Guys, how can a woman "make you feel like a man"?

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I saw a question about relationship dynamics, and about 30% of guys wanted a traditional wife, which was specifically described as the woman making sure the man 'felt like a man'.

Having never felt like the other gender because of the way I'm being treated (bc I firmly know I'm a woman) I'm VERY confused on what that means?

Guys help a woman out (even my boyfriend had no idea what this meant)

usbiv223 · Accepted Answer

To answer your question, she can act to reinforce whatever supports his idea of manliness. In other words, you need to get to know what kind of man he is, which he may not be able to tell you in words. Here are some examples:

Some men want to be providers. That is a MAJOR component of the man's duty in a traditional relationship on every continent that I know much about (I'm sure there are places that isn't the case, but I haven't been there). For this man, having a stay-at-home wife trust him and depend on his ability to provide would make him feel manly.

Some men want to be dominant. These men feel manly when their partners are submissive - maybe sexually, maybe culturally, whatever. This is not to say that a woman needs to submit to his wants and needs across the board, merely that this will feed into his sense of manliness.

Some men want to be handy. A woman (or anyone, I suppose) can help a man feel this way by legitimately complimenting a repair or building job he has done or is doing.

Once again, to everyone out there looking to get butt hurt, I am not advocating anything in particular, or that anybody needs to "be" anything in particular all of the time. I am a big fan of healthy, dynamic relationships. I'm just framing the answer.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some guys voted for " a curious lady passing by" hahahaha hahaha
Anyways, for me it's not like I define my manhood based on my relationship with my girlfriend however i want to feel like a protector and provider of our house, in reality She makes more money than I do, but I feel very good with myself when we go out and I can buy her the things she wants, open the door of the car for her, hold her hair while she sucks me off, we both know that she doesn't need me, but She makes me feel needed, and I love that about her, I love how she gets me, so In that way she can actually influence how i feel about myself, and no I don't expect her to do the dishes and cook for me, But I do like to know she feels safe with me

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

That is never have traditional housewife's should even be based on what this person have discribed. Overall, both the husband and the wife needs to listen and obey each other's throught compromise. This is because such a couple lacks boundaries and feels one is superior over the other. Not every man is going to feel the same way towards all women. The one that makes him feel more appreciated to be a man is the one he will often sacrifice for, and likewise for the women. We all have different needs and places one need important over the other lesser needs.

Leading the household however is the job and role of a man, as leaving a married women doing so can bring about ruin. A wife should be able to give input, but the husband makes the desicion at the end of the day. The wife and children must also follow. However, if there is a point in time where the husband can't, the wife may need to pickup on the areas he lacks until there is both mental, emotional and psychological growth as well as spiritual growth. His growth can effect everybody in the house. That is why men have such a strong influence on us women.

Halebales · Accepted Answer

I think ladies can make men feel more manly by asking for help to make them feel needed.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The best way to make him feel like a man is to kick him in the balls :P

Itsmeyay · Answer

Mmm... The traditional way is to obey her man, stay at home and look after the children, cook, clean, make sure he is happy, not worry about your future but just trust that he will provide, don't open any door, wait for him to cover the water pool with his jacket, or only certain jobs like nurse, reception, etc etc.
I think very little people actually want or know how to give that lifestyle anymore, so their perception of traditional is home made.
Which means that they want specifics and use traditional as an excuse to make a demands sound reasonable.
My opinion is that men with low self asteem will want to be treated like a man because they lack the confidence to prove their manliness by them selves.
Ways for the woman to act like he is manly would probably include, keep quiet when spoken to, do not argue his decision, you would have to see yourself as the lesser person, excuse his disrespectful deeds often. Generally just let him be in charge.
All this probably speaks for itself.
A secure male would not keep being a man on his mind for much of his life, it would be natural to except that he is male or man and would act accordingly.
I do believe that having the parts to play the role is not a given for anyone. There are three genders, women, men and hermaphrodite.
A gay guy that always bends over and is submissive doesn't see himself as a real man. But he is comfortable with his role.
A woman that only likes woman and wears strap on, doesn't see herself as feminine. But she is comfortable with her role.
Both these examples show people playing roles outside of their normal physical characteristics, the choose to be treated as such which means they want to be treated as the opposite gender, it's in their mind, it's their personal choice, wanting to be treated like a man is in their mind, they feel the need, they need someone to help them feel natural.

Anonymous · Answer

How sad it is that today women even have to ask this question, and equally sad that many men don't even know how to answer it. Is it any wonder marriage is disappearing and the most of the ones that do happen end in divorce?

These days it seems women really have no idea how to make themselves happy, let alone make a man happy. Women are more unhappy today than ever. With all the focus on "equality" and "gender roles" we, as a society, have completely lost sight if what actually works. What a sad state of affairs.

Go to this link and look up Tailliah's answer. It's heartening to see there are still a few people who can see beyond all the bullshit rhetoric we face today and actually do what it takes to make a happy marriage.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2233480-who-is-your-ideal-wife-traditional-assertive-or-equal

ladsin · Answer

A lol. I am who I am and no one will make me feel differently 👍🏻

As you get older you tend to care less what other people do. All I want from my partner is to love me for who I am and for us to have a good time together.

Imezruin · Answer

I don't think its about wanting a "traditional" wife. Its more about being able to be "a man". Many women are so controlling that they won't let the man be the man. Men by nature (most of them) are leaders and have this inbuilt need to make decisions, and do scary and dangerous things. Some women try to control their men by diffusing their mens desires/ nature.
Not that im saying the man has to make all the decisions. But, men need to feel they are in control. Decisions need to be taken mutually. But don't subdue men to constant degradation, taunts, ridicule just because they are different. You have to allow your man's personality to remain. Women should not try and make men like them.

dropkicknj13 · Answer

it doesn't mean making him a women lol its about how some guys feel like less of a man if their wife makes more money, because traditionally the man provides for his family and in that case his wife is doing it. it's like that whole "who wears the pants" thing

Maik567 · Answer

It's not really about MAKING him feel like a man, it's about appreciating his masculine features and encouraging that kind of behavior.

In practice it just means complimenting him, letting him be in charge and submitting to him occasionally, and doing things for him. (Of course he should repay this to you as well somehow)

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Did you just assume my Identity?

Hmm definitely in bed she can be like "OMG i can't even.." then just whimpers after that

I am a pisces so i kno what im fckin doing m8.
I don't think many guys care about the traditional male, maybe some roid heads, or like christian dudes...

Anonymous · Answer

Honey, all this really means is "Being acknowledged for the good we do when we do it". That's pretty much the extent of it. No great mystery. And the small mystery of the matter is that we love acknowledgement but hate asking for it. Don't make us ask. Then of course, there's plenty of ways to make your guy feel like he's the manliest of men that can be just as pleasing for you as for him, haha.

martyfellow · Answer

Women who are comfortable with their femininity and don't think it's degrading to occasionally ask your opinion about what is going on in her life, and things like that make you feel like your opinion is valued...

Hans222 · Answer

Maybe by complimenting him for things like his muscles (or letting him use them for you) or chest hairs.
But I don't need that to feel like a male... as long as she treats me with love I'm more than happy :D

Bandit74 · Answer

I said either equal or traditional on that question but my reason for doing so wasn't because they make me feel like a man.

Anyways, I think that expression has to do with the guy wanting to feel needed and respected.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. Some men think it's natural for men to be leader though they can see women who want to be leader (how can't they see women to be leader is also natural? It depends on their personality LOL) so, let him be the traditional leader! Don't pay for date. Never. Don't make money and expect him to die like a Jack from Titanic for you in a dangerous situation. That would probably make him feel manly lol

jman46241 · Answer

Well I don't know about anyone else but, I don't require anything to feel like a man. I just happen to be a secure guy is all..

Anonymous · Answer

There's no way she can. I'm my own person and gender. I don't feel like more of a man when I'm with a woman nor do I feel like less of a man when I'm not.

Also whoever said sex makes you into a man or you're not a man till you lose your virginity is full of shit. Sex is great, but I did not feel any different after it or with any other encounter afterwards for that matter.

kelvinmed · Answer

I don't understand how women can make you feel like man. I guess not making more income than the guy and letting him pay for stuff, and let him be dominate and don't voice opposite opinions to his in front of others :-/

MrBro · Answer

It shouldn't be your job to make him feel like a man but here are some things that might do it. let him give you a piggyback ride, pay for things when he offers, or you just comment on something he does that is classy.

ASEXY · Answer

She can't, my gender identity is a fact, and she has no influence over it... No one has any control over my gender identity. I feel like a man and I act like one.

helphelpimdying · Answer

making you feel like a man knowing your gender has nothing do to with it. everyone knows their gender. what it means is that the man wants to feel good about himself and feel like he's powerful and strong and needed.

Jamesol1 · Answer

There are 2 sex's/genders. And 'Other' is an area for people with mental illness. Just thought I'd pass on some factual information instead of buzzfeed left wing fantasy crap.

Blitzkrieger · Answer

i think that if a man's sense of masculinity is dependent on women that he is not really a masculine man to begin with.

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