Do Men Really Want Women To Play Traditional Roles?

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I'm only asking because I just saw a question where someone asked why should men always pay for a first date. I almost responded, but then I realized something. There are a lot of questions on here where men want to know why women don't pay for dates or why they don't court men or why they want to be stay at home moms, but then bitch out a feminist who thinks women should be treated equally like a man. And, no, I'm not a feminist, but why do you have a problem with women not doing what men usually do, which is approach us and pay for us and what have you, but then hate feminism? 

So I'm confused. Do you want women to play traditional roles or do you want them to be equal to men when it comes to roles? It just seems like men are a bit wishy washy on the entire issue, at least on this site.

hellionthesage · Accepted Answer

For me its not an issue either way, I preffer traditional gender roles, they are defined their is no confusion on responsiblities or what your suppose to do and it divies up labor in an affective manner where no one can complain that the other isn't doing their part ie he comes home from work and she complains he isn't doing laundry or he doing all the laundry but then is also expected to go out and get a job. However the issue I have is when women say they are traditional and then say how they want to be treated the same as men (since traditional roles where equal, it just didn't pretend like we where the same because we are not). I find most women who claim to be traditional really mean that they believe the man should be traditional in all ways and she gets to do what ever she wants. Thats the issue I have personally. I imagine that other men would want either one of them but not both. I would say that due to our current enviorment that some alterations are necessary, like her working because quite honestly I don't think one income is enough to maintain a family, at least not unless your upper middleclass or better.

Mesonfielde · Accepted Answer

Well I don't hate feminism, I hate how there are a bunch of women who are "semi-traditional" in the sense that they say they're "traditional" but are against having a family, think all guys are douchebags, and are serial daters because they say A True Man Will Pay For The First Date Because He Is A Man

These women are the most sexist individuals on the entire face of the planet, gold diggers from the get-go. You should expect to pay for your own half. The fact that the other person offers is an act of kindness.

I'd be fine if they just dismissed the notion of "roles" altogether. The only role a woman has in extra is that they're the ones who give birth, and that's because I'm literally biologically incapable of doing that. Otherwise, we're equal, and you shouldn't expect me to do sex-specific stuff for you just because I have a penis and you don't.

I have no idea what penises have to do with paying for dates.

PonyCar · Accepted Answer

Every single person on the planet wants to have their cake and eat it too. It doesn't matter you sex, gender, socioeconomic status, marital status, or any other demographic information you can list. The difference is that some people realize they can't do both and come to terms with it, while others just sit there like whiny children bemoaning their lack of cake.

Guys want girls to pay so they don't have to.
Guys want girls to ask them out, so they don't have to bring up the courage to do so themselves.
Guys want girls to stay home and take care of the children so they don't have to (or so they can have their emotional provider needs fulfilled).
Guys want girls to take responsibility for things, so they don't have to.

Now, switch "Guy" with "Girl" in the above statements and they remain true.

Point is, the more Person A does, the less Person B has to do. Person B can afford to have more time, more resources and less responsibility so long as they can continue taking advantage of Person A.

Equality is about work and most people (from my experience) are lazy f*ckers.

phil2 · Accepted Answer

I asked my husband if he was single and if he wanted to hang out. He said he was single and sorry he didn't sweep me off my feet. Then I asked him if he liked me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. Honestly I think that in our relationship, even though we are a traditional family as in he works and I stay at home with the kids I also do everything else. I manage all the money and I manage the house and cars. He only works. I also manage the food, kids, vacation and everything in between because he says he's lazy and doesn't care.

LaVilaine · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I think it's both. People who were raised in conservative households (aka not me) want to fall into traditional roles. My dad was raised very traditionally, and can often be resentful of my mother working instead of keeping the house. However, he doesn't want that for me.

Men want the opposite for their daughters of what they want for their wives.

LittleMissCuriousity · Accepted Answer

I think women should do what comes naturally to them. If they feel comfortable pursuing men, asking them out and what not, I think they should. If they have the money to pay for dates, I don't see why they shouldn't. If they enjoy being stay at home moms or prefer having a career, they should do that.
What do men really want? I have no idea.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I love gender rolls no shame at all in that but I also have no issues with women working if they want to, my only issue comes when that job or career takes priority over your family, that' when the issues start. Especially if the child is young because a child needs his or her mother, they are a vital part of their development and growth.

As the Gypsy saying goes.
Togetherness of the family is important. In a balanced family the man and the woman do not compete against one another. The man is the head of the family and the woman is the heart of it - both are important for the well being of the family.

abundantlyrich · Answer

They still think today they are still re living the 1950s. Its outdated thinking.

But mind you, they also have mental illness and are sexist. I never knew anything Bout feminism until i came to this site And kept seeing the same old repetitive posts about them.

Anonymous · Answer

The reason for this is because of the hypocrisy. A bit like the traditional roles takes we had. All the girls were criticizing the guy one saying we should end male traditional roles and ridiculing him, but on the reverse take they were agreeing and praising it. And it was the same people. A bit like a question about women demanding men change their looks to suit women. Most women said that women had the right to demand their guy change his looks. Women need to stop trying to have things both ways.

atomique · Answer

Vote D Freedom. As long as its lawful and doesn't harm others do what you wish. Pursue happiness.

If a guy wants to be a househusband, sure why not? Its not my jam and I won't judge guys that want this for whatever reason.
If a lady wants to be a powerful career woman and not have or raise kids, cool beans she should be free to.

mojo_jojo · Answer

Feminism isn't about equality. Its about dominating. Thats were you are getting it twisted. Feminist usually want total independence and male bash. Not "let be equal honey we share the bills and share responsibilities.

Anyways, if u play a traditional role cool. I will too and take care of you.
If you want to be treated as equal then be equal as you said. Pay the bills, defend the house or persons. Open doors for men.

Just don't try to have your cake and eat it too.

00Lelouchxx · Answer

I love traditional roles even though I dont go for goose type of girls.

I fuck party girl sluts and bitchy girls

But if I wanted to settle down I want the traditional girl.

I just want a woman to act like woman and a man to he a man. I don't need men to be soft I don't need woman to be harden by this world and do it all.

Like chill ladies that can do attitude only belongs in the work place environment.
In a relationship ur my second I protect u u support me

Anonymous · Answer

The men are saying they have to pick one OR the other. Not "and" the other. You don't get to have your cake and eat it too. We say either be equal in EVERYTHING in culture or go back to 1950's culture. No getting equal rights only when it suits you and going back to traditional crap when equality doesn't suit you.

Mustachekitteh · Answer

None of the above since they should just do the logical thing and what ever they think they should do or act like.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

I think they're just as confused as the few women that contradict themselves. They probably don't know what they want.

Prof_Don · Answer

I prefer the modern woman. Just because a woman is career driven, doesn't mean that she doesn't like to be "led" in the relationship dynamic.

Anonymous · Answer

Each gender only wants equality when it benefits them

Anonymous · Answer

Well. I can't speak for all men but in my bf's case, he wants me to play the traditional role as well as be an independent woman.  So basically he expects me to cook, clean, and work 40+ hours.

anonman32 · Answer

lol i hate feminism because equality cannot be achieved with addressing only the problems of one gender.

BusinessBasketball · Answer

Not want a girl that is a housewife that cleans and cooks all day long. Want one that works, ride horses, hike, and ride sport bikes.

Abe90 · Answer

I prefer a woman to be a bit independent. I don't like the traditional roles that much.

Anonymous · Answer

Because that's not what Feminism does, that's not their issue with Feminism. To be blunt, it's probably that don't have a good grasp of what they mean when they're complaining about feminism.

Anonymous · Answer

never gonna court a man anyways whether they like it or not... that is so gay

Anonymous · Answer

I want a woman who is an equal. A traditional women is worthless to me since they don't contribute much.

Katy16 · Answer

I'm traditional and that's what my boyfriend wants

helloitsmethere · Answer

I don't want to stay in a house all day tbh..

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