Girls, is every relationship with a guy doomed to fail because of the expectations women have?

[Anonymous]

To any girls and women reading this, I want to ask if there is any validity. I often hear women are attracted to men based on these 4 things, not in any order, 1) looks, 2) if other women are attracted to him, 3) wealth, 4) height. I have also heard that men or guys shouldn't feel secure in a marriage or relationship because women and girls are always playing the field for something better and willing to break up with the current man or guy she is with for someone else in the future, is this true?

If there is any truth to the playing the field and breaking up with the guy, are women attracted to drama and tension? Listen, as a guy who's busting his ass with a job and in grad school, working out to stay lean/fit, learning new dishes to cook, saving money for my own place, loyal, funny, spontaneous, mentally stable, independent, understand, caring and civil with others. But if those traits aren't good enough why should I bother anymore? I think men have attachments of being unfaithful, cheaters, fuck boys, douche bags, etc.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if there are girls like that or not... But all I know is that if a girl really loves a man, she won't see the other men even if they are wealthier or more handsome and it's also so hard to leave or to think about other men... And the first thing that attracts me and my friends is the personality and the way he treats us and other people... So there are good girls and bad girls and there are also good and faithful men and others who are bad and unfaithful

[Asker]

As a guy I have the right to believe that many girls today don't give a shit and I have a hard time trusting people overall. I understand not everything lasts forever but through the years talking to girls about in-depth topics, asking how she is, trying to make her laugh and etc. it shows a guy cares. Problem is, for many girls they don't give a shit because her DM's are being flooded with sexual advances or guys with game who can entice her. That's something I can't control but I just think a lot of girls nowadays don't have real faith, they chase a fabricated world. I have my bad experiences and wasting my f-ing time. It's not like im unskillful guy who doesn't know how to talk and just wants to bang girls, I'm not a fuck boy. But we live in the reality tv era where people see these celebs live a luxurious and people sell their soul and toss their morals out the window for that world.

I don't chase the riches of this world. Sure, I am in grad school, but i'm not in grad school solely for the money. In fairness, I know guys and men fuck around and toy with a girls or woman's emotions and those guys/men are assholes, I'm not blaming women 100%. But what I've been through, I'm shocked how many girls act depressed, live life vicariously, do drugs, drink heavily and hang around with bad friends... I feel sorry for those girls because they have zero structure in life.

[Opinion Owner]

Trust me me there are many good girls in this world, how about nice shy girls, they are gonna treat you the best , keep looking in different places... Not all girls are like that, Maybe you had a bad experience but that doesn't mean that we are all bad...

[Asker]

I’m in my mid-30s if all I know is bad how can I see good? Ask any teacher how they feel if majority of the class misbehaves, doesn’t finish their work, disrespects her, will that teacher have faith students will improve? Eventually it wears thin. I know teachers who went from nice to mean because a few bad students.

[Opinion Owner]

You said you're loyal and you have a good qualities but if you looked into some men you will find them unfaithful and bad... Then there are also good girls with great qualities and bad girls... Good people are just hard to find nowadays... Try to know a lot of girls from different places till you find the good one... I know a lot of good girls, they are everywhere

[Asker]

I just think that girls have given up hope on good guys because guys act cocky, abrasive filled with sexual tension with this pompous arrogant behaviour. Girls in todays era probably said fuck it, if you can’t beat them join them. I just think girls are hesitant to be in something serious because of her past.

[boldlyblu]

No, every relationship is not going to fail. Because anything that you want to keep takes
Effort= Communication
Are required to keep anything alive

[Asker]

If you want me to be blatantly honest, I think women are sick and tired of being shackled by a man's ego and that men can get away with being players and sleeping around and not get chastised as much as women do. I think women came to the conclusion and said fuck it. But it doesn't help when women are drawn to drama reality shows of today and try to mimic that lifestyle. Yeah, I understand if you love something you have to work hard to keep it. I'm not saying, find a woman, marry her or be with her but then be lazy. I don't think that way, my fear is if I work hard and she's unappreciative and there are many men and women who do that and they don't deserve to be in a relationship.