So tldr I've been friends with this guys for years we met at uni and basically years ago I was very naive and I became his booty call (I honestly thought he liked me but he just want sex) fast forward its been 6 years since that happened and we've grown closer again we agreed to meet. He would constantly message me with good morning texts talk to non stop tell me he was planning on taking me on dates, honestly it sounded like he was falling for me. I suffer with depression and anxiety and find it hard to trust people so in my head it sounded all fake but I still went with the flow we met up went out to the arcade chatted and he came to my house which lead to us having sex after that incident he's not messaged me much he will say hello now and again. Am I overthinking due to my anxiety or did he just use me for sex again. If so I want to kinda call him out and cut ties with him. Oh forgot to mention before meeting up I made it clear that I don't want to have the same thing happen he said he wants a possible relationship out of this and he won't make the same mistake again. I feel like he could be busy due to work and I'm just panicking over nothing.
I could be wrong but sounds as though it was strictly sex. If a man is excited about a girl he met he’s going to make every effort to make sure he keeps her attention. I remember when I was in the military, deployed to the Middle East. I always got up around 3 am to message a girl for an hour or two back here in the states that I really liked. I finally realized she had an interest in me as well so I’d wake up even if it meant losing sleep just to converse w her for a while. I mean honestly I’d you were serious about that you sure didn’t show it by giving it up that quick again. Trust me he isn’t busy 24 hours a day to not respond. He could have said sorry it’s crazy right now, please give me sometime to respond I’m just flooded right now. That would have at least out you at ease a little. But trust me if it’s something new for a man he will make every effort to be w her, message her, call, etc. You sleeping w him right away just reinforced the fact that he still has you wrapped around his finger to get you to give him what he wants.
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Could you please tell me how long ago it was that you two had sex? and he's seemed 'busy' (I want to make sure I give you as accurate an answer as possible)
You can try to ask him very direct questions and avoid blaming him? You can ask him if he lied to you, ask him if he likes you, if he sees a potential relationship with you, if he has only used you for sex etc. I mean people lie but not many people would lie to your face like that? If you really want to understand then also be ready for some hard truths (unless it has nothing to do with you).
If you’re anxious you probably need time for yourself, focusing on yourself and your goals ( not him) and on your boundaries and what you really want… just saying as I’m talking from my own experience lol. Maybe he’s not worth it lol and you just want a relationship… I mean do you see a strong future with him yourself?
Forget about him and move on you will find someone better trust me. He is no good he will just keep using u and he clearly dosent care.
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Yeah, pretty sure he used you again. Not sure why you would have sex with him the first time you saw him after he blew you off once before. You can call him out if you want. He won't care though.
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