I think everyone goes through it...and being 23...i can assure you that these feelings will go away and you will get past it, meet maturer new friends in life and the right people to hang out with.

you need some confidence. look at yourself in the mirror and point out all the positive things about you, as well as the negative. and realize that everyone has positives and negatives about themselves you can only be the best you can and be yourself, and people will love you for who you are.

[TheCoolioGirl]

Maybe you should kinda work on your personality a bit more. Reading your responses to some of these answers I can tell that you shoot to the defense VERY easily. Maybe you're not as ugly as you think you are. Maybe you just take things too personally. I can guarantee that’s a lot more unattractive than a not so pretty face. Not everyone is trying to offend you, k? And if they are, just laugh it off. If you think/act like you’re cute then people will sometimes even look past whatever ugly features you may have. I’ve seen plenty of unattractive girls and guys that have people chasing after them because they just like being around them.

[Anonymous]

My first piece of advice is to not have high expectations in life.Studies have concluded that attractive women get paid more than unattractive women, so set your expectations career and academic wise low and set your expectations of men low.

My second piece of advice is to not expect a relationship and if you do get into a relationship do not expect him to treat you like he would treat a pretty girl. us men are hard wired to protect and love pretty girls, so we biologically treat ugly girls differently. Do not expect him to be chivalrous or like a gentleman he may treat you like a girl friend but you would still be his girlfriend

My next piece of advice is to stock up on sex toys in case it doesn't happen

[Asker]

thanks

[creativeone2]

OMG why is this the best answer? Um..for every "ugly" girl there's an "ugly" guy. This dude is talking like every man in the world can actually get a "beautiful" woman haha...you are young, when I was a teenager I was butt ugly and fat, I honestly mean that! Now I get compliments all the time.. men ask for my number a lot too. Seriously, just take care of yourself and a guy will love you, just don't expect to date the next ben affleck but who cares, perfect looking men are usually douche bags!

[happykels]

this is awful, if you have self esteem like you say you do, you will not listen to this. women are more than just fragil* little sex objects. my advice is to go after what you want in life. put yourself first. become a successful, interesting person; learn about yourself and help others. you DO NOT NEED a man in your life. if one comes along, that's great, if not you still have so much to offer--embrace it.

[lizalotofpuss]

Hey honey coming from a professional when it comes to girls and there feelings thier looks ever aspect that comes to girls listen beauty is truly on the inside if u r ugly on the inside won't matter how beautiful u r on the outside there's an old saying that goes beauty is in the eye of the beholder what i see inside u will come out to make u the most beautiful girl ever dont worry about whatever anyone thinks about u whats important that u love yourself no matter the pimples freckles weight fat or skinny all girls r beautiful to god

[LilRedHead]

How about this. You're only as pretty as you make yourself. Great advice from my narcissistic mom, (surprisingly). But yeah, always strive for the best. Be yourself and be proud of it. Always shoot the best in careers and work hard. In America, we have the option of doing good if we work hard enough at it. I know what some people say, "that's not true." But it is. So you need to get off that pity party and just treat yourself good. Build some self confidence and get a great education.

[Asker]

I do have self esteem and treat myself good so could you answer my question or leave

[LilRedHead]

Wow, I did. Calm down.

[Shaun]

I think it's time you leave.

[Shaun]

Flagged offensive.

[happykels]

youtube "everybody is free to wear sunscreen". srsly, just trust me

[Anonymous]

I agree with the best answer.

relationship wise you will have to settle even if the guy treats you sort of bad so do not expect prince charming. maybe sleeping around is for you?

[Anonymous]

I've been attracted to two traditionally unattractive girls because they wowed me with their personality.

Stop talking about yourself like your trash.

[Asker]

I'm not lol I am just being honest I guess

[RoaringSpirit]

First of all, relax. You're probably not as ugly as you think. I was 28 before I felt attractive, I'm now 32. It'd be good to see a photo of you to actually help you out, but no pressure.

[Killfest400]

Well, judging by your responses to other answers on this question, I don't think "great personality" is actually one of your traits. You could try not being a sh*tty person, maybe.

[Asker]

I'm actually very nice so who are you to talk about nice when you are saying I have a sh*tty personality

[Shaun]

Buy stock in paper bag manufacturers.

[Asker]

byebye

[Shaun]

You'll just have to lower your standards and pick an ugly boy to be your boyfriend.

[Shaun]

So why no picture?

[Asker]

even ugly guys do not want ugly girls

and why do you need a picture? I am not trying to impress you pervert

[Shaun]

I'm not a pervert you f***ing name calling piece of sh*t. I want to see if you're as ugly as you make yourself out to be.

[Even-I-can-do-it]

That's easy. Find uglier friends.

[Asker]

what does that have to do with it?lol

[ParadoxicalSanity]

lol, he meant so you'd look hotter in comparison.

[DanHendo]

cant be that ugly... relax

[DanHendo]

just a message to who voted me down. Suckmah d*** that is all.

[Asker]

well I didn't thumb you down

[DanHendo]

well that's good to know..