u People under 18 tend to date in accordance with silly rules like, "Don't let a girl know that you really like her," or "Don't accept a request for a date if it is made on Wednesday or later, because you don't a guy to know that it was Wednesday and you still didn't have a date for the weekend!" Sound familiar? Doesn't that shit just drive you bat-shit crazy?
Part of maturing in dating is dropping these silly rules and being more open and candid with your partners. But for now. . . yes, he is probably playing a silly game. Wanna shake him up? Say to him, "I've been kinda liking you lately but you're so low-key it's like you don't notice or don't even care, so. . . do you have any friends who you think might be a good match for me?"
WE ACT COOL AROUND YOU COZ WE DONT WANT YOU TO THINK THAT WE LIKE YOU AND THAT IF YOU LIKE US IN RETURN IT MEANS THAT YOU'LL STILL BE AROUND US THE MORE WE IGNORE YOU. MOST GUYS WANNA FIND A DECENT GIRL THAT IS WORTHY ENOUGH FOR THEM SO THAT THEY won't HAVE TO REGRET IT LATER. I MEAN, IF A GIRL CHASES A GUY, THEN HE SHOULD HOLD ONTO THAT GIRL , COZ SHE'S A KEEPER.-----THIS IS WHAT WE'RE TRYING TO DO. IT'S A KINDOF TEST.
Depending on the guy I think. Shy guys will usually hide their feelings for you until you give straightforward signs you like them or until you make a move. They will be scared of rejection and never ask you out or afraid to lose the friendship.
If its a guy whose pretty outgoing then more than likely they will show interest straight away. Its pretty obvious thay they like you cause you get a feeling about it. If they sense your backing off abit or getting uncomfortable with their forward advances then they will back off and "play it cool"
I don't know about guys but I get super nervous around someone I have a crush on and one of two things happen. I get super quiet and act like I don't notice them or become a giggling school girl and talk way too much about random things. I'm so awkward 😒
I read that when a guy speaks in a soft, calmer voice it means he's trying to not to be intimidating. If he speaks in a low manly voice, he's obviously trying to sound manly which means he finds the woman he's talking to less attractive.
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im straight forward in a sense that i will go for her
but also keep my distance
im naturally cool, my weird being is cool :p
but fr i dont specifically act cool, id say im more myself and pretty much more confident and charming, i dont stray away from tongue in cheek compliments/flirts
i do like to impress the girl but not like being arrogant like, but more with humor and just being fun to hang around with overall
i think they should discover me, shouldn't be an open book, im much more interested in her hobbies and views :p
Some guys are just really chill and laid back. I'm that way all the time to literally everyone I meet. He may just be afraid to let you know that he likes you because he's scared of having his heart broken. People who are really calm all the time are usually like that because they've put themselves out there, and been hurt. Try flirting with him a little bit, show some interest, etc. Maybe he'll come out of his shell :)
It depends what vibe I get from her.
IF I think she is even slightly interested , I just let it be known that I like her. I'd rather go down in flames and know than not know at all.
However, If she is showing not much and I think she is not interested then I play it cool, you know? Avoid a messy situation.
deeper voice is a good sign, it's a natural reaction of interest and attraction and it's almost uncontrollable. if he's acting really calm then he may be trying to hide his feelings but gauge his interest with other cues. does he hold eye contact, face you while you're speaking and smile often when with you. those are giveaways as well.
for me i do all depending on how much i like a chick. if i REALLY am into a random chick ill try and be as straight up as possible. if its a suoer hit chick who i see around often ill be mean, i want her to walk away like damn does he like or what
I don't know, a lot of boys just naturally try to act cool because that's just how they are.
Does he act different around you than others?
I'll buy her shit and throw it out there but for the most part I keep a straight face and treat her like a friend
there is a really good explanation why we guys wanna act cool is because we want to impress the girl we like. we do not want to show how boring we are which can leads to 'bored to death'. trust me, i've always imitated like alex turner as the way he dress and the way he speaks with a baritone voice. girls may think guys being cool is too cocky by the way.
I don't act like I'm trying to ignore my crush, but I try my best to treat her relatively the same as the rest of my friends. The problem is that she's just too damn pretty
I think it's difficult to just lump all guys into two categories of aggressive and passive.
Some guys just want to know you. Other guys just want to know if you're horny...
I personally usually hide my feelings unless I'm positively sure she likes me too.
I don't think any us should be scared of the other gender quite honestly.
If she likes you also, there's no reason not to let her know. But fear of rejection might hold many of us back.
I act cool enough not to scare her away but other than that I talk to her as much as possible.
Totally depends on the guy. I personally try to let her know because if I intend to pursue her, acting cool isn't going to take me anywhere.
It depends. I usually just act the way I act. I don't think about it too much. If I want to hang out with them, I hang out with them.
More straightforward I think.
But... maybe I'm too inexperienced, green and young to know any better.
I find when I like someone i am usually visibly excited. sometimes even my friends are excited
I hide it. Don't want her to feel targeted, and especially if she's the observant-chill type, being aggressive will only make her dislike you. Gotta play it slow.
Yes.
I'm doing it right now with a girl I like. Maybe too much though. I'll talk to her once each day at work then say nothing when I see except to smile at her or not even that.
It really depends on the guy. Some guys have huge egos and just go for it. Others, hide it and try to act like they don't care and can even be mean towards the girl.
They try to act cool to come across as the "dominant and confident" one to get noticed by girls.
However, this form of getting noticed is a short term vision.
Depends totally on the guy if he's shy and scared he's not gonna want to talk to you but if he has ego problems he will act cool. Really just depends on the guy
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