Why Do Men Hate It When Women He Asks Out, Put Him In The Friend Zone?

Question

Many Women believe it is because a Man feels a sense of entitlement. As a Man I don't believe it has anything to do with entitlement, I believe that there are different reasons for a Man not liking the rejection for a few reasons. Such as;

1) a Man feels humiliated when put in the Friend zone which could be because He was teased and ridiculed by His classmates in school or perhaps the first Girl He asked out rejected Him in a harsh manner by calling Him gross or a loser and this memory scarred Him mentally.

2) Society's warped expectations of men meaning the opinion of a Man who does not have a Woman who looks like a supermodel hanging all over Him in public is a loser.

3) When a Man is Friend Zoned in His Mind it means He is not worthy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There is a right way and a wrong way for women to do this:

The Right Way

Woman tactfully tells the guy she’s not romantically interested very shortly after she comes to that decision. She doesn’t ask him to “be friends” but rather can we “be friendly”. There is a difference. This is the respectful way to handle it.

Often women are curious but lose interest after interacting with a guy. That’s unfortunate however the guy stuck is his neck out. She needs to respect him and (tactfully) tell him the truth in truth. Some women get this but a lot don’t. But men crave respect and if a man feels respected when he is being rejected he will take it much better. He will be disappointed but not angry at her. He might not thank her but be thankful.

The Wrong (and more common) Way

The woman loved the attention. If she’s a real cunt she take advantage of all his free meals, favors, effort, etc. She feels entitled to it.

She will never speak up but will instead play dumb. She will claim “she doesn’t want to make him angry” but in reality that’s a bullshit excuse for not wanting the attention/favors to go away.

In some worst case scenarios she will complain or ask for advice about guys she really likes. She might even purposely keep him around to keep the guy she really likes jealous.

Again this is all based on entitlement. Deep down she doesn’t give rats ass about the guy she “claims” to be a friend. Could care less.

Ladies many of you don’t even realize how much damage you can do in scenario 2. That crap leads to misogyny. Yes their are douche bag guys out there but doesn’t give you an excuse to be a douche yourself.

Again not all women are like this but way too many are.

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

This is overthinking on one hand, and just plain "not thinking" or reacting like a child, on the other.

When a woman declines a romantic gesture but offers a friendship, she's not saying "you're unworthy of my love", she's saying "I'm not attracted to you in THAT way". If the male ego says "well why not?", and then reacts all over the place, that's his problem, not hers. It's the reaction of a child.

All men would do well to understand that every woman in their little world, or every woman they every meet, doesn't want them! Men should also remember there were women who wanted more from you than you were willing to give.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

This is a great question! I think the men felt like they are wasting a lot of themselves putting efforts into someone who doesn’t feel the same as them. Being friends is not one of them. If they want to be friends, they didn’t have to invest $, time and feelings! But if the woman tells you upfront they’re not looking for a relationship and only wants to be friends, then just respect that and move on to someone else who’s looking…

StevieNix · Accepted Answer

Guys should not be mean, and they should not be overly nice. Try and strike a balance, and you won't end up in the zone.

razelove · Answer

Personally it's none of the above for me. The friend zone would be fine and dandy if you were actually treated as a friend. Personally I've found any woman who "wants to be friends" generally just wants to use me in some way though. Most of the time it's just attention, though a simple test is to simply ask them to wingman for you to pick up other women. If they do it they at least care if you're happy or not and it's worth keeping in touch with them.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Most guys spend a lot of time hyping a woman up in their heads before they actually ask her out. So that enthusiasm gets popped like a balloon when she shuts him down. He doesn't want her company, he wants HER.

slatyb · Answer

Entitlement sums it up. They feel entitled to an attractive partner as a birthright and when they are rejected they feel that they are being treated unfairly. They feel humiliated because they see other men who are more successful and they rate themselves inferior. Then they blame the woman for making them feel that way. Humiliation is a very powerful emotion. The feeling of being humiliated by the educated elite drives a lot of populist voting.

Anonymous · Answer

Women always like to say men make the first move. That's actually a rarity. Typically women give guys signals that they would like to be approached. Guys that get friendzoned feel betrayed because some women signal and then later change thier mind. No it's not a good feeling but I always tell guys yeah be annoyed, but be happy as well. Because she just let you know how flaky she was. She actually did you a favor in the long run. Because if that's the type of person she was. Did you really think it was going to get better?

joeldalton · Answer

Men hate the friend zone because they choose to stay in it. At any point a woman says "I just want to be friends" to a romantic proposal, the correct response is "Ok, well thanks for being honest, but I don't want to be friends. Good luck".

Anonymous · Answer

To young women and girls reading this, yes, guys don’t like rejection the same way you don’t like rejection. Women and girls will avoid rejection because they know a man or guy or boy will court them, ask them out. Everything the poster said is correct. Guys have pressure to. If a girl or woman reads this and says something along the lines of 🙄 yeaa men have “pressure” by being sarcastic. That is merely pushing his feelings down to nothing. This has been normalized especially in western countries. This divide between men and women needs to stop as well. I’m not saying a female needs to accept him for asking her out. I’m not condoning rude behaviour by men or guys who get rejected. But I agree with poster 100% that there are other reasons involved.

20yearsolder · Answer

You seriously can't answer your own question? You're attracted to this woman and you finally get the balls to ask her out because you are romantically / sexually interested in her and then she shoots you down and says but we can be friends. Number one their ego just got kicked in the balls. You don't want to look like a pouting baby so now you get the pleasure of being friends with a woman that you really want to be fucking but she shot you down

ManOnFire · Answer

When I make the moves on a woman and she lets me know she's not interested, I don't stick around to be her friend to be honest. I don't play that stuff. I either made the moves because I wanted to fuck you or date you, not be elevated to personal girlfriend status. So when she's not interested I just move on. Doesn't mean I won't still say hello or not talk, but I'm not interested in just being friends.

JSmuve · Answer

I think it's because of the number of options the average guy has. If a guy is dating 3 different women, he's not gonna care if a fourth one rejects him. However, if a guy puts effort into the only prospect that he's had in the last 6 months, then it's gonna hit differently if he gets rejected because who knows when the next opportunity will come.

maximumpower · Answer

They don't appreciate it.
Asking for a date is a request to pursue "more than friend" zone.
Gals opting to go out "as a friend" need to be prepared to pay their own way and step aside if a more promising opportunity arises - even if she's right there at the time.

dustybiker · Answer

It’s okay to not feel attraction, be honest and not waste a persons time too. The tricks are being kind rejecting, and being brave asking someone out and knowing it’s possible you won’t get a chance with them.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not entitlement, it's a waste of my time. If I wanted to be just a friend, I'd have asked her to be my friend, instead she wasted my time and money.. Women who do that, I ghost, I treat them like they don't exist. 9 times out of 10 she comes crawling back.. And my one and only response is "you had your chance"

Sarahplus2 · Answer

I have never put someone in the friend zone who asked me out on a date. Sounds petty to do that with someone. I have always had more guy friends and a small handful of women friends.

Anonymous · Answer

that's when you give the bitch the middle finger and whip out your dick and show her your dick either through pictures or in person and tell the bitch to suck on it

i did that many many years ago to a few cunts and it worked great finally got closure and satisfaction and felt avenged

Sour-rose · Answer

It hurts to not get what you want. :) Especially fake love they might see as true love... but it's just they wanna fk something

RagnarRedbeard · Answer

Being friend-zoned just means being rejected as a romantic/sexual partner. Being rejected sucks for anybody.

Guy13 · Answer

It is perceived as failure by the guy. We’ve got enough friends. We’re not asking you out to be friends…just go on ‼️

AviatorTom · Answer

A man usually asks a woman out for more than friendship, in hopes that a relationship might develop, and when it doesn't, that hurts.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

You can’t get your dick wet in the friend zone.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I just don’t even try. If a woman is interested she will make it known to me and I will decide. If there aren’t any women who do come to me then I’m far better off without them.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Cause they like her and it always hurts when the one you like rejects you

dragoblack · Answer

I've learned to accept it, but i think it is from the long time thing of "i dont date my friends" thing that was in the dating scene for so long that at this point it is translated as "i will never date you or see you in that way."

Wubs3000 · Answer

number 2 is dumb nobody thinks men should have a supermodel waiting to fuck them in public. Thats not a societal standard we have set at all

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Because I don't like giving away my attention fruitlessly. Most but not all male female relationships are based on the mans desire for sex.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Anyone would hate it if they are put in the Friendzone, But it is more likely to happen to us Guys because we are usually the ones that have to Approach first.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Well this has never happened to me but if it did it really wouldn't bother me. I'm old enough to know that everybody I like may not necessarily like me back. What's the big deal

KatherineJ · Answer

No one likes to feel as if they have been rejected.

Freyke · Answer

Hate is a strong word, it hurts but at least she gave me clarity.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Because we know "freind" is girl code for pay for my shit. Thats why your female "freinds" are never trying to set you up they just want free shit

TonightYouu · Answer

Newsflash: MEN DO NOT NEED FEMALE FRIENDS 💯

Anthony20108 · Answer

it feels almost a little demeaning or embarrassing, and i notice a lot of guys cut contact pretty fast to avoid future embarrassment.

Silver158 · Answer

Well simply because they're not getting what they want. Women are the same if they're rejected by a man.

dailyoctopus94 · Answer

Never bothered me. A lot of those situations turned into better friendships than a romantic relationship would have ever been.

Twalli · Answer

Because he only integrated himself in her life to date her.

007kingifrit · Answer

what a ridiculous... because they don't like being rejected?

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same Reason Why Women Hate It When Men She Asks Out, Put Her In The Friend Zone

VaasMontenegro · Answer

Once upon a time... A man asked out a woman She said no And he happily lived after that.

LonelyHeartedSoul · Answer

Because the friend zone means that he isn’t worthy of the girls heart.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it’s all about money. Once she knows that you are poor you become second choice for marriage.

Ihelppeoplebymilo · Answer

What a dumb question

In_Trance · Answer

Nobody wants to be friends

Zolly99999 · Answer

Rejection sucks

Beowulf_ · Answer

What? Do you enjoy being rejected?

katestar · Answer

I've tried that.

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