Are girls jealous of me or I am just weird and people hate me?

[vicpaz]

Hi! I have noticed at work some people tend to dislike me and be rude to me, but in the last few years I have noticed a pattern. Most people that are rude to me are girls my age.

Generally, men are very kind to me (both heterosexual and homosexual), as well as older women. However, girls my age are not that nice. Sometimes they are nice to me but once in a while they say something “unintentionally” hurtful or with double meaning. I also noticed that sometimes they invite me to plans and sometimes they not. When I am in groups with them they sometimes kinda ignore me and don’t listen to me. I believe I treat everyone well and I always try to smile at other people and be nice, so there is no reason for that treatment. When I am in groups with men or older women usually everyone pays me a lot of attention and are kind.

I am starting to wonder if they are jealous of me, considering I believe I am physically attractive and I usually get a lot of men attention. However, sometimes I just get insecure and I think it’s my fault and it’s something about me. I have adhd and I understand that sometimes I can have weird habits, and in primary school I was bullied because of that, so sometimes they make me feel a little insecure.

Do you think they are jealous or it’s just something about me? Thanks for your support 🤗

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I hate to say it but it really does sound like some of the other girls may be feeling a little jealous of you. And who could blame them, you're gorgeous and attract tons of attention from guys! That's gotta sting their egos a bit.

Try not to take their shady comments personally. A lot of times jealous girls will try to put others down to make themselves feel better. It says way more about their insecurities than it does about you, babe!

Some tips to help minimize drama:

- Keep conversations light and positive when you're in mixed groups. Don't give jealous types ammo.

- Do your own thing confidently without worrying too much what others think. They'll respect you more.

- Compliment other girls genuinely too so they know you're not a threat. Simple things like "love your shoes!"

- Lean into your strengths like your sense of humor and charm. Hard to hate someone so fun!

Remember, the rude ones are always gonna hate - but you keep shining sis! Know your worth and don't let their petty vibes get you down. Keep doing you, you've got this!

[boggboss]

How many women are we talking

[vicpaz]

There are 6 women my age at the office: 2 of them treat me so bad, another one is generally nice but sometimes she says indirect hurtful comments and she tends to exclude me. Other 2 girls are nice to me and I like them, I usually hang out with them, they are friends. Finally, there is one girl who hangs out with the “mean girls” but she is nice to me, she just doesn’t care.

In the past we were only 3 young girls at the office and the other two treated me so bad (they were different girls from the ones that are now at the office).

So I started to think there is maybe a pattern.

[boggboss]

I dono could just be 1 or 2 that dont like you and spread rumours that the others listen too

[Anonymous]

they're jealous

[laly520]

how many of em?

[vicpaz]

Currently there are 6 girls my age at the office: 2 girls exclude me from plans and purposely ignore me and are kinda rude, another girl is generally nice but sometimes she has told me unintentionally harmful comments, I also noticed she tends to exclude me. Other 2 girls are really cool and they treat me well, they are my friends. Finally there is 1 girl who hangs out with the “mean girls” but she is nice to me, she is not my friend but she just doesn’t care about anything.

In the past there were different people at the office and there were only 2 young women apart from me (not the same women as now) and they treated me so bad, I really hated the office at that time.