Any advice on how I should eat as a girl?

[Anonymous]

I’m just asking because I’m stumped on what’s the right way because I’ve heard half of opinions saying girls should not finish their whole meal and eat dainty and to be lady like and then other half of opinions are saying it doesn’t really matter what or how a girl eats.

I normally finish my whole meal if it’s big or a lot because I was taught not to waste unless my grandmother or someone else wants to eat the rest of my food or if it can be saved for later in the fridge. Other times if I eat, I just go for small amounts of food because I get really full most of the time after eating a bit.

But I just don’t know how am I supposed to eat? How do you think a girl is supposed to eat or be lady like? (Because I’ve heard some people say that girls should be lady like and etc.

J just thought that the way I was eating was wrong and started questioning myself and came here to ask what everyone else thinks.

[SnowedIn]

Eat so that you're not hungry. And, in what you consume, have that be healthy food, not processed food, with lots of vegetables and fruit. But, also enjoy what you eat. And ignore the people who tell you what and how to eat.

If you're really concerned about it, ask your mom/dad to ask your doctor for good nutrition guidance and you and them plan food.

The advice on eating small portions and being "lady like" can be politely discarded. Eat what your body needs for fuel and to grow and, also, what you enjoy. (Tiramisu hint hint.)

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[WaterIsland]

Don’t overthink this. Eating is NOT gender specific. It’s a source of energy and nutrients. Focus on the basics of eating healthy, and ensuring you eat enough. Some girls under eat and become extremely skinny and unhealthy, don’t do that.


Again tho. Can’t iterate this enough. It’s not a gender specific thing. It’s not “eat as a girl”. Just stay healthy, and don’t overthink it.

[Asker]

I know I meant like ladylike because my grandmother told me to eat ladylike and I don’t know

[WaterIsland]

Ahh. Yes that’s really up to you. Personally, I wouldn’t ALWAYS listen to what grandparents say always. Remember, they grew up in a very different time than you. Our world is constantly changing, along with social norms.

I’d talk to your parents about it maybe and see what they think. They probably have some good advice or insight.

Just remember that our society is very different than when your grandparents grew up.

[ShiftingMonke]

To explain your grandmother's view: she was raised in a world where food was nowhere near as plentiful and nutritious. When I say times were hard, they were. Having enough food for everyone to eat was a sign of wealth and status. You cleaned your plate because you couldn't always guarantee more food would be available, and because uneaten food was waiting money that no one had.

That mindset has been passed down each generation even though the food crisis has been somewhat solved in most countries; one in four American children miss at least three meals a week. We still have a lot of room to improve.

In regards to your plate: you eat what you wish. It IS polite to not waste food, but you can control your portion size. If you're not hungry, pass on the meal. Don't eat for obligation or because you're pressured to. If anyone judges you for your eating habits (excluding chewing with mouth open, messy eater, etc.) then it's best to disregard their opinion. Eat what you wish, within reason, and try to make better choices with your life as you move forward.

[NamerOfStars]

Yes- the way you WANT to and are comfortable with. One of the best bits of romantic advice I ever heard was dispensed by a man to someone next to the bush I was hiding in: you should never do anything in a relationship that you're not comfortable with doing for the rest of your life. What this means isn't "Say no to everything or prepare to do it forever"; it means "don't lie about who and what you are". Claiming to have interests in things you don't just to attract guys or eat only a fraction of what you need to make yourself seem daintier isn't going to be as appealing as you think it is, and it's just going to cause trouble when he finds out- and he WILL find out, believe me.

Eat enough to be happy; that way, you'll be happier, which will make you more pleasant to be around.

[jennifer_bloom]

One thing I learned is - you don't wait for the plan to find you - you come with a plan or get thrown out. If your plan is health - you have to make that your priority and say no to the cheese burgers and the anorexic diets too. Buddha said - the middle way is the good way. Don't eat like you're at a wedding and don't eat like you've got $2.00 in your savings left.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

A good start would be to do the opposite of the amazing Nickocado Avocado. Don’t ever put Takis in water, eat them, and then drink the water. GGAGGRRGHHH. Dog jamm, this video is himaryous.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/P6PR7kdJCbU

[Razp_Sorbet]

Eat however you want. I will say that the mentality of eating everything on your plate despite being full is eating disorder behaviour, it's a hard habit to shake but try to not eat beyond feeling satisfied.

[UniquelyBasic]

Just eat what you want in moderation of course.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Well first you could try cotillion dinner etiquette classes near your town a lot of eating properly is being courteous to those around you

[YourToy69]

Be happy and forget what other people say unless is something to save your life

[BarryLiverstone]

Finish your whole meal.