Taking a trip with someone who's "just a friend"?

[ragtimeacres97]

Ok, here's the situation. Met this really great guy a week ago and we've become really close. We like each other a lot, but he's been dating this other girl for a few weeks and he kinda wants to see where it goes with her. However, he is taking a trip in a few weeks and has asked me to go with him. Granted I have a more flexible work schedule than this other girl does, but isn't a trip like that something you do if you're boyfriend/girlfriend? On top of that he hasn't seen the other girl all week, but we've hung out everyday since we met. I like being around him and I want to go, but I'm not sure I should. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. If you need/want more details let me know.

[ladykay]

BEWARE.

I would not touch that with a 10 foot pole. This guy does not know what he wants. If he was really into his current relationship, he would not risk hurting her by taking a trip with a girl he barely just met and is becoming "really close to".

And if he was into you, he should bite the bullet and break it off with his current girlfriend.

It's really that simple. One girl for every guy. Mix that up and it just causes too much drama.

Let me ask you - What are your real intentions on this trip? To make him fall for you? Do yourself a favor and let him make that decision on his own. He is not worth it if he continues to dance around and tell you that he "kinda wants to see where it is going with her" while you wait at the sidelines. He will not respect you for waiting around for him while he has the position of power and chooses which girl is best. Don't let him disrespect you and her.

One last thing, does she know about you? Does she know that he invited you? Would you feel comfortable standing in front of her if he asked you to go on the trip instead of her? Those feelings surrounding these answers should give you a sign whether or not this is right and if you feel the least bit guilty, then you need to walk away.

Good luck.

[ragtimeacres97]

My intentions for the trip would be to spend time with a guy I really like. I can't really do anything to make him for fall for me. The girlfriend knows about me, but she doesn't know that he invited me. I told him he needs to clear it with her before I make a decision about going or not.

[when-the-rain-fall]

He should be dating one girl at a time. At least, that's in my opinion. Either way if you guys go as friends or not, put yourself in her shoes. I would definitely stop seeing a guy if he took another girl with him on his vacation. Do you like this guy? If so, are you okay with the fact that he's seeing another girl at the same time?

[ragtimeacres97]

I'm crazy about him and he knows it. He likes me too, but he feels he made a promise to this other girl that the 2 of them would give it a try. As he put it they are not in a monogamous relationship, but neither one of them is dating anyone else at this point either. I'm not thrilled about the fact that he's seeing her, but there's really nothing I can do about that.

[when-the-rain-fall]

Love triangle is always drama. He should be sticking with one girl at a time. If he's in a relationship, don't interfere. Let him make up his mind. I think there's going to be a big chance of getting your heart broken if you go on and go with him to his trip. Don't let the two timing guy hurt you. It's not fair for you or the girl that he's dating.

[drstms]

Not a good idea. If he is willing to do this now, what would happen in the future, especially if he doesn't see a problem with it. Trips are for people who are more than friends, either associates in business, who stay in separate rooms, or significant others who stay in the same room. It may be he is really not sure about how he feels, but I wouldn't go with him when you've only known him a week, and he claims to want to see how it works out with someone else. He is shooting himself in the foot, just by asking. His integrity and credibility are both in question now.

[chrisbmal]

Will you have sex with him on the trip?

[ragtimeacres97]

No I would not have sex with him.