Should I make contact with these girls before I see them at pub crawl or not?

[Anonymous]

its not till 2 weeks , the first Saturday in April. i know them cause i see them at bars downtown here every now and then and we've talked and bought them a shot before. i know there going to the pub crawl because there like team leaders or something. its mentioned on the site that promotes it there names and such.

i bought a ticket a few weeks back but haven't heard anything from them or the organizers , i went last year and it was pretty busy and fun night. but i didn't know these girls last year , we only meet more recently

maybe it be better if i like surprise them the night of the crawl and just show up , and then see how things go

Updates

1 mo

haven't heard anything from them yet and haven't tried to make contact , might see them Saturday when i go downtown in that city but they might of went home for Easter so not sure if i'll see them until actual night of bar crawl

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing these are the same girls from last year, and potentially the ones (or one) that you had hat whole concert fiasco happen and whether or not you should go because she’d be there. I fear this has become a bit obsessive, year after year…

[Asker]

no meet these girls around November , and seen them at bars here a few times since. there not from my area and moved here for various reasons. there from like a small town and moved to this city for school/work. is a group of 5 or 6 of them , there all doing this pub crawl

we got along well the times i saw them downtown

[Opinion Owner]

Well, at least it’s not the other girls anymore, that was concerning. With these ladies, have you spoken with them before or have decent rapport?

[Asker]

i haven't heard from that girl from my hometown since end of summer 23 so end of August 2023 , not 1 single word , i have seen some of her friends since but they won't talk to me about her , did talk to me about other stuff but not her

as for these girls meet them randomly at this bar downtown in another city ( same city pub crawl is happening in ) there ok , tight group , some have been friends since they were like little kids and from same town

no real reason to message them before , you meet at bar it starts at on night of crawl and its like a group thing so will be many people but i don't know who else is in group. i just know there in it cause there team leaders

[Opinion Owner]

Gotcha, maybe she’s moved on after graduation. Anyway, with these new girls I think it would be better to “run int them” during the bar crawl. You don’t want to make it seem like you pointedly took notice of them going (even though you did) as it could be off-putting as an older gentleman. It would be better to see them in person and maybe you can hang out during the bar crawl.

[Asker]

i'm not entirely sure what that girl is doing , don't think there is much chance i will see her again until this summer if she is around this area still. her friends won't even like talk to me about her so

well its posted online that these girls are going to that pub crawl as there team leaders , but they haven't like contacted me either but not sure they'd know i was going or not. i doubt they'd be that surprised i was at this pub crawl as i always see them downtown. i didn't go to that city this weekend though as i went out last night and too tired. and next week Easter so likely not see them either as they'd likely go home

[Anonymous]

Yes, that makes sense to me.