What just happened? Can anyone give me some actual insight?

[Anonymous]

me and this girl hit it off and the last month everything has been great like we were like a married couple to how a lot of people described us (we have known each other for awhile so they’re not like a stranger)…but the last weekend i didn’t feel well so I was quiet on the drive home and it seemed to really upset her even though I told her i didn’t feel well and this whole week she just self sabotaged at best and ended everything, she just ignored me bc she was mad and wouldn’t talk to me bc how she said my silence set her off and on Friday everything was like normal and we had plans for this one thing she was excited about and mentioned everyday for the past week that was on Sunday and when it came around she just ignored me and ghosted me when I went to pick her up which is not like her to do so after a few hours I messaged her friend saying I was concerned and after she Stella me she was done and that we can be friends and how she needed some space…which is weird to me bc for the past month it’s been her doing a majority of the reaching out and wanting to hangout almost daily and just having to get me to come to her house and stay over the nights i maybe made three plans out of the month and I never reached out that much bc she was always reaching out before I got the chance to beside me texting good morning or goodnight bc she would get upset if I didn’t. I just don’t get what happened and why she didn’t say anything besides the me being quiet when we did talk and why she was done so quick bc there were no signs besides this week of her ignoring me over a supposed one issue over one day

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that's really weird, seems like she's got some issues to work out. One minute she's all over you and the next just ghosting? Major red flags bro.

My best guess is she's got major anxiety or attachment problems. Everything was great as long as you were giving her constant attention and reassurance, but the second you weren't feeling well and closed off a bit, she spiraled.

She clearly needs someone to worship her 24/7 or she loses it. Not a good sign long term. Relationships can't be that co-dependent or one small thing makes them implode.

I'd say consider yourself lucky she showed her true colors now before you got more invested. She clearly has her own stuff to deal with and isn't ready for an adult relationship yet if she can't communicate better during problems.

Hit the gym, hang with your boys and don't sweat it man. Her issues aren't a reflection on you. Bullet dodged - plenty more fish and all that. You'll bounce back in no time, she'll be some other poor dude's headache soon enough!

[strateguy632]

because she found someone else