Why do guys have such high standards?

Question

I'm sick of guys having such high standards about looks. I can't look like a Victoria's Secret model.

SammyGurl · Accepted Answer

You are on the right track about this. Any normal, natural women cannot compete with retouched pictures, digitally altered pictures, Botox, a little nip here and tuck there to enhance the models proportions, hours and hours of professional makeup artists applying makeup from head to toe, hair stylists to make sure every last hair is in place... on and on and on... How on earth are we supposed to compete with that? We can't, many of those models in a sense aren't real, they're a perfected digital image which started off with a pretty girl/woman in the first place.

I'm told I'm pretty, I have been told that all my life, I guess I believe it. I sure feel like a dog's hind end when I compare myself to those women, my breasts are small A or B cup, perky and natural. My bum is small, toned and tight from running miles and miles. My tummy is flat, almost washbordy, I'm thin and tall like they are, 5'-9" (minimum height for most female modeling jobs). Blonde and blue eyed like many of them. I have beautiful skin, complexion and natural highlights that with just a little make up looks nice enough to go out for the evening. Most of those girls look like they begin at a C cup and just get bigger!! I can't measure up to that even if you take away all the "Magic Imagery". Why, think about it, each one of those girl represents maybe a thousand others who thought they were pretty enough to be a model and washed up along the way. They couldn't measure up either! The V. S. Models are the cream of the cream, models who made it yet were prettier or had something about their looks that make them stand above the rest... How can we compete with that? We can't; so why even try?

I resolved to myself and to my guy that I am me, I'm not a model, I'm not a V. S. Model and don't want to be one. I want to be accepted for me, not the fantasy that enhanced looks conjure up. I can't even measure up to that! Why should I, I'm me, no one in the world looks like me, I'm pretty, even beautiful to my husband. He loves me for who I am, not what I look like, he backs up those words with actions!! I love that!! He loved me way back when I was a Tomboy, trying to get his attention. I love him like that too so, why should I compete with a fantasy when I'm his to have, to hold, to love, to return his love. When I look at it that way, why would I even want to compete? Especially when I don't need to!

Bella8991 · Accepted Answer

That’s like saying “why do girls have high standards?” And the only answer I can give for both of those is because they don’t want to settle for anything less than what they deserve and hiwnstly most guys don’t want a Victoria look alike super model, they actually prefer something to hold on to and to grab, as for personality most would probably say that they’d want someone to take Home to their Mum, someone to keep them on their toes, good personality and sense of humour who they can laugh along with. As for body shape, some like curvy, some like normal and some like slim/skinny as for looks some like dark, ginger, blonde, brown, multi-coloured, curly, straight, beach wave hair. Plus girls are just as bad when it comes to looks plus when you first meet someone the first thing anyone will notice is their appearance on how they look and dress and everyone has perceptions and standards on what they want their person to look like

CluelessJ · Accepted Answer

Don't get involved with them then. To tell you the truth, everyone looks to models for the perfect looks and the standard of perfection on looks. Its everywhere, but you shouldn't involve yourself with guys who look for that standard and not the person. Guys like these are looking at fantasies and not reality as the majority of pictures of models are wearing makeup and using Photoshop. So, instead be yourself and focus on yourself, guys will flock to you more when they notice that you are for yourself and that you enjoy being you and not the world's perfect model. You will attract guys who want you, not only looks but everything that makes you, and not those who want a fantasy. Hope this helps :)

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I don't believe that all guys only care about looks. I used to be a lot heavier than I am now and still attracted guys. I think a lot of it has to do with how you present yourself. Just because you're not getting checked out doesn't mean that you can't attract guys. Don't be so negative, you don't want a guy who only likes the way you look.

ScottSummers · Accepted Answer

I will be first to admit that when it comes to dating girls physical appearance is important to me. If i want to date her i need to feel attracted to her.
Iam sure guys look and his height etc is important to you as well and it should be,
we all should have at least some standards.
Also you need to understand that many boys might like you but they are kind of afraid to act on it.

Deadpool76992 · Accepted Answer

Hold on a fucking second now. Don't bullshit me here. Would you fuck Danny Devito? He's funny, talented. But he's 4 foot, a little on the fat side and he's pretty much bald. Now, most girls would say "Ew! No!" so why is that ok, but we can't turn you down?

SuitAndTie · Answer

I'm sure most guys are not expecting you to look like a Victoria Secret model. Besides, I'm sure you have standards of your own. You can't complain if you do the same thing. Most guys don't even get a second glance from females, let alone being checked out.

Anonymous · Answer

We all know that's not true and that the majority of women have more options than men if they want to get with someone. Girls don't have to look like a VS model, and really dudes don't need to look like they belong on the cover of men's fitness if they've got game, or cash. lel

baakkmn · Answer

I really only have 3 standards really

Smiles,
Excitement,
And Being Open Minded.

I don't run into too many people who you're talking about at my school and in my town. If you just went to a different town for a day, I'm sure you'd notice the difference in culture amongst men (if you'd call it that).

JayGarrick · Answer

I can ask you the same about women. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Unfortunately, the majority of women don't like me. Its probably the same case as you.

Lopezz1999 · Answer

No guy expects any girl to look like a great model. To be honest, your average guys' standards are lower than your average female standards.

lostgirl_searching · Answer

What kind of guys are you talking to that wants a girl that looks like Victoria's Secret model?

Exterminatore · Answer

Girls are no different babe. They're worse in fact. I get your frustration, but what are we supposed to do? Lower our standards. It is what it is.

Anonymous · Answer

Isn't it the same as when a woman set the height standard to like 6 feet tall?

tzdc21 · Answer

Most guys just require you to be average looking or somewhat attractive. You don't have to be a model level.

Chico_brah · Answer

Nobody is expecting you to look like women who make up 1% of the population.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

>under 18 Some do have high standards around that age, but girls also have really high standards around that age too, try going lower.

rgb008 · Answer

Life's too short to date someone ur not attracted to OP

dolemite68 · Answer

the hotter or more rich the guy the higher the standards, maybe ur shooting out of ur league

Teenagekid16 · Answer

Maybe instead of waiting around for guys you should start approaching them. And so the fuck what , no guys check you out. Girls don't check me out you think I sit at home and sulk.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys have low but strict standards for body.  Women have high but flexible standards.

lumberman9 · Answer

A lot of girls have standards too so it goes both ways

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

But for that one special guy, you will be his Victoria secret model. And that's all that matters.

ΉOMO_乇尺乇CTU丂 · Answer

I think you meant the guys i like don't notice me*

Anonymous · Answer

You're talking to the wrong guys.

NajemEddine · Answer

ofc its guys fault everything is their fault

Blitzkrieger · Answer

Because women can fuck us over so easily.

Viranda · Answer

The media, I guess.

Greek_God · Answer

Yes you can.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh well

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