No, he isn't interested.
I'm not a fan of Friends with Benefits situations, because in most cases the girl usually either
1. Likes the guy before entering this agreement and hopes friends with benefits will make him fall in love with her (This rarely happens).
2. Starts to develop feelings for the guy, and wants a proper committed relationship (A proper relationship also rarely happens afterwards).
I can understand two people hooking up once or twice no strings attached situation or just testing the water. But friends with benefits is not good, because its a false relationship which usually ends in heartbreak.
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Donβt wish this guy a happy birthday. I had something similar with a guy years ago and I feel for you. I had to block him, delete all the memories, and walk away. Just realize he hasnβt committed to you, and only you, for this long so donβt ever count on it happening. I reached out to an ex on his birthday years ago once and it opened a can of worms. My ex immediately called me after I sent the bday text saying he realized he loved me and wanted to fix things, like a fool I gave him another chance. All because of that bday text. He said he saw it as a sign and had been wanting to contact me. It doesnβt sound like this guy would do exactly that to you, but who knows what that innocent text can bring. As far as him turning you down for sex, see that as a blessing in disguise. The Universes rejection is the universes protection.
I think a Happy Birthday text would be ok, but I would leave it at that. Some guys have a hard time being friends-with-benefits without becoming posessive, especially guys in western countries like the USA, because it is not so common there. I know how they think. They want you to be exclusive with them while they, of course, have other girls on the side.
This whole thing sounds crazy. You love him but don't want to get hurt, but you hurt yourself by being only friends with benefits. If you can't be in a relationship with him, find someone else. You are already hurt by this whole scenario.
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I get the impression it's going to be best for you to make a clean break from him so I wouldn't wish him a happy bday.
I don't see why not. Too bad you can't do a strip tease for him.
Sure but dont buy a gift. Even male friends say happy birthday to each other
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