What did I do to upset her? What was she thinking?

[Anonymous]

Before you say anything, I've known her for 3+ years. She definetely behaved very very weirdly.

I was talking to this close girl friend of mine (call her A) and I wanted to ask her opinion on a friend's relationship...

• She is always very interested in what I have to say.
• When I say that I'm not sure if I should tell her, A always goes: "Teeelll mee noww. You've made me curious."
• She never mentions her parents when she promises me she won't snitch.

However, this time, the moment I mentioned Arnold's interest, her interest completely disappeared.

She was perfectly ok in this convo until I talked about Arnie...

That is VERY odd.

The convo here:

A: "What else is on your mind?"

Me: "There is something I was thinking about but I don't know if I should tell you cuz I'm rather ashamed of saying it to you."

Me: "I mean it's not weird or anything but I'm just embarrassed. I simply don't know if I should tell you or not..."

A: "Do as you wish. I won't force you." (She became very interested here but where is the "I wanna know everything now!!" like she always says?)

Me: "Ok, I'll tell but promise me that you're not saying this to anyone else. Absolutely no one else."

A: "Not even mom or dad?" (Usually, she'd go "Ok" or "I'll do my best!"...)

Me: "No."

A: "But I can't lie to my mommy..." (Here is where she'd tell me not even her closest friend will find out.)

Me: "Okay, you can tell your family if you want. I don't see why they would be interested tho..."

A: "Ok..."

Me: "I think my friend likes Sarah."

A: "You like Sarah?"

Me: "Not me lol, I'm talking about Arnold."

(Here is where her smile disappeared just like her interest)

A: "Oh, yeah, that's pretty obvious."

Can anyone tell me what I did to upset her? She's always interested in what I have to say and very curious if I say that I'm not sure if I should tell her something. What did I do wrong? I really didn't mean to hurt her...😥

[RoseySarah]

No idea she had another thing in mind?

Hoping you would say that you liked her? Has she lost interest before?

We have a reason often emotional it's so hard when I don't know her or who she likes!

Maybe she is crushing on him!

Have you messaged her as a friend?

[Asker]

She never lost interest before. Not even when she was sad which is why I'm so concerned about her... I don't really know who she likes because we never talk about crushes or such. Rarely about our opinions on love but that's all...

I have messaged her, yes. She said she's fine and we had a discussion about Arnie recently. She said and I quote:

"No!"
"Not even close!"
"First of all, I don't think I talked to him for more than 3 minutes."
"And there is no way for me to like a person that I haven't talked to at all."

The problem is I don't think she would tell me if she was angry at me if I asked.

I talked to her about multiple things and it would seem that she doesn't wanna talk about this exact topic (Arnie's interest).

I legit have no idea what's going on... I know she didn't really date in the past so I don't know what she could be upset about...

I know you don't have a lot of info but what would you do in this scenario?

Thanks a lot for the response!!

[RoseySarah]

Welcome well just don't mention him. Sounds more like it's the guy then it's her being mad at you.

Maybe he banged her and dumped her so she is pissed at him or even just a bad look pisses some girls like this off.

She has a reason she won't share.

Just avoid it my cousin does this! So dumb then gets pissed when I do something without reading her mind first

[Asker]

I know Arnie well. He is too shy to even talk to someone. He wouldn't do such things.

But I guess you're right. I think I'm gonna go with what you said. I'd still want to help if she has any kind of problem with anyone but I'll respect her decision of not talking about him then...

Thank you again for your answer! Helped me a lot with this one cuz I was quite panicked :)

[RoseySarah]

Your welcome and yeah something has her bigged.
Maybe your right she has a crush on him and is jealous or just has some issues from rumors?

Glad to helped it's why I'm here ☺️.

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