Girls, has she lost interest in me?

[Anonymous]

Hello there. I’ve been talking to this girl for a few months now. Been texting every day. We’ve been on 2 dates now and everything is looking very good. I believe we have a good connection and a lot in common.
On the second date we made rough plans on what we should do next and both agreed it was a good idea. But recently she hasn’t texted me in over 2 days. And the only time I texted her, the reply was brief.

I’m embarrassed to say this but I always overthink stuff (even the smallest action or inaction). I start feeling anxious, worried and thinking: “what if it’s all over?” “Did I do something wrong?” “Is she never going to message me again?”.

By all means we both have our own lives and instead of feeling sorry for myself I should go out and live it. But when it comes to dating I sometimes can’t keep a cool head.

What is your take on this situation? Thank you for your time.

[whereismyjohnny]

Maybe she is just busy or has something going on, like personal problems. If she continues acting different, I would ask her about it if I were you.

[Asker]

Yes probably. Tho I don’t want her to feel like I’m needy and desperate. Would you say I should waiting a couple of days and then asking her if everything’s ok? Because I haven’t messaged her since…

[whereismyjohnny]

I don’t think it’s needy and desperate. It’s just communication which is, I think, important for healthy relationships. Plus, talking about it shows that you care.

Maybe it’s best to give her some time. If she doesn’t reach out, you can ask her if everything is okay and see what she will say.

It's better to ask her so you know where you are standing with her than to “torture” yourself with overthinking. I’m an overthinker too, so I know how that feels 😅

If you talk to her about it, you’ll get your answer. Like this, you are just worrying and going over possible reasons why she is not talking to you.

Good luck 🤞🏻 I hope everything works out for you two.

[Asker]

Thank you very much for the detailed response. I appreciate your feedback! I’ll do exactly that🙌

[whereismyjohnny]

No problem 😊

[Asker]

Hello, quick follow up. I’ve asked if she’s ok and the girl told me that she’s extremely busy at the moment. And I believe that because I know what her plans are. She asked me a if I was ok and that text got left on read over night. Should I just give up? One side is telling me she’ll reply when free, the other is saying that she’s no longer interested and try to give me a hint…

[whereismyjohnny]

As you said, it could be that she is busy for real, but a reply takes a few seconds. You can let her be for a few days if she is swamped with work, and see if she will reach out, but if you think it's one-sided and that you are the only one putting the effort in, maybe stop making the effort? 😕

It's on you to decide.

[whereismyjohnny]

If it's on your mind a lot and worrying you, maybe just talk to her about it? Communication is an important part of all relationships (friendships and romantic relationships), and it sorts out everything.

[Asker]

Yeah guess it’s over, but well see. I’m not going to push any more tho… Funny, I’m going to see her at an event in a few days. Going to be awkward haha

[Anonymous]

Well don't ask the same question from 2 anonymous accounts in a row and maybe we would help you.

[Asker]

I thought that I posted it with the wrong criteria. I apologies for the inconvenience

[Shiface92]

Maybe she's busy? Maybe she’s doing mandatory overtime if she has a job and doesn’t have time or energy to reply?