What are shit tests that women like to use to figure out if a man is worth her time?

[RotOfStars]

Does anyone recognize common tests that women use to try and see if a man is worth talking to?

[TonyV]

The only guys that care about spoting and passing stupid tests are fuckboys.

If me just being me isn't enough to "pass the test" oh well, it wasn't meant to be.

Just go to YouTube, you can see plenty of toxic women blogging about the various ridiculous tests men they dated failed.

Some don't dress for the cold just to see if you'll give them the jacket off your back, I'll happily fail that test, I want to date an adult not a child, she knows the weather she can dress right.

Some just say the opposite of what they want as a test, again idgaf if I fail that, I want healthy communication, if you want it say it, I won't play the mind reader game, and I don't have time for the "I shouldn't have to tell you" reply.

The crazy ones can make literally anything into a test, it's not worth thinking about, just be yourself.

If she's gonna leave you for not getting the door for her everytime then most likely she'd find some other reason to leave you anyways, so who cares, Let her go, plenty of other fish in the sea so there's no point pretending to be something you aren't.

[RotOfStars]

I understand what you are saying, if you play her stupid games you're gonna win a stupid prize. You don't feel like an adult should have to fuck around to get to the point.

I guess I am mostly looking for examples of games women play. Such as the dress code thing, and the door holding thing. I appreciate your perspective.

[Andres77]

I hate the idea of dating and trying to figure out if the other is genuine or not.
The #1 cause of divorce is marriage. Two people who think they figured out the other enough to take a chance and get married and hope for the best.
So fucking stupid.
IMHO... I think that people should just try to find themselves first and be comfortable being themselves and then find like-minded people within their own established sphere... and choose out of them to whom they are attracted.
You can say I'm stupid but I'll take the "pipe of +50% divorce rate" and beat you in the head with it and tell you to stop being a dumbass.

Just think of all the poor kids who grow up watching their own parents fight and insult each other and then "fall in love" and do the same thing because they don't know what real love is.

[Anonymous]

I usually pretend I’m mad or upset with him for a day or two and ignore him just to see how he reacts. If I don’t like how he reacts (yelling at me, making me feel bad for being upset etc.) then I simply let him go. If I see that he wants to talk to me about it ask me what’s wrong what happened if he did something wrong how can he help etc. Then I keep him. It’s my method of finding out if he’s really there for me or not when sh. t goes bad or if he’s abusive.

[Opinion Owner]

And no I don’t do it all the time only if I’m unsure of his intentions with me.

[RafaRodri]

This is so toxic lol 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Gotta do what you gotta do lmao

[Opinion Owner]

It’s only if I’m unsure. Like REALLY unsure of his intentions.

[Opinion Owner]

Other than that then it’s all good

[Anonymous]

I ask him questions that I already know the answer to, but he has no clue I know. If he lies he’s out.

If he says he only dates one girl at a time or that he only sees me I ask friends (that he has no idea I’m friends with) to see if they find him on dating apps and if so if he match with them, gets in contact with them, if he’ll say he’s not seeing anyone or sets up a date with them or whatever. If he does he’s also out.

[RotOfStars]

And what if he tells you straight up that he is dating women but hasn't committed to anything serious. Or even better what if he tells you that he isn't looking for something serious with you?

[Whatever2929292]

What is a shit test? I think all that shit is dumb anyways. I loose interest in women who do stuff like that so more often then not they end up costing themselves. My not putting up with someone's shit is leaving them and finding someone who won't do that to begin with

[RotOfStars]

To my understanding, it's a girl trying to see if you are gonna be full of shit to try and impress them. Are you talking to other girls? Are you a playboy or something? You just want to fuck everything that walks don't you.

Instead of being defensive, it's usually better to just go with it. Yea I fuck everything that moves, that's what I was born to do.

[Whatever2929292]

I am not like that and when someone says something like that I loose interest in a woman. But I don't talk to women like that nor do I really talk to strangers unless I have to or I really like someone

[Anonymous]

I’d say that it’s pointless even worrying or thinking about it, because that’s how you fail them in the first place.

Most often you can pass the test by speaking your mind without a filter. That’s really what they’re testing for - whether or not you’re being full of shit.

That’s why they’re testing in this way, because they can’t just ask you outright whether you’re a liar or not and expect you to answer honestly if you are a liar.

[SaoirseS]

I’ve never “tested” anyone. It’s childish and manipulative, especially in dating. I could learn what I needed about dates without them. I feel the same about online “social experiments.”

[LazerBean]

Not sure what you mean. Is the whole point of dating not to figure out if two people are compatible?

[GreatnessBack]

It is with direct communication over time.

"Shit tests" are basically "playing games to see if a person is compatible."
If someone is actively doing this, then they set themselves up for trouble.

[RotOfStars]

From what I understand it is generally questions that have an expected (weak) answer and another less expected (strong) answer. Like the other girl who said that she asks if a guy is talking to women even though she knows the answer. Is he gonna lie or not.

[LazerBean]

I see. I don't know then, I was always very direct and time efficient.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think they start out with a bunch of questions and then wing the shit tests from there. Other than that it's because you didn't submit to their interpretation of some social norm.

[jennifer_bloom]

I hide my opinion about a guy to see whether he chases me because he likes me or whether he does it because he thinks I’m easy to get

[OlderAndWiser]

I think many of them date and see how you behave over time!

[Dontaaaa]

Putting you in a situation to see if you're gonna stand up for them or not.

[RotOfStars]

For them or To them?

[Dontaaaa]

Now that you mention it, possibly both.

I only specifically said "for them" because I was put in a situation like that in highschool.

[RotOfStars]

I see, I see. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[Avicenna]

Questions that are a proxy for his wealth and income

[PatriceONeal]

No women worth her salt will test you. Any woman testing you has a separate agenda besides you and your wellbeing and goals. She's a leech with a vagina at best.

[maximumpower]

look at their personal possessions. if everything comes from high priced stores, she'll take a peek at his wallet. if his stuff is from walmart, she'll be gone as soon as he runs to the toilet.

[SeekingVirginWife]

Non-Virginity Test.

She likes men who slept with 10,000 women. the more the better.

[Anonymous]

Dunno. Any woman that I catch "testing" me. FAILS my test as how a decent human being acts. If she feels the "need" to test me. She can find another guy whom she can test.

[RuthlessAggression]

She'll introduce you to, or watch how you interact, with other women.

They just want to see if you're going to cheat

[jahaims]

I don't know, I don't waste my time on those kind of people

[jshm2]

The ones that leave them as single moms, you mean?

[GreatnessBack]

I don't know. I don't do tests, anymore.

[RotOfStars]

Married or out of school. Lol

[TacosRAwesome]

Just let them be themselves.

[Anonymous]

Paying for the first date is the most obvious one.

[RotOfStars]

I don't know. My honor as a man usually has me try and grab the check. If she's says no let me help twice then I'll let her pay. NBD

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't realize equality was dishonorable.

[fred_durst]

no idea , but that was hot picture , only lack gag

[RobEurope]

Only abusers do this behaviour. Not worth it.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

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