As someone who's been studying it for decades, there are certain patterns that are horrifyingly predictable even though each individual's personality and experiences are somewhat unique. After all, if there were no patterns we could use to assess and diagnose, there'd be no such thing as psychology
I hate that I was once a "nice guy" but then I realized that I should be nice because I'm a decent human being and just because I'm nice doesn't mean a woman should feel compelled to date me or have sex with me
satire is in the eye of the beholder, so is it really satire if this is actually how so many dudes on this site seem to think? uuuuggghhhh sometimes this site makes me want to self-immolate. anyway gj.
I say you worded yourself inproperly that's why you got yourself so many down points. it's not about being nice, it's about someone trying to bribe you and trying to manipulate into thinking you have to give value back at them. this is not nice, this is bad guy 2.0
Be nice to people whom it deserve. You can be a nice person without being a doormat. Have your priorities clear. If you want more than friendship and she's not ready for it , then just leave.
They're dumb for waiting or sticking around. If you applied for a job and they told you you're not the candidate they're looking for, why show up everyday to work
nice PEOPLE are NICE. That's it, no mystery. Porceaine's (and most women who aren't bitter about her own choices in men) point here is, YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT "NICE GUYS", NOT nice guys! Fyi, "nice" girls, are far more horrible of a monster than some snivelly, whiney, man-child. A creeper is only as powerful as you let him be, unless he's straight up wacko and running his own "loco"motion schedule. An obsessed, scorned, creeper (yes, they come with vaginas nowadays too) little girl, is scary as fuck because she will never stop, and often never even make herself aware to you at all in the case of the creeper, and she will destroy lives. Either way, actual nice guys, aren't the subject here, and "nice" PEOPLE suck, across the board.
@NoFcks2Give First at all, I'm not your "sweetie". Second, I wasn't saying he was wrong, I was just clear that when someone says "Confidence is the key" is pure reassuring bullshit. People are complexed, one trait it's not what it takes to get someone's attention. It's a combination of numerous factors; actually, I have one friend who HATE when guys are upfront and only wants to be the chaser herself. I hate when people says BS psychology to confused persons, it just confuses them even more.
@Lovvyyy You mistake confidence for indifference. It's part psychological, part physiological. Men, typically, get used to rejection because it happens A LOT, so though most men don't realize that their pathology towards women in dating has changed in a psychological way, they are using cognitive dissonance to affect their approach, not the outcome. Also, we tend to separate the woman (the person) and the goal (sex).
It's not a conscious thing for most men. I personally think it's natural causality.
P. S. Thanks for the reaction I was looking for... sweetie. That's psychology.
@NoFcks2Give Stop calling me that. I do react to people using words who they should, I get triggered easily and I'm very proud of that. I'm not someone who's just going to listen to and be quite. Never had, neverl will.
GOT OURSELVES A FEMINAZI HERE GUYS!!! Being called sweety gets her TRIGGERED!!! omg!! Listen here kiddo. You think you know but you have yet to learn shit. Buckle up sweety! Your gonna be triggered a lot. So get the TAMPON outta your ass. And be a normal person instead of being what appears to be an intolrable bitch..
How did you come to this consensus? Im far from a pussy kid. Served This country. Fought the war on drugs and terrorism. I've been shot at over drugs mother fucker. Do you know what thats like? probably not. The only thing thats kept me from going after women now a days is the simple fact that most of them think theyre too good for any average looking guy like myself. That and theyre rude as fuck now a days. For you to call nice guys pussys.. you need to see things from an actual nice guys prospective first kid. Im by no means a fake nice guy either. I was raised by my grandparents. so i have a lot o fthe old traditional stuff that they taught me. and what I've learned from dealing with real life situations. there's a saying. Dont judge a book by its cover. It holds truth.
@Lovvyyy I dont do i? Then why is half the shit you spouted feminist counteracts? And I may be older but that just brings experience with life. I was serving my country probably before you were a sperm in your daddys ball sack.
A usual nice guy is the reason why females nowadays have their heads gassed up and have themselves on a pedestal. Nice guys put them on that pedestal. Ever look at a Instagram model's comments on 1 of her pics showing her ass? Always a bunch of thirsty nice guys gassing the girl's head up inflating that ego. Its one thing to comment on a photo of a person you know IRL but when your a complete stranger commenting heart emojis and commenting something like "OOOO SO SEXY!" not only is it sad but you gas the ego of a female and thats the last thing you wanna do.
A nice guy is also the dude that gets walked on by females and always says yes to everything. This why females fuck around w/ Real men or "bad boys"/ Alpha males/Macho men/ whatever you wanna call them with that BIG DAWG mentality. y'all are being too nice to the point where you just end up submissive and thats not an attractive trait for females. So you end up in the friendzone.
I wouldn't say i place them on a pedestal. But i do compliment them. And do the random surprises, dates stuff like that. I never worship them. But it is what it is. Its their loss on all of that.
I was brought up to respect everyone. That was just my upbringing. Me being a jerk isn't in me. And i really hate having to use these hands. I get so angry in the moment most of the time i end up getting tased by a cop because people can't pull me off the dude im beating on. Yeah i might be a beta male. But its just a stupid ass label brought on by society so people could categorize everyone so others can feel inferior or whatever the word is.
@Sspaulding728 a Nice Guy by internet terminology is someone who pretend to be nice, and then complains and starts insulting if rejected. Also, what would be feminist shit that I said?
@Lovvyyy Everything you were saying was feminist propeganda. He needs to be confident, Grow some balls. Shit like that. Guys can't help that they are shy. And we can help that women are rude to guys like us because for some ungodly reason they seem to think were inadequate. And this internet terminology bs is exactly that. BS. I am a nice guy. When i say that. I simply mean I compliment, Do random dates, movies surprises. stuff like that. On top of treat everyone else with respect. Yeah it may get me walked over sometimes but people are ass holes. Its fucked up that there's this stigma about nice guys like me. Because piece of shit ass holes abused the nice guy card one too many times. So now real legit nice guys end up suffering because of it. Im not a fling kind of guy. I can't just go and stick my dick in any chick. I mean I could but its just not who i am. Imma long term kind of guy. But nobody seems to want that anymore and it kills guys that are looking for that companionship.
@Sspaulding728 What the fuck are you talking about lmao. I like confidence in men, I just said that A FRIEND OF MINE DOESN'T. People are not binary. Don't put words in my mouth.
@Sspaulding728 And when I said "if I don't like you in the first place, you can be as confident as you want, my answer will always be no" I was referring to the physical attribute, meaning that confidence is not all it matters, not that it doesn't count at all.
@villageidiot closet homosexuality? really? thats the best you can come up with dude? stupid ass kid. shut your dick hole. If we were face to face youd be saying different right about now because id be putting your face through a fucking wall. Learn your place kiddo. Dont fuck with grown ups unless you can back it up.
@villageidiot Yeah it is. But at least i can back up my action. You think your all big and bad because you talk shit to someone on the internet. Just be careful kid. There are others out there that are less tolerable towards stupid people and will hunt you down.
Why women should feel bad for losers? The problem with nice guys is that they're not nice in fact they're scum bags they just don't have the guts to show that besides they're usually boring , creepy and beta.
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Dear @MytakeAuthor of “To the girl whose dating an asshole”
Please read this.
As someone studying psychology you are wrong because everyone has different personality with different views.
As someone who's been studying it for decades, there are certain patterns that are horrifyingly predictable even though each individual's personality and experiences are somewhat unique. After all, if there were no patterns we could use to assess and diagnose, there'd be no such thing as psychology
I hate that I was once a "nice guy" but then I realized that I should be nice because I'm a decent human being and just because I'm nice doesn't mean a woman should feel compelled to date me or have sex with me
satire is in the eye of the beholder, so is it really satire if this is actually how so many dudes on this site seem to think? uuuuggghhhh sometimes this site makes me want to self-immolate. anyway gj.
Anyone who complains about being a nice guy... Probably isn't a nice guy to begin with.
Girls don't respect sac-less guys who struggle to find the courage to even show real interest. True story.
Nice guys are just sleezey, passive aggressive creeps who think women are vending machines where if you put in enough nice points, sex falls out.
I say you worded yourself inproperly that's why you got yourself so many down points. it's not about being nice, it's about someone trying to bribe you and trying to manipulate into thinking you have to give value back at them. this is not nice, this is bad guy 2.0
@OpenWine maybe I should have said “nice guys” because you’re right, they’re really just bad guys pretending to be nice.
nah this is not nice. giving a simple word too many meanings is bad, bad girl.
I will upvote for Nice Guy Prewdiepie at least.
Also, yeah, I agree with the premise. One always has the choice to remain in the friendzone or not.
Be nice to people whom it deserve. You can be a nice person without being a doormat. Have your priorities clear. If you want more than friendship and she's not ready for it , then just leave.
Well I do feel bad for them; their hopes are always so inspiring but it hardly ever works out for them.
this has no context really. it's like reading stale pasta on 4chan.
They're dumb for waiting or sticking around. If you applied for a job and they told you you're not the candidate they're looking for, why show up everyday to work
Nice guys aren't actually nice. They might be nice by their standards but they aren't nice by God's standards.
good lord. and you of course are nice by all standards, aren't you?
@Porcelaine yes I am
not even close
How do you go about defining and drawing the lines for these standards.
nice PEOPLE are NICE. That's it, no mystery. Porceaine's (and most women who aren't bitter about her own choices in men) point here is, YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT "NICE GUYS", NOT nice guys! Fyi, "nice" girls, are far more horrible of a monster than some snivelly, whiney, man-child. A creeper is only as powerful as you let him be, unless he's straight up wacko and running his own "loco"motion schedule. An obsessed, scorned, creeper (yes, they come with vaginas nowadays too) little girl, is scary as fuck because she will never stop, and often never even make herself aware to you at all in the case of the creeper, and she will destroy lives. Either way, actual nice guys, aren't the subject here, and "nice" PEOPLE suck, across the board.
Once you get really old, you'll feel all of these feelings, because they'll be your only options.
They will have a mustache and you will call them a naughty boy. They drive a pickup and you love them.
So in conclusion, better to be a genuine asshole than a fake flake. I win!
I don't understand why guys even LET it affect them.
I LOVED this!!! And I can't tell you how much I can relate to this ❤
Nice guys are pussys always complaining n shit.
Gotta go after what you want my guy
Honestly, if I don't like you in the first place, you can be as confident as you want, my answer will always be "no".
@Lovvyyy rejection apart of life
pussy all over
@Lovvyyy It's a numbers game sweetie. If I can't fuck with you, then I'll fuck with her. That's what he means.
@NoFcks2Give First at all, I'm not your "sweetie". Second, I wasn't saying he was wrong, I was just clear that when someone says "Confidence is the key" is pure reassuring bullshit. People are complexed, one trait it's not what it takes to get someone's attention. It's a combination of numerous factors; actually, I have one friend who HATE when guys are upfront and only wants to be the chaser herself.
I hate when people says BS psychology to confused persons, it just confuses them even more.
@Lovvyyy
You mistake confidence for indifference. It's part psychological, part physiological. Men, typically, get used to rejection because it happens A LOT, so though most men don't realize that their pathology towards women in dating has changed in a psychological way, they are using cognitive dissonance to affect their approach, not the outcome. Also, we tend to separate the woman (the person) and the goal (sex).
It's not a conscious thing for most men. I personally think it's natural causality.
P. S. Thanks for the reaction I was looking for... sweetie. That's psychology.
@NoFcks2Give Stop calling me that. I do react to people using words who they should, I get triggered easily and I'm very proud of that. I'm not someone who's just going to listen to and be quite. Never had, neverl will.
@NoFcks2Give Also, BS 1 on 1 psychology is the shit.
Daaamn why you salty though? He ain't say nothing serious but you mad for what
GOT OURSELVES A FEMINAZI HERE GUYS!!! Being called sweety gets her TRIGGERED!!! omg!! Listen here kiddo. You think you know but you have yet to learn shit. Buckle up sweety! Your gonna be triggered a lot. So get the TAMPON outta your ass. And be a normal person instead of being what appears to be an intolrable bitch..
@Sspaulding728 lmao, Feminazi. I hate feminism, so you really don't know what the hell you are talking about. Try again, old man.
How did you come to this consensus? Im far from a pussy kid. Served This country. Fought the war on drugs and terrorism. I've been shot at over drugs mother fucker. Do you know what thats like? probably not. The only thing thats kept me from going after women now a days is the simple fact that most of them think theyre too good for any average looking guy like myself. That and theyre rude as fuck now a days. For you to call nice guys pussys.. you need to see things from an actual nice guys prospective first kid. Im by no means a fake nice guy either. I was raised by my grandparents. so i have a lot o fthe old traditional stuff that they taught me. and what I've learned from dealing with real life situations. there's a saying. Dont judge a book by its cover. It holds truth.
@Lovvyyy I dont do i? Then why is half the shit you spouted feminist counteracts? And I may be older but that just brings experience with life. I was serving my country probably before you were a sperm in your daddys ball sack.
Depends on what u define as a nice guy.
A usual nice guy is the reason why females nowadays have their heads gassed up and have themselves on a pedestal. Nice guys put them on that pedestal. Ever look at a Instagram model's comments on 1 of her pics showing her ass? Always a bunch of thirsty nice guys gassing the girl's head up inflating that ego. Its one thing to comment on a photo of a person you know IRL but when your a complete stranger commenting heart emojis and commenting something like "OOOO SO SEXY!" not only is it sad but you gas the ego of a female and thats the last thing you wanna do.
A nice guy is also the dude that gets walked on by females and always says yes to everything. This why females fuck around w/ Real men or "bad boys"/ Alpha males/Macho men/ whatever you wanna call them with that BIG DAWG mentality. y'all are being too nice to the point where you just end up submissive and thats not an attractive trait for females. So you end up in the friendzone.
I wouldn't say i place them on a pedestal. But i do compliment them. And do the random surprises, dates stuff like that. I never worship them. But it is what it is. Its their loss on all of that.
I was brought up to respect everyone. That was just my upbringing. Me being a jerk isn't in me. And i really hate having to use these hands. I get so angry in the moment most of the time i end up getting tased by a cop because people can't pull me off the dude im beating on. Yeah i might be a beta male. But its just a stupid ass label brought on by society so people could categorize everyone so others can feel inferior or whatever the word is.
@Sspaulding728 a Nice Guy by internet terminology is someone who pretend to be nice, and then complains and starts insulting if rejected. Also, what would be feminist shit that I said?
@Lovvyyy Everything you were saying was feminist propeganda. He needs to be confident, Grow some balls. Shit like that. Guys can't help that they are shy. And we can help that women are rude to guys like us because for some ungodly reason they seem to think were inadequate. And this internet terminology bs is exactly that. BS. I am a nice guy. When i say that. I simply mean I compliment, Do random dates, movies surprises. stuff like that. On top of treat everyone else with respect. Yeah it may get me walked over sometimes but people are ass holes. Its fucked up that there's this stigma about nice guys like me. Because piece of shit ass holes abused the nice guy card one too many times. So now real legit nice guys end up suffering because of it. Im not a fling kind of guy. I can't just go and stick my dick in any chick. I mean I could but its just not who i am. Imma long term kind of guy. But nobody seems to want that anymore and it kills guys that are looking for that companionship.
@Sspaulding728 What the fuck are you talking about lmao. I like confidence in men, I just said that A FRIEND OF MINE DOESN'T. People are not binary. Don't put words in my mouth.
@Sspaulding728 And when I said "if I don't like you in the first place, you can be as confident as you want, my answer will always be no" I was referring to the physical attribute, meaning that confidence is not all it matters, not that it doesn't count at all.
who are you talking to?
@Lovvyyy You're arguing with some real "IQ's" Can't you smell the ignorance?
Let me guess,, you sell crack on E.125th
@Sspaulding728 Have some cranberry juice and take a midol.
You have great affection for that word. hmmmm... get cramps much?
@Sspaulding728 And got thrown out for blowing a boy scout.
@Sspaulding728 Boy, that word really sets you off. A good therapist can help you come to terms with your self loathing closeted homosexuality
@villageidiot closet homosexuality? really? thats the best you can come up with dude? stupid ass kid. shut your dick hole. If we were face to face youd be saying different right about now because id be putting your face through a fucking wall. Learn your place kiddo. Dont fuck with grown ups unless you can back it up.
@Sspaulding728 Easy tosay on the net
@villageidiot Yeah it is. But at least i can back up my action. You think your all big and bad because you talk shit to someone on the internet. Just be careful kid. There are others out there that are less tolerable towards stupid people and will hunt you down.
@Sspaulding728 #@$
Why women should feel bad for losers? The problem with nice guys is that they're not nice in fact they're scum bags they just don't have the guts to show that besides they're usually boring , creepy and beta.
I feel so triggered, somebody get me a tissue (get your mind out the gutter).
😂😂 I didn't even think about it till you continued on. Loved your comment