I asked her out before she went on vacation and she said she was excited for the date & promised she would let me know which week she was getting back so we could set a time (place and activity already agreed upon). She didn't contact me for 2 weeks, so I reached back out in a Hail Mary. She responded by telling me she had already returned from vacation but made no mention of the date. I told her she was sending me mixed signals & if she wanted to still go out, great. If not, not a big deal but I want to respect both our times and not invest in something that won't go anywhere.
She insists she's interested so I gave a day, time, and location for a date 4 days ahead. She said she has stuff to take care of but would let me know. She does let me know the day of, but says she won't be able to make it. I expect this to be the end of it, but she tells me she will let me know when she is on-campus again so we can catch up (she commutes so we aren't on the same schedule).
A few days later after silence I run into her at an event. She gives an awkward hello, a hug, but won't really make any conversation with me. She finds an excuse to leave early. I text her afterwards trying to end it since clearly she is showing a lack of interest I tell her it's great to see her, she has my number if she wants to make something happen otherwise i'm not pursuing it further from my end. I expect to hear nothing since she now has no reason to contact me. After two days on read she texts me suggesting coffee the next week.
I say that this back and forth hot and cold isn't working and she needs to communicate because I have no idea where her mind is at with the flip-flopping and where we stand. She responds by saying she was confused and doesn't know why I was taking it (setting up a date) so seriously
Am I out of touch here? Or was she playing games? I feel I gave her ample opportunity to come through and she didn't, so at this point it was games but maybe I read it wrong?
She insists she's interested so I gave a day, time, and location for a date 4 days ahead. She said she has stuff to take care of but would let me know. She does let me know the day of, but says she won't be able to make it. I expect this to be the end of it, but she tells me she will let me know when she is on-campus again so we can catch up (she commutes so we aren't on the same schedule).
A few days later after silence I run into her at an event. She gives an awkward hello, a hug, but won't really make any conversation with me. She finds an excuse to leave early. I text her afterwards trying to end it since clearly she is showing a lack of interest I tell her it's great to see her, she has my number if she wants to make something happen otherwise i'm not pursuing it further from my end. I expect to hear nothing since she now has no reason to contact me. After two days on read she texts me suggesting coffee the next week.
I say that this back and forth hot and cold isn't working and she needs to communicate because I have no idea where her mind is at with the flip-flopping and where we stand. She responds by saying she was confused and doesn't know why I was taking it (setting up a date) so seriously
Am I out of touch here? Or was she playing games? I feel I gave her ample opportunity to come through and she didn't, so at this point it was games but maybe I read it wrong?
