Boyfriend teases and groping me too much!

[Anonymous]

When teasing me, he holds me down in a really uncomfortable way, or tickles me the places he knows I'm most ticklish. But I really don't like being tickled, I HATE it, And I told him to stop, and that I'm being serious, but he doesn't seem to get that. He will also grope me in a way to tease me, which you probably don't think is so bad, but he does it ALL the time. It always gets to a point where I'll start yelling pushing him away hard, when he doesn't stop. When tickling me, I kick with all my might, like a reflex, and when I hit him, he goes all "you didn't have to hit me!", then he gets hurt or sad when I just respond with "then stop when I tell you to!". This has happened a few times, over and over, and it ends with the same result time after time.

How should I make him understand that there are just some things I don't like being done to me?

another little problem is in bed... He have had many girlfriends, and he seems to think we all like the same stuff being done to us. He thinks he's so good at everything, when he really isnt. I tried telling him softly, but he just gets offended right away. :/ I don't wanna fake orgasms, or lying that its good when it isnt. Or do most girls do that? Should I just lie?

[Stacyzee]

Sit down with your boyfriend and have a serious talk.

Do not wait for these things to happen to act on it.

Let him know you are serious.

Don't try to come off aggressive or angry toned, just sit down and speak about it in a calm manner. (Do not insult, or criticize) --This will cause an argument, or tempers to get out of control, and you two will get no where with this.

After the talk give him a hug and continue to enjoy your day with him.

When you two are intimate with each other,

Instead of trying to belittle him, why not try telling him what you do like? or guide him along the way? If you try to bash his self esteem its going to do nothing positive for your relationship.

[Asker]

Thank you. Ill try that. Its just a mood breaker to suddenly wanna have a serious talk when we are on good terms.

I have tried to "teach" him what I like down there, but he seems to have forgotten it all. :(

[Stacyzee]

I know its a mood breaker, but this is a serious issue that just can't be slid under the carpet. Just say, "Baby, I have to talk to you about something." if you bring it up now then he'll really know you're serious.

Its okay if he's forgotten what you like. When he's down there just remind him.

[Asker]

Your right. :)

I'm not the kind of girlfriend that calls him honey, nicknames like that. I prefer their name. I mean I can sometimes call him something to tease, but nothing on a regular basis. I told him this in the very beginning of our relationship, and he accepted that. The other day, he told me that I could at the very last call him nicknames when we text, or as his name on my phone. But I really don't wanna do that either. I don't wanna hurt him too much, by denying him this too?

[Stacyzee]

You are a stubborn girl that are set in her ways ;P and so is he (with certain things). But a relationship is all about compromise, sometimes you got to try to do things to make your partner happy (not just yourself). You should try to call him sweet nicknames if its something that will make him feel good. Why not? there's no harm in it.

[elliesaur]

Sounds like he's one crappy listener. Honestly I'd not be able to put up with that much, I'd think he either doesn't care or he's just too stupid to get it. Try and make him understand that communication is important and he needs to stop doing those things. Same goes for sex. If he keeps being selfish pay him back and stop doing it for a while, maybe then he'll be open to suggestions.

[Asker]

Its not that he's selfish, he just keeps thinking that what he's doing is great and awesome. =)

[elliesaur]

If you're telling him otherwise he should understand what it's actually like. My ex used to do that too, and trust me, it's selfishness.

[LadyStark]

Relationships are all about communication. You need to talk to him, and if he still doesn't listen, he's not ready to have an adult relationship.