This scene from the movie Gone Girl made me think of this question. a lot of people mostly men came away from this movie thinking the main female lead is a crazy sociopath. However a lot of women came from it feeling like they can relate to her and some going so far as to call her a hero. This speech was one of the highlights of the movie and a lot of girls seem to relate to it a lot.
the speech in written formSo basically the "Cool girl" just pretends to be a down to earth "one of the guys" type of woman and being into "guy things" just so men will find her more attractive.
Yes i have and still pretend to be the "cool girl" to be more attractive
I used to pretend to be like that but not anymore
I have never pretended to be the "cool girl"
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Girls have you ever felt the need to act like the 'cool girl' to be more appealing for men to date? guys have you ever dated a girl who pretended?
This isn't accurate. Her perception of the "cool girl" pertains to me. But I'mjust a nerdy tomboy. I grew up this way. I am close to my brother and cousin that are only 3 years older than me. I hung out with them and their friends since I was 7, had a few friends that were girls but they were tomboys as well. But in no way does any woman not get angry; only smile and let men do whatever they want. We are labeled as crazy for a reason.
I have pretended to be someone I'm not but for me it was the opposite way around. I used to try to wear heels and dresses/skirts, get into doing my hair and makeup. I don't pretend anymore. I've never been able to walk in heels tbh. I own one dress and no skirts that aren't lingerie/outfit type of thing. Its just not for me. But from my understanding, guys are more into girly females. The "cool girl" or tomboy ends up getting friend zoned more in my experiences. I honestly think most men believe they want a girl like this only in theory. There are exceptions but very few.
Everyone pretends something, I think. No one, or at least very few people are totally open, genuine and honest with who they are, what they think and feel and do what they want to do.
I don't claim to be above everyone and unique or anything, but the reason I say this is that living in this society for years and years I have been pushed down and had the society try to force me to be like them, to conform and fit in. I have seen so many people adjust themselves to fit in. Constantly. I do now, I play the game and sometimes I wonder how much of myself have I lost, and how much is still there beneath the facade I wear to make life easier out in public?
But I have also had many, many, many people tell me how brave I am, how much they wish they could be like me, how they don't dare step out or be out of line with what society expects.
So forgive me for more or less calling the poll a liar, but right now it says 0% of anyone is faking or being a cool girl, when my experience with both men and women is 95% of them are playing it cool 95% of the time.
... So this is in a movie written by a socially awkward man who believes this girl exists and might want to kiss him?
Just be normal. If he's into mountain biking, hell, give it a shot. If you're into dancing have him give it a shot, but this is just baiting to be inconsiderate by having the most extreme form of a loss of personality.
Haha, darn, I was hoping, but the truth is even worse: she's a shy, dancing yogurt cone girl who believes that this girl exists and she might be her!
Nah, I'm being a little mean about it, but I really don't agree with someone advocating against give and take in relationships or enjoying what the other one enjoys which is what this seems like (where you take an exaggerated form of something you dislike, convince yourself it exists, and preach against it as a deterrent for others who don't want to associate with what you've been railing against).
No, I’ve never pretended to be “the cool girl”. I’m the one who always says that I hated anal, how I tried it but it hurt like hell. Then I watch as the men and “women” alike explain how I did it wrong. “You weren’t using enough lube” (we were), “you need to relax, you just weren’t relaxed enough” (I was definitely relaxed, I took a soma). I also hate football, and I usually can’t stand any of their friends, and I don’t pretend otherwise. I blow him because I love blowing him, and because I know that he loves it when I blow him. I could definitely see pretending to like something just because he likes it. But I’d never pretend to be someone I’m not.
if your talking about high school and being a cool girl giving head was something you did to be a cool girl... it was pretty easy for a guy to get one in those days and just as easy to give one... it almost had nothing to do with love infact if you had a reputation as a girl who gave head you pretty much had to or they'd get pissed if you didn't... and this was mostly at parties... and it was considered not a big deal to give one but pretty much something you were expected to do to maintain your cool status.
I remember wanting to be the cool girl at like 13, because I had trouble fitting in in school and looked for validation from other people. The popular kids (both boys and girls) were that type of cool kid imagine. I haven't wanted to pretend who I was after I've left school, when it seemed like it didn't really matter anymore if I fit in or not. As an adult people either like me or they don't and it doesn't really matter.
I have never pretended to be the "cool girl". I'm not going to change who I am because of a man. If he likes me, he has to take me as I am. By the way, I liked the speech and I can relate to it.
I hate fake people. As soon as I spot any forced behaviours I'm gonna have a word with the faker. This usually makes things plain, but I really despise the practice.
Just be yourself who cares what other people think just be yourself not something that you're not such bullshit 😠 I like me so what if you don't I have to live with me you don't just my opinion ✌️
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