I heard a woman recently say we're not supposed to be decisive, and I thought that was kinda funny. It's pretty clear that the vast majority of heterosexual women want decisive men, but how do men feel about decisive women?
I'm a very decisive person. I was once very indecisive but a lot of those thoughts would come from my self-doubts. I realized that often the extra time and energy wasted on the indecision is really often not worth the insignificant results. Of course, there are times I also struggle with indecision but I communicate that.
I prefer that my partner is also decisive. However, if he is not extremely indecisive I don't judge or feel annoyed as I've been there myself and know what it's like. I'm very happy to help him come to a decision by asking questions and evaluating possibilities, but what I don't tolerate is fencing and disrespect.
I was once seeing a guy with whom things were going great but I called it off due to his behavior that I considered indecisive to a level that it was disrespectful: he did it once, I knew that if I continue seeing him then I'll have to deal with this behavior again and again, I hated that, I quickly ended it. My boyfriend is fortunately very decisive or at least is happy to communicate when I try to help him, but there was one time he was also fencing which annoyed me and I talked it out with him, and we came to an agreement on what he should do in case he finds himself in such a situation again.
Indecision sucks, in my opinion. I used to be more indecisive and sometimes I still am and it frustrates the fuck out of me. It's something I've worked hard to move past.
I personally find indecisive people - especially when it's really affecting them or indecision is a prime part of their personality - intolerable.
Women are supposed to be themselves. Whatever that looks like for them. Period.
For the most part a resounding yes.
BUT sometimes people make wrong decisions quickly. For example I had an opportunity to get married last year to a friend for economic benefits but not for love. Also never married a part of me just wanted to say “yes I am married” to get over the horribly unfair “creep vibe” men have to deal with (especially if they are middle aged).
At first glance I was seriously considering saying yes. But took about 6 months to think all the way through it from every angle. I got professional advice too. I decided to say no and I’m glad I did. Not only would it hurt me more in the long run economically but I would be tempted to cheat. But I don’t want to be an adulterer.
I think it's a positive trait overall, so for those few women who have it, it's a small advantage. But it's not something most men go out of their way to look for - which makes sense given how uncommon it is.
Most women definitely prefer decisive men, though, and plenty of them admit that it's because they themselves are indecisive and they need to be with someone who can make decisions.
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Decisiveness or indecisiveness
What matters is the reasons behind it
fear, desperation, impulse, prejudice, habits, ignorance, insecurities
women are incapable of removing emotion from their decisions
decisiveness is a trait fit for a leader and women are not fit to lead
Indecisiveness in anyone is pretty unattractive to me, especially if theyre 25+
You should have said to her with a straight face: "well... that was decisive of you..."
I like it. I don’t want someone who expects me to read her mind. I want someone who can be herself and tell me what she wants and needs like a adult. And if we aren’t compatible. We can break it off early.
If I offer you fries and you say no, you can’t change your mind and take any of my fries.
In general it's not in a woman's best interest to be decisive as long as she's young as not to commit to one option and totally discount the others. However, as she gets older the reproductive thinking becomes like a man, decisive.
It’s important for any human to be decisive. Gender is irrelevant
She can be indecisive, but she needs to not bitch when I make a decision she can't.
Virtuous wife in the Bible was VERY decisive. Ran her household well, was talented in a variety of skills, even held down a part-time job. Amen! Proverbs 31:10-31
I can go either way. All depends on the girl and her personality
If you listen to what women say means you nothing about what women want.
Its natural for women to be indecisive. Men make the decisions and women follow
What exactly do you mean by decisive?
Better than being indecisive at least.
It is a very good quality to have.
Always positive!
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