Ladies, have you ever held the door for a guy? Guys, what's been your reaction?

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Guys, what’s your reaction been?  I’ve done it, I mean it just seems rude to just let the door close on another human being.

Tiptoetamm · Accepted Answer

Yes I have and I either get that's my job which is bullshit or I get a nice thank you from them. They are usually surprised when I do. I feel like women need to show men that they are just as important to us as we are to them. It's the simple things ladies that men love. I don't understand why it's so one sided. I spoil my man with love and affection. Nothing wrong with doing things for your man or just in general. Being nice to someone can change their day for the better. I always try and think about the situation from the other persons standpoint. Walking in another person shoes can be really helpful. Hope I didn't jibber jabber to much hope I answered what needed answering lol

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

Of course, it's called being polite. In my eyes, it has nothing to do with sexes.

If I walk in front of others, I'll hold the door for the next if they're at a distance that makes sense to do so.

I could also hold the door if they seem like they're struggling because their hands are occupied.

It's basic manners.

I've also experienced a teenage girl come up and open and hold the door for me because I was struggling, holding my bicycle as well - and she wasn't even going to use the door herself. I thanked her, and she recognized that and we went on our way in each direction of the road.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Women are simply not strong enough to open a door and hold it open.

... that's what I tell myself every time they don't and give me that smug look as if it's a brutal challenge for me. Obviously, they can, just 9 times out of 10 they simply won't. When it happens, if it happens, I'm grateful and say "thank you" and that's about it.

Me, I just play the game... if someone is close behind I just hold the thing open for them. Just a small act that seems to be positive karma.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Many doors are what I would describe as ungentlemanly. More and more doors are push to open rather than pull to open where you can let the lady go through first. With push to open the most you can do is to hold it open as you go through.

I don't think it is a big deal as to who holds the door ajar for the next person.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Yeah, of course! Isn't that just common courtesy and being respectful to another person, regardless of gender?

Mind you, I'm also from the South, so we're raised to hold open the door for ANYONE, male or female, and especially elders if they are right behind you and you're the first one to the door. Not doing so is considered very rude.

JDavid25 · Answer

Yeah, a decent amount of ladies have held the door for me.. One even enthusiastically did it a while back.. I usually just thank them and get on with my day... Although, I would be a bit surprised when a woman goes out of her way to hold the door.. That doesn't usually happen..

Rania05 · Answer

When someone is behind me, regardless of young and old or gender I always hold the door for them. Some just thank me and leave, while some (mostly adult guys ) hold the door in my stead to let others behind them pass and let me leave unburdened.

No, it isn't weird but just pure politeness.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Of course. Same. If he's carrying something, pushing a stroller, door close on a person RIGHT in the face, since I was a kid, hold them doors open. As a matter of Karma, you never know what anyone's going through, so the smallest bit of positivity can do wonders in someone's life, you know?

midnightmoon05 · Answer

All the time… to anyone who needs it or just there … it’s common curtesy.

I find it strange those who complain about the opposite gender open door for them… saying I can open it myself. … that’s just f up attitude… what ever happen to just say… Thank you. Have a nice day with a smile.😊

Emiliamazing · Answer

I think it’s important to be helpful for anyone you encounter. I’ve certainly held the door for my own husband when he’s carrying something into the house that I can’t lift. No doubt this kind of act has been reciprocated for me thousands of times

Moose304 · Answer

There is a difference between opening a door and holding a door that is already open. Unless both my hands are on a package I have had both a male and female open a door for me. I remember once in Japan several years ago a female walked in front of me opening doors and helped me get a heavy box to the proper place. Generally speaking, I don't get many doors opened for me. I do get them held open a lot.

NathanDavis · Answer

it's a very common thing in here... so you just quickly appreciate the gesture with a nod and some kind of smile, or a thank you...

like you said, is just being considerate with someone else. regardless of gender... lol

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve done that before when I notice someone is behind me when I get to a door. Guys always seem a little embarrassed by it. I’ve noticed a lot of women will walk through a door and let it shut right on the person behind them. That seems kind of rude to me also, even though I know it’s traditionally the male gender role to hold doors.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I was walking towards the front door at work, my coworker was walking towards the door from the opposite direction so I saw him coming. We waved hi to each other and I got to the door first so I held it open and waited for him coming in.

He seemed really surprised that I done that and done an awkward run to the door when he realised what I was doing and then said sorry he was day dreaming.

Was quite cute.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve opened the door for men ALL THE TIME!

Firstly because it’s rude not to and it’s the humane thing to do.

And secondly cause I don’t want those perverts to look at my fat ass or smell my hair while I walk in front of them, and their tiny d—CK gets hard while they walk behind me. NO THANKS.

🤢🤢🤢

Valso · Answer

I've done that for both men and women, especially when they're carrying something heavy which limits their hands usage. I know I'm not obliged to do that but I live in the principle "Treat people the same way you want them to treat you".

And to answer your question - women have held the door for me when all my hands are busy and I always say "thank you". What else is there to say anyway? :)

Julie_TS · Answer

Kinda feeling exactly what you said. If I'm in a situation at a door, I'm holding it for whoever is there.

bowenw · Answer

I've had the door held for me by woman on countless occasions. It's the decent thing to do for anyone.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I hold the door if I think they are okay with it and we have time for that. It’s not a gender thing, it’s an age thing, I do it for older people and for kids.

MrNameless · Answer

This should be universal for everyone to hold the door for anyone behind you. Nothing to do with chivalry.

What really grinds my gears is a few women who are ahead of you who just barely open the door for themselves.

14JDPO · Answer

Yes, many times. I've never had any of them get upset about it, they say thank you almost every time. OR they take the door from me and insist I go first. I think holding a door for someone is just a courteous thing to do. :)

Thatgirlcvp · Answer

Yes I open the door for guys all the time. I like making them feel special. I remember some of their reactions, they're usually surprised and they feel awkward/uncomfortable. They say thank you and go through.

purplepoppy · Answer

Holding a door open isn't a noteworthy event. It's right up there with 'have you seen a cloud"

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

I do all the time. At work, in shops etc etc  It's common courtesy and an automatic reaction for me to hold the door open for anyone.  The reaction I get is a "thanks"

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

I thank her and smile, and hold the door for the next if there are more behind me. Simple courtesy.

TomatoSoup · Answer

I can't really not hold the door if someone is behind me. I feel like it's rude just to let door close on them. I remember being bullyed for doing it because they said I was being a 'nice guy'. It was around the time hating incels was popular. Was alittle frustrating of a time because I wasn't being nice to get laid, was just being nice because I don't want to be a douche.

BullShark · Answer

It's usually me doing the door holding, but if a woman does it for me, I smile in response and thank her, naturally. What other reaction would I have in a situation like this?

Pinay_ako · Answer

I don’t care if it’s a man or woman or a dog, but I’ll hold the door open for anyone. It’s just a nice thing to do with zero effort or thought for me

dustybiker · Answer

A dozen times just this week. Others held it for me too. Nobody acting anything but polite. So glad my area doesn’t have issues with this. It’s a human thing to do here. Normal.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I’ve never had a grown woman hold the door for me, but a young girl has! It’s exactly moments like that that give me hope for our society and species. Ell oh ell!

Anonymous · Answer

I mean isn’t that just common courtesy regardless of gender. I do it all the time whether it’s to strangers, if I’m on a date, to family members, etc. now I’ve never got the car door for a man but it’s just never crossed my mind that they would need help opening the car door. If it ever seemed like they needed a hand with that I would just open it because it’s literally just a door

ZS007 · Answer

plenty of times. when I'm not sure if I should hold or close cause if timing I just hold and wait 🤣

2Wheels · Answer

It's funny to think that this isn't normal in most countries. It's common curiosity where I'm from and doesn't mean anything whether a guy or girl does it.

MysticAngel5000 · Answer

Yes, I have several times. I will hold the door for whoever is around. Gender does not matter. It would be very rude to just let a door slam in someone's face.

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, I’ve done this. The worse reaction I had was when a guy told me that’s something men are supposed to do. Like he was saying that because I did that, it means I’m not feminine enough.

amandat94132 · Answer

Yes many times The gender doesn't matter , being kind matters :)

EmmaMary · Answer

@KatherineJ Let's just say more times than I care to remember... After all, common courtesy costs absolutely nothing.

Elliegirl · Answer

Sure have! When his hands are full carrying all the groceries or the babies, why wouldn’t I help him by holding the door?

MikeInHawaii · Answer

I’ve had a lady not hold the door when I was carrying a large box. I though she was rude.

ochitougly · Answer

Yes I have, they panicked and held it for me and made me go ahead of them, honestly I thought it was very sweet.

Marshymallow · Answer

Yh multiple times, because I was walking past and a guy was behind me. Can’t slam the door at them coz that’d be rude af

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I hold the door for everyone if I think about it. Then someone holds it for me. Pay it forward. Rule of thumb when driving to work is let one person in for every time you merge.

daisydukeso · Answer

I hold it for anyone I see, I think it's a social norm and common courtesy to open the door for the person behind you

gingemini · Answer

I have and a lot of them literally refuse to go in. They wanna hold the door for me and don't wanna let me do the same.

StickStickity13 · Answer

It just seems like common curtesy, why do we have to make it a big deal?

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It's nice, it reminds me how much I love people.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Yes. I do it all the time. No matter what gender.

LazerBean · Answer

Countless times. It's just something you do in the south.

LexiXide · Answer

It depends on the person who holds the door if it's a shy person then I think it was nice if it's 1 of the jerks at school I think they just wanted to get through and that they just did it without any feelings

loveslongnails · Answer

Don't know where you all live, but where I live people are courteous to one another. Doesn't matter who you are, we hold the door if you're behind us or a few steps away.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Thanks… I mean it’s just holding a door no big deal. Maybe if they went out of their way to wait then it might matter a bit but… 5 seconds of your time or be a dick and save that 5 seconds putting the person in an irritable mood…

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

That happened to me a couple of times and just like if another guy hold the door for me, I definitely say thanks because having good manners isn't exclusive to one gender

Pyrofox · Answer

I've had my nieces and aunts and female cousins do this when we use to hang regularly.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Many times I hold the door for anyone if they're close enough.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah, this is normal to do and they reacted normal. Like normal ass human being.

Blackcosmo · Answer

I usually hold doors for people if they're behind me and I'm sure guys have past it.

BlueScorpio · Answer

I've held door for multiply people, they just say thanks and thats it.

Lionman95 · Answer

Not a big deal to me it´s an act of kindness so I say try to thank if I get to chance to.

CalmMind · Answer

This isn't a gendered issue as such. Being polite to strangers is just good manners.

Autember · Answer

I'll hold doors for anyone if the opportunity is there lol rude not to I think?

sage2021 · Answer

Sure I have, many times. They smile and say "thank you" and I smile back. 😊

AviatorTom · Answer

Occasionally, a woman holds the door for me, it's nice and a polite thing to do

Nathan25 · Answer

No reaction barring a cordial thanks... what do you mean, I'm curious now.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I've had women hold the door for me, I think it's a nice thing to do. I do it whenever I can.

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