i have to say that I do this... I think that I like the guy and genuiley at first I do like him, but as soon as I no he likes me back, I don't like him anymore, he gets like old, and I guess you could say we just want a lot of guys to like us, and we see if we can get them to like us... it kinda is a tease or a game. we like to girl gossip and say "oh so and so thinks I'm hott. " lol
No offense, but isn't that rather stupid? I'm not calling you stupid, it's just that as a guy I don't want to waste my time with girls who just want to see how many guys they can string along. How can I tell when a girl is like this?
Honestly yes, it is very stupid,..Usually when a girl is leading a guy on, she will flirt a lot, then two minutes later, be flirting with someone else. Also, the girl won't respond back to your text messages, phone calls, or Facebook messages or wall posts. If a girl is truly interested in a guy, she will makes time (no matter how "busy" she says she is), to text you back or calls you. Also, if you ask if she is taken or not, and she doesn't say yes or no. She just avoids the question altogether
Well thanks again for your honesty. I still believe respect is the way to go. You can respect a person's feelings without getting all boring and serious, if excitement is what you're after. You can still have fun--and communicate it to a guy you're dating, whether you want to keep seeing him or not--without totally disregarding a guy's feelings. Do girls grow out of the whole "hook 'em and dump 'em" thing? I really hope so...
You are right. Guys do this all the time to female when it 's some much easier to be up front and tell that person that you are not really feeling them like that but you are willing to give it a try and see how things work out. Instead we play with people emotions than leave them high and dry and most of all confused. This anit a good look. Just be up front and tell that person that you are not looking for a relationship just friendship and that way when things don't work out you already know that person wasn't in it for the long run anyway.
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I've done this before. Not ever intentionally or anything. The times I've done it was when I jumped into the relationship before actually getting to know the guy and a couple months in finding out I really don't like him more then a friend. That's why for me I always try to get the know the guy at least a little bit before getting too involved.
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theres are the options
1.she doesn't like you anymore
2 she 's playing hard to get
3or she s upset with something you told her ( like me a guy flirted with me but then he said if he could he would start talking to a girl he always liked but never asked out so am not talking to him anymore)
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i know that I have probably led a guy on before,
but I didn't mean to. if that makes sense I guess
maybe the girl wasn't getting the reaction from you that she wanted
or there was too much of a pattern and it didn't seem like
you were serious.
it could also be really simple, and she was a tease.
Girls and guys both do this.I feel we all have a lot to learn and hope later in the future there will be a major change,but we should all remember that not all guys do it and not all girls do it.
It could be any of those, it all depends on the girl. I have a friend who qualifies as "other", she is just really afraid to get close to guys, so if things start moving faster than she is prepared for, she ends it fast.
I know of some of my friends that have done this before, they did it because they really didn't want to hurt the person, I do think feelings are hurt in the end anyways but that is what I have heard.
girls want to dump before getting dumped. if they do that then they feel insecure and that you want to leae her, so she beats you to the punch to save herself the pain.
The second possibility you mentioned is understandable, in that case she should simply come clean and tell me. Parting ways after one, two, even three dates is perfectly fine. But the first part makes NO sense, and is rather cruel and insensitive, NOT "too nice." Why date a guy you're not into--which makes the guy think you ARE into him? That's the heart of my question.
Yes, but why date him a second, third, fourth time...and so on...(she should know if she likes him by this time) and the guy is beginning to warm up to her and suddenly she just cuts him off?
from my experience...i do lead on guys but it doesn't mean I'm interested. We girls are like guys, messing around and having fun flirting with guys would be relaxing. But always...wen a girl really like someone, they might go a little flirty with some other guys but in their hea is always one guy.
you boys probabl thinks you can do but girls do it too just to make them feel a little better.
Hahaha. and sometimes wen a girl doesn't feel good as in sad becasue of one certain boy and something in her life...she would want someone who would comfort her and boys are the best comforter
I'm ashamed to say I've done it once or twice in my life. The reason? I knew the guy liked me, and that felt nice, if I had shown that I wasn't interested he would have moved on and I would go back to feeling unloved.
Women feed on attention and in todays feminist world, men are play toys. Only way to beat the game is to play the game. As 3oh!3 says, Don't trust the ho
well honestly I'm what people call a tease , I just do it cause I'm bored, lmao
Im in a relationship now , but if I flirt with another guy its cause I just want a little bit off new stuff , so my relationship is like a safety net ...
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i have to say that I do this... I think that I like the guy and genuiley at first I do like him, but as soon as I no he likes me back, I don't like him anymore, he gets like old, and I guess you could say we just want a lot of guys to like us, and we see if we can get them to like us... it kinda is a tease or a game. we like to girl gossip and say "oh so and so thinks I'm hott. " lol
No offense, but isn't that rather stupid? I'm not calling you stupid, it's just that as a guy I don't want to waste my time with girls who just want to see how many guys they can string along. How can I tell when a girl is like this?
Honestly yes, it is very stupid,..Usually when a girl is leading a guy on, she will flirt a lot, then two minutes later, be flirting with someone else. Also, the girl won't respond back to your text messages, phone calls, or Facebook messages or wall posts. If a girl is truly interested in a guy, she will makes time (no matter how "busy" she says she is), to text you back or calls you. Also, if you ask if she is taken or not, and she doesn't say yes or no. She just avoids the question altogether
This is a pretty lame ass idea. How do you expect to get into a relationship with guy, if you have this mindest?
I don't do all that but I'm just saying, girls do think they can do taht
Well thanks again for your honesty. I still believe respect is the way to go. You can respect a person's feelings without getting all boring and serious, if excitement is what you're after. You can still have fun--and communicate it to a guy you're dating, whether you want to keep seeing him or not--without totally disregarding a guy's feelings. Do girls grow out of the whole "hook 'em and dump 'em" thing? I really hope so...
Lol yea they'll grow out of it and get ready to have a real relationship.
You are right. Guys do this all the time to female when it 's some much easier to be up front and tell that person that you are not really feeling them like that but you are willing to give it a try and see how things work out. Instead we play with people emotions than leave them high and dry and most of all confused. This anit a good look. Just be up front and tell that person that you are not looking for a relationship just friendship and that way when things don't work out you already know that person wasn't in it for the long run anyway.
I've done this before. Not ever intentionally or anything. The times I've done it was when I jumped into the relationship before actually getting to know the guy and a couple months in finding out I really don't like him more then a friend. That's why for me I always try to get the know the guy at least a little bit before getting too involved.
theres are the options
1.she doesn't like you anymore
2 she 's playing hard to get
3or she s upset with something you told her ( like me a guy flirted with me but then he said if he could he would start talking to a girl he always liked but never asked out so am not talking to him anymore)
i know that I have probably led a guy on before,
but I didn't mean to. if that makes sense I guess
maybe the girl wasn't getting the reaction from you that she wanted
or there was too much of a pattern and it didn't seem like
you were serious.
it could also be really simple, and she was a tease.
sometimes theyre obvious. or sometimes not
Because some girls are just mean
Or they like you but there's something about you that turns them off
What would turn you off of a guy that you could otherwise have liked?
Girls and guys both do this.I feel we all have a lot to learn and hope later in the future there will be a major change,but we should all remember that not all guys do it and not all girls do it.
Peace!
It could be any of those, it all depends on the girl. I have a friend who qualifies as "other", she is just really afraid to get close to guys, so if things start moving faster than she is prepared for, she ends it fast.
I know of some of my friends that have done this before, they did it because they really didn't want to hurt the person, I do think feelings are hurt in the end anyways but that is what I have heard.
I'm not exactly sure how "leading" someone on constitutes as hurting the person less.
Neither do I
girls want to dump before getting dumped. if they do that then they feel insecure and that you want to leae her, so she beats you to the punch to save herself the pain.
Sometimes theyr not into you and are just being nice. But sometimes they are genuine and do like you but then realise your not the right person.
The second possibility you mentioned is understandable, in that case she should simply come clean and tell me. Parting ways after one, two, even three dates is perfectly fine. But the first part makes NO sense, and is rather cruel and insensitive, NOT "too nice." Why date a guy you're not into--which makes the guy think you ARE into him? That's the heart of my question.
She might have just gone on the date just to see if she liked you or not?
Yes, but why date him a second, third, fourth time...and so on...(she should know if she likes him by this time) and the guy is beginning to warm up to her and suddenly she just cuts him off?
some just like the attention, but it's possible she actually liked the guy then got to know him and found out more about him and changed her mind.
well..
Guys cheat Girls for a Night, Girls cheat Guys for the rest of your life...
also, she might be juggling a few guys and decide on one (the other gets dumped)
I find this is a less common reason (only once from my own experiences) - girls are much less polyamorous than guys.
from my experience...i do lead on guys but it doesn't mean I'm interested. We girls are like guys, messing around and having fun flirting with guys would be relaxing. But always...wen a girl really like someone, they might go a little flirty with some other guys but in their hea is always one guy.
you boys probabl thinks you can do but girls do it too just to make them feel a little better.
True that lol
Hahaha. and sometimes wen a girl doesn't feel good as in sad becasue of one certain boy and something in her life...she would want someone who would comfort her and boys are the best comforter
I'm ashamed to say I've done it once or twice in my life. The reason? I knew the guy liked me, and that felt nice, if I had shown that I wasn't interested he would have moved on and I would go back to feeling unloved.
That was very bitchy of you...but I do respect ur honesty. :)
Women feed on attention and in todays feminist world, men are play toys. Only way to beat the game is to play the game. As 3oh!3 says, Don't trust the ho
well honestly I'm what people call a tease , I just do it cause I'm bored, lmao
Im in a relationship now , but if I flirt with another guy its cause I just want a little bit off new stuff , so my relationship is like a safety net ...
Having your relationship be a "safety net" doesn't show much commitment to the guy you're with...
Its cause its not LOVEEE , its more like infatuation....
Even if its not right, at least you're honest about it.
Because it is fun