My ex is spreading rumors about me and telling this new guy not to talk to me. what can I do about this?

[Carlyyyyyydeeeen]

This guy I used to talk to and hooked up with at my school is now talking crap about me to everyone on campus. I was starting to talk to another guy on his team and he told this new guy not to talk to me because I'm crazy, etc. I've heard from numerous people that he has been talking bad about me to them. Like he is trying to get everyone to dislike me. He told people I accused him of raping me, which is just not true. We didn't even have sex. What can I do if anything about this situation? Especially since now he is saying stuff about me to this new guy I like

[Fredio234]

I can see what kind of situation your in. First, I'm sorry to hear that your going through with this in college ( I'm assuming your in college, hope I'm not wrong). It looks to me that he's incredibly immature and the fact that he's spreading negligent rumors about you prove that. If I were you, I would talk about it with whom your interested in. You should say something along the lines, "I'm worried you heard some bad rumors about from an ex of mine, but in reality it was a (bad or normal) break-up." Then ask him to give you a chance to explain. This could tell you a couple things, whether or not he's nice and understanding or just ill-mannered. It will also show how immature your ex has been and would turn the tables against him. I think honesty is key and very important to, but you should decide what important to you and weigh your options. Of course you can confront your ex about it, but personally I don't think that will do you any good. If you can turn the tables on him and convince the guy your interested in that the rumors are fake then he can back you up and more people will follow. However that's how I see it, could be wrong. No man should spread rumors about a girl, because it's disrespectful and childish. I really hope this helps and that things get better for you.

[Carlyyyyyydeeeen]

Yeah this helps a lot, thanks! I talked to the new guy about it and he said he did tell him stuff about me but that he isn't going to listen to him. so that's good

[Fredio234]

Glad I could help. I'm happy to hear that he understands and he won't listen to him. I hope your ex stops with rumors.

[isaacb99]

He still has feelings for you.

Enough feelings that make him do what he's doing now.

He doesn't want to see anyone with you.

Me and my friends have shared girls in the past. If I didn't want to share one, it was because I had feelings for her.

[rjroy3]

You talk to him directly and tell him to stop. He's acting like a petty bitch and you two were never together

[rjroy3]

You should also tell the new guy that he is upset with you because things didn't work out. And now is just trying to make you look bad. Whatever you do, don't talk trash about him behind his back tho. When other people see he is the only one doing it, they will know who is really crazy

[Carlyyyyyydeeeen]

Yeah he's acting really immature, but thanks! I talked to the new guy and he said he trusts me over him anyway

[rjroy3]

That's generally the case. I've dealt with the exact same situation as you. My ex and I never would have gotten together if she believed the lies. It will work out if you handle things properly

[Anonymous]

You may have fucked him over... and is now lashing out. Obviously an immature dude, however, if you're going after his friends, that's a no no as well