What does she want with me?

[Gee2112]

So I have been talking to this girl for over 3 years and she always says how much she values me as a person. We hung out three times over this period and it seemed all good. We haven’t hung out in a year and now every time I try to make plans with her it’s some excuse about why it isn’t a good idea for me because I will get more attached. I really care about this girl and want to do anything to make her happy, but she’s not giving me time and not a real reason as to why she’s so against hanging out with me. I do think she cares about me but is she seeing someone else or is she just not interested or does she not trust me. She’s bad at communicating honestly but I can’t seem to read through what she’s saying. I’m not interested in being platonic friends I would be open to being casual friends I believe she’s the most beautiful girl in the world. I don't know if she’s nervous, if I’m getting played or something else. Please help

[Blueeyes81]

You are playing yourself. Anytime a woman says "they value you" or "appreciate you" they are saying I like you as a person but you'll never see me naked. Other words she only sees you as a platonic friend. she's literally spelled out that she's not interested by avoiding contact, by saying "she doesn't want you to get more attached, values you as a person. You only have yourself to blame. Wanting something badly doesn't make it a reality. Move on.

[Gee2112]

We have made out a couple of times when we hung out before , no sex ( over a year ago) is there something there or am I just way over my head

[Blueeyes81]

Over your head. I've been there before. Even if she likes you she's still keeping you at bay because she doesn't want a relationship with you. It sucks but it happens. It happened to me pretty much as you described. I wasted 3 years only to have her say yes, then cancel the night before our date and say she just wanted to stay friends. If a woman wants to be with you, she will. I had to learn the hard way.

[inhua]

to use you as a backup and an emotional tampon

[Nikki1989]

You need to talk this out with her face to face.

[DextroShade]

She is just using you for attention and validation, if she was actually interested she would make time to see you. You should ghost her and move on.

[gorydetails]

jesus, dude. Grow some balls. She’s not into you.

[Iron_Man]

Three years later, and you have not got any further than this

[In_Trance]

This is a waste of time