Is it normal to be really jealous of my friend's baby/motherhood? Really need help please?

[Anonymous]

I became a mother to a beautiful little girl a while back, it was unexpectedly challenging but I loved it. I didn't really bond with my newborn immediately and apparently that's normal? I have grown to love her a LOT.

My friend also recently had an newborn girl and I noticed that she immediately bonded with her baby girl, that her baby has rooted for her nipple since birth (breastfeeding really brought me close to my child) and that they shared a mutual loving bond where her infant would calmly feed until full, then sleep.

Anyway I just... Can't help but be really miserable about it, and even as I type this I have tears in my eyes; I want HER baby, or at the very least for my baby to be more like her's. It isn't fair. I did everything right. I did everything that she's doing now and I never had that connection with my newborn, it's gotten to the point where when I'm holding HER baby I don't want to give her back and I'll find any excuse to go visit.

Is it normal? Will these feelings go away?

[Spiritofn]

This is probably a psychological trick to have more kids… I think what you need to do. Is go & get a nice piece of thick paper and write your name in the coolest way possible throw all the dazzle and razzle on it and put it in a place you will see it everyday maybe your underwear drawer. Remind yourself that you are in control and you matter, we often forget to take care of ourself. I have a tattoo that says “Klan Lando” I did this because I neglect my own needs and put my team b4 me. Even though I put my own team b4 me I understood they also are important that’s why I put it on as well. TBH it’s the only tattoo I have that I like I wish I had none besides that 1. Should have got it as soon as I turned 16 or found someone with a tatty gun. I have 7 tattoos already.

[Asker]

I think it's less to do with neglecting my own needs and just being a shitty human being. Envy's a sin, a deadly sin at that, and my own hubris is making me feel even worse about the situation.
I don't know what to do.
It's her baby.
I shouldn't feel this way about some else's baby.

[Spiritofn]

We’re only animals at the end of the day. We need recognition that of our peers and ourselfs and when our peers fail we absolutely must help ourselfs..