Why am I always overlooked by guys?

[Anonymous]

Everytime I go out I'm always overlooked by guys no matter who I'm with they always get chatted up or attention and I never do. I 'm not very confident with guys and have never had guy friends but I feel like everytime I put myself out there I'm rejected so what's the point. I've had so many situations when guys have been nasty or negative to me and it hasn't been provoked in any way. I've been trying to accept maybe the only way I can move forward is to accept that guys just aren't going to be a part of my future. But being balatantly overlooked constantly is destroying my self esteem and I don't why it's always that way or what to do about it.

[LaVilaine]

People are never going to come up to you and lavish you with attention unless you show them some attention and/or interest first. People are not mind readers. They can't just sense that you are interested in them. If you keep to yourself, people will assume that you want to stay that way. It's not their fault that you have had bad experiences and want to hang back. They don't know that. They know literally nothing about you.

My suggestion is for you to see a therapist to help you work on your self-esteem and to build a positive self-image. This needs to come from within so that every little negative thing that happens doesn't completely floor you.

Good luck.

[sedrftvgyhujik]

A therapist seems like an expensive option.

[LaVilaine]

@sedrftvgyhujik it is, but there are always options that still allow for any budget, especially if you live in a university town.

[OleMissMiss]

I felt like you do and then I met a gorgeous hunk of a man who treats me with respect. He helped me respect myself in the process. But it took time. And I have to admit I would look in the mirror and wonder WTF? Just stay strong and know your day is coming.

[wolfie12]

It's the approachability that counts, if you look like somebody that wants to be approached and isn't cold, people will approach you.

Smile at them and they will like you.

[Anonymous]

Everyone decides who they want to get to know based off looks at first, so the question is what do you look like?

[SnatchFinderGeneral]

Hey bby. What you wearing?

Feel better now?