Why do men get upset when their girlfriends wear revealing clothing? (Page 2)

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Okay, so my boyfriend and I are not on good terms right now, because in my eyes, he's being really stupid.  So I went to a club last night, which is a rarity for me. And before I left I Snapchatted my boyfriend a pic of me saying, "I'm going out tonight. :)" and I was wearing that dress that I posted a picture on here of. And he texted me saying, "wow, that's fucked up" and I replied, "I think you're fucked up." And then he responded almost instantaneously, "going out looking like that is fucked up." I guess I should also mention that before this we had a little mini fight earlier that day, because I might be pregnant and he's not super thrilled about that.  And it really upset me, because he usually let's me wear whatever I want and do whatever I want without being controlling or getting upset. So I said, "Oh, sorry, DAD. I didn't know you all of a sudden had authority over me. You have no problem with me dressing like a slut when we go out." And he said that it was okay for me to dress like that when we're together.  ... Seriously? But anyway, I still went out and I wore the dress and I had a great time, and I texted him when I got home at like 3AM, "You're probably asleep, but I want you to know that I'm home and I'm safe. And I didn't get raped. Goodnight. :*" And I think he's pissed cus he hasn't texted me back, but I don't care, because I don't think I should have to dress a certain way when I'm not with him.  Why do you think he said this? Do you think that he might have thought I would cheat on him? I think that's why I was so upset, because I feel like he doesn't trust me enough to know that I would never cheat on anyone ever, not just him. Also, do you think his behavior is fair?

BryanMoore · Answer

insecurity. They are worried someone else might show an interest and you'll run off with them. It's not a statement on you, but how they see themselves. Some men try to control what a woman wears to combat this. But that's not fair and you should be able to express yourself and embrace your body however you want!

Shy_Steve · Answer

Because he knows other Guys would be Staring at you, So it's like your advertising yourself to other Guys when your with him.

How would you feel if He Advertised himself to other Girls, It is just being Respectful to your Guy if you wear something more Conservative when going to places like that.

No Guy is going to tolerate that if you keep doing it.

Jay3344 · Answer

So flip the situation…you tell him you’re pregnant and he goes out to the club until 3 am without You. But it’s ok he texted you what he was wearing and it was hot…and you were mad but he still went out and then texted you when he got home. Thoughts?

AdamThomas · Answer

Well I'm glad I wouldn't even have to say anything to my girlfriend about this, she just wouldn't dress like a slut anyway.

noneoftheabove · Answer

Definitely insecurity. Most lads are scared that you'll cheat on them cause dressing in a certain way is bound to get attention. At the end of the day you're not his possession you still have your own life.

DivaMonae · Answer

It's because he's your boyfriend and he doesn't want other guys to check you out.

And that dress is kind of an attention getter but over all you deserve to look good and he shouldn't be so jealous and learn to trust you more.

Stoplayingdumb · Answer

Here’s my opinion. Women that say they dress revealing so they can “feel good about themselves” is bullshit. You wanna know what really makes you feel good about yourselves. When you go outside and your tits are halfway out the damn shirt and that dude/chick passing by you stares at you like you’re so sexy. THATS what makes you feel good and it’s fucked up.

ernward · Answer

If you are "hot", flaunt it! If you are married it is a different thing. If committed and you did not get screwed, you just had a good time like ladies do. Showing a little bit is good for you. Show some T&A, does not hurt. A guy likes when a girl shows him a tease ;)

Ildskf · Answer

Yeah... he sounds really jealous and insecure... If my BF did that I'd have a serious heart to heart with him

EpicSnail · Answer

So like if your boyfriend goes to the club with his buddies and the top three buttons of his shirt undone, you are fine with that? I don't endorse controlling behavior, but jealousy evolved for a reason.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most men are insecure. The men that don't have those insecurities are the real keepers.

Ihav2fart · Answer

My girlfriend can wear w/e the hell she likes as long as she's coming home to me and know the consequences of wearing those type of clothing.

DonkeyRick69 · Answer

I'm the same. Whenever I go out in an outfit that reveals my balls my girlfriend is all up in my face

linds34 · Answer

It's controlling, you should be able to wear whatever you want. What did the dress look like?

Staximus · Answer

Seriously? How else did you expect him to act? You're clueless. 100% of the guys at clubs are looking for sex. They sure as hell aren't there just to dance.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Revealing clothing, got into an argument, and going out to a club without him, and you're asking this? How is it not obvious to you? He thought you were looking for someone else.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I’m flattered if my man doesn’t want me to show off my body to the world.

mommymommymommy · Answer

He's pussy whipped. He's letting you do whatever you want. There's no compromise. That's not a healthy relationship

najekim · Answer

Never bothered me when my ladies wore revealing clothing. They got looks of wanting, but I got looks of being the lucky bastard with her.

fritseyy · Answer

I'm exactly like him maybe because I'm scared to loose her but I trust her and don't want any guys giving attention to her but yeah my girlfiend gets lowkey mad but finds it cute

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