According to an article in physiology today statistics suggest that the chance of a marriage being happy are no better than 50 percent. Women, research finds, have a lower chance of finding a partner to love than men. But they're also more satisfied with living as a single person.
Society pushes this idea we have to have a man and kids to be happy but the truth is our validation should be internal not from external things.
Another interesting fact is that a woman is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after a diagnosis of cancer or multiple sclerosis than if a man in the relationship is the patient, according to a study that examined the role gender played in so-called "partner abandonment." The rate when the woman was the patient was 20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient.
You have to really think to yourself. If I gained 50 lbs, if I got in a car crash and became paralyzed from the waste down, if I grow old, if I become sick. Would my partner still choose to stay with me? And if the answer is no than you’re partner doesn’t really love you. They’re for the streets 🚩
I know I’m young so this is probably not news to more mature women but it was just on my mind since I’ve noticed over the years numerous women in my family staying with men who are serial cheaters, in and out of prison, etc? Even some staying with predators
My theory is society through the use of media tries to teach us at an early age that any male attention is good attention and so men can just step on us and treat us like objects whenever so women later on end up put up with this disgusting unacceptable behavior thinking it’s normal.
Women, why do we settle for men that treat us like shit?
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All women dislike themselves and because we dislike ourselves, we fervently hate any man who doesn’t see through our bullshit. The more a man loves us, the more we hate him. The more he overlooks our sins, and the more he fails to see how corrupt we are, and the more he gives us the benefit of every single doubt – the more we despise him. We will escalate our bad behavior until we finally break him and he wakes up and realizes how worthless we are and what a fool he has been for believing in us. We want a man whom we can’t have. We want a man who honestly doesn’t give a fuck about us, who doesn’t care if we come or go. That’s the kind of man we will pursue. Call them bad boys or call them whatever you want, that’s the kind of man we want – period. The kind of guy who will make us orgasm, crudely, and give us a huge sexual thrill in the bedroom, and then discard us like used toilet paper, and fuck our female friends afterwards, just because he can. (Just like we would do with his male friends.). We are constantly poking, prodding and testing a man, in order to find out what his boundaries are. If he has no boundaries, we will destroy him, especially if he loves us. A man has to have boundaries, and he has to outline them precisely, and he has to force us to adhere to them with the power of his conviction and the power of his action. If he doesn’t do that, we will beat him over the head with his weaknesses (his lack of boundaries) until he breaks. Women are narcissistic masochists. We hate it when things are going well, especially if they continue to go well for long periods of time. We know down deep that we are fucked-up and not worthy of anything that is truly good. So when things are going well in a relationship, we eventually sabotage it. We just can’t help ourselves in this regard. We could have the greatest, most handsome, most well-hung husband in the world—a one-of-a-kind man who makes all of our girlfriends jealous; we could have the greatest children in the world, who are beautiful, well-behaved and ambitious; we could have the most enviable career imaginable; we could have all of the money and prestige and the truly good things in life, and we could repeatedly tell ourselves over and over, and believe, on the surface, that we would never cheat on our husbands. But down deep we know that it’s a lie. Because one day, we could walk into a grocery store, and some bad boy could whisper just the right combination of words in our ear, and the next thing you know, we’re at the Motel 6 getting it in the ass. That’s just how we are, and any woman.
I've found that some women who grow up in strong father domineering households only search for "stronger" or equally "protective" and "courageous" males.
This works until you hit a rough patch or the male suitor becomes insecure, jealous, possessive or otherwise turns his strength against her, which can perpetuate the cycle of being stuck in a male domineering relationship.
Women tell themselves they are only into "masculine" or "real men" because they aren't used to slower paced reciprocity based relationships. They want to be pursued and to escape, but they aren't necessarily in the place to set healthy boundaries or healthy communication patterns. Younger males, too busy with other concrete pursuits, often fail to prioritize this aspect of relationship maintenance.
Freedom from and freedom to are usually very different outlooks. If someone is always running from a bad past (parents, past relationship) they often fail to prioritize what exactly is it they are running towards. It is OK to Like strong male leadership, but the woman should be equally strong and her words should have significant influence on her partner.
I agree with your theory. I haven’t had this proven myself in my dating life, but I have a close friend who is with a guy who is a JERK. They hit eachother, he’s given her bruises before from grabbing her arm and he constantly tells her to “shut up.” He even spent the night in jail before after they fought and I’ve never seen her so distraught.
He’s just a bad person and her friends have all told her to dump him as it’s a toxic relationship, yet she still defends him and won’t let anyone speak badly about him. She was also like this with her ex who she allowed to cheat on her multiple times and stayed with him. And yes, she is very male-attention oriented. I get that she loves him but it’s no excuse not to put your own safety and health first.
I always tell her she deserves better. It’s very sad that women should feel like we NEED a man or male attention, no matter the cost.
Yea, I have seen similar issue around me. I think it has something to do with how our society normalises abuse, disloyalty and dominance towards women. Women were taught to be submissive in whatever situations they are in. Another reason is plenty of these women have lower self-esteem. They feel like they couldn’t get any better after being manipulated by those scumbags hence making it a lot worse for them to escape from the toxic relationship/marriage. Some were abused as a child too that they develop mental trauma which traps them into something they are familiar with.
Bingo. When people have low self-esteem, it makes them allow people to treat them in whichever way because they don’t believe they deserve better. It’s sad af
Women in general don’t put up with that, but women with low self worth do. They tie their self esteem to other people’s opinion of them, especially the people they hold in high regard. The harder it is to obtain approval, the harder some people will work for it. It can come from a childhood of being taught that love is earned, not given freely. Sometimes it can come from an absent father. Parents set the standard for what we see as normal or acceptable behaviour. If our parents are disrespectful to one another, and/or their children, we don’t really know any different. An absent parent is also a catalyst for abandonment issues. We don’t always acknowledge them, but we can try to heal them through other people. Essentially, it’s down to self worth.
Part of it also depends how the guy was raised himself. If he didn't have much parental guidance, his view on women and relationships isn't going to be very positive. I've met a lot of guys whose mothers were crackheads or they were adopted or grew up in foster care so they never had a true family. Turning into the gang life or selling dope was positive for them b/c it was some kind of belonging. Just like being a stripper/escort was for me! I grew up w/o a father, but my pimp made me feel important. My mother was never around. She didn't even give a shit when she found out what I was doing! She said I could still do it at home, just gotta split the cash w/her! It all starts at home in your youth so u can't really blame the guys. I had to fix my life myself. There's nice guys out there. You just gta look. But right now ur young. Worry about school and a career.
It happened with my ex in high school for 3-4 years. I think I stayed because I thought we could patch things up and work it out, but he never changed and kept being an abusive asshole. When he initiated the last breakup, I cried, took the time I needed for myself and will never again be a guy's punching bag.
Ouh, that’s the same situation I’m in right now. He cheated, lies, yelled at me , called me name, give me a bruise and I still w him cuz of the baby things
Please get out of that situation ! It will only get worst, any man that puts his hands on his partner is a degenerate piece of crap ^^ I hope you’re safe
I think most women are submissive and patient when they trust a guy and they feel like they have to go with this stuff even when they'd judge it other times like women with to much traditional bs in there head will think its cool or whatever to let a guy disrespecct them while saying its disrespectful and against chivalry other times and many modern women will think there cool and independant for letting there man disrespect them or dont wanna see how that could be whats happening
It's basically like Stockholm syndrome, it's been so many CENTURIES! of just having to accept shitty treatment from men that it's become a hard stereotype to actually break away from 🤔😊
Good. I’m you’re age and I’m probably just not going to date at all throughout highschool because highschool boys are some of the worst people if I’m gonna be honest and just want to sleep with any girl they can. They don’t respect us or see us as people, they just see what they wank to on the hub 💀 sad but true ^^
men are potentially unfaithful. but i want to be a mother so i want to get married otherwise celibacy is for me. Because men cheat when you're sick and leave.
