Why would someone initiate plans with you and then continuously reschedule and not follow through? Is this narcissistic?

[Anonymous]

It’s another woman who wanted to meet me for coffee and had questions about my career and she was interested in being friends. She just kept rescheduling then the day would come and she’d say how she’s traveling or something just so important. She also posts tons of sexy pics all over her Instagram so I feel like she’s really self revolved and just loves attention / people worshipping her. I see this with other people as well and I just start to see them as self centered and ugly after that.

[Michaeluv04]

It could be that she makes several plans and chooses what seems the most interesting to her at that time. I've know a couple people like this and they don't seem to realize the negative impact it has on others. Just my take, this person could also simply have a busy schedule and doesn't view your plans with the same priority.

[Asker]

I think it’s the first part of your answer. And I understand. But it was a repeated pattern. She’d reach out after months of disappearing and be like “so sorry! Let’s meet this week!” It’s just weird and inconsiderate of peoples time.

[Asker]

This girl in particular thinks she’s so important. She was hard to get ahold of and acts like she’s some celebrity.

[Michaeluv04]

I see. Well a pattern means she likely does this to others as well and she could just be reaching out to see what's out there for her. Not necessarily interested in building a connection with the person and getting to know them. It would be healthy to avoid such people and not allow them to bring chaos into your life rather than calm.

[Asker]

She does seem incredibly self centered. Her entire social media is pictures and selfies of herself and she’s had tons of plastic surgery.
Not trying to hate but when someone like this treats me like I’m so much less I really won’t look at them in a nice way.

[Asker]

Not to mention she’s engaged but never posts pictures of her guy.