Boyfriend has changed and needs time to "figure himself out". What does that mean?

[Anonymous]

*Please read this before answering*
We have been dating for a bit over 6 months now and everything was going great until about 2 months ago he started to change. He wasn't as eager to hang out and stopped being as lovey dovey. It has gotten to the point where he stopped calling me "babe" and messaged me less constantly.
He has been going through a lot of stress at home and he did tell me about that. HOWEVER
Last weekend he completely ignored me all Saturday, went out with his group of friends (we always go out with them together) and didn't invite me. Then he continued to ignore me on Sunday. I wrote to him and I got a reply saying " I don't feel too good, I just need a week to figure myself out". 2 days later after ZERO contact from him I messaged him saying i wanted to break up to which he replied "are you really giving up this easily" ? I replied to him explaining that he keeps pushing me away and that I've been trying for weeks to make everything work and that he should know how he feels about me by now.. then no reply.. its been a day since that last message. Does anyone have any clue as to what is going on? HELP

[MrOwens]

First of all you need to stop. Because you are setting yourself up for failure. When a guy says that he needs space I think it's probably because you are too clingy. You just need to give him space and with zero contact. I'm telling you if you continue to send him messages and calling him. When he says that he needs a little time to think a little time to get away. You will lose him if you continue this Behavior. Don't get mad at the guy because he wants to go out with friends and without you. You need to show him that you're independent as well. I would do zero contact. Because you haven't given him the opportunity to miss you. And all that constant calling and messaging and constantly being around him. And if he doesn't come back. You will have your answer on if he was serious about you or not. Also it may be already too late he may be interested in someone else. Not trying to hurt feelings. Maybe you should do things that you like maybe date someone new.

[TCJ1234567]

No idea what is going on in his head, but you are not communicating and without that, the relationship is going to be very hard even if he snaps out of it.

6 months is not forever, but its long enough for you to expect him to talk to you about what is going on. When there is trouble, he should want you closer not farther away.

I am also disturbed by his answer of are you giving up so easy. Did he not asked you to stay? To give him more time? To help him through this? Don't know what he is thinking but its not about how to keep you.

Sorry.

[NyomiMcClinton]

Sounds like he is become distant from you. The spark has died down. This usually happens in relationships. And it may have nothing to do with you. Some guys tend to do this. Down the line they figure out that they dont really want a relationship or any commitment from you but by then, its to late you have already caught feelings for the guy. I would not continue to message me and let him be. It sounds like you may be annoying him. As much as you want to text him, dont for now. You are only going to get hurt, sad and depressed because he is not showing you the attention that you want.

[BrittBratt2416]

sounds like he's slowly trying to disappear on you or he just really needs some space. Maybe he was hoping you would initiate breaking up first so he wouldn't have to do it. Its only been a day, give it a few more days if he still doesn't contact you say before a week then that was his way of trying to get out of the relationship.

[LizzyLiz]

if he really wants to be with you he will.
give him a little time if that doesn't solve out the issues it may be time to move on.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

He's obviously depressed. In his mind, if the relationship is worth anything at all to you, you'll do everything you can to 1. notice something's wrong and 2. be there for him.

Guys aren't emotionally indestructible sometimes they can be hurt, depressed. Sometimes we feel lost. As his girlfriend, it's your job to be there for him whatever way you think is the best based on how well you know him and if that's too much for you then you shouldn't be dating him anyway.

[GingerGuy]

Whenever ANYONE, male or female says this it's the "polite" way of breaking up with you. To me, they are just too afraid to do it and/or say what the real reason is. The cowards way out. Doesn't have to explain his/her self and also doesn't make it about you (to not hurt your feelings) but people don't realize this is worse. I think it is anyway because you are still giving "hope" for the relationship.

[LizzyLiz]

very nicely said...

[Righttobeararms83]

Means walk away as he's searching for someone better than you.

[RTUKNOWME]

Whats the difference between a single boy and a boy in a relationship? the word babe

[BeautifulPromisesx]

I don't buy it. I think you should just move on.

[bruce3]

he is planning to break up with u