What do you girls think about chivalry?

[wait4theboom]

do you like when guys pull chairs for you or hold the door open or if you are walking he walks in the nearest side to the traffic on the sidewalk? do you notice that kind of details? do you think is not necessary or sexist?

[jaxsgirl]

Generally speaking, I think they like and appreciate it. Some consider it as a must, others believe it to be a preferable trait of men around them. I personally don't care, and find it slightly bothering, unless there is an obvious reason why these actions are performed (say I am carrying lots of shopping bags and someone opens the door for me. It wouldn't have the same effect if my hands were free). Also, to me, acts of chivalry don't necessarily have to be performed by a male, towards a female, so yes, I would find it sexist and very unpleasant if that guy next door helped me with my bags but did not bother to help an aging man who actually needs it. I guess chivalry should not be something bound to one's gender. Rather, it should come from the humanity inside people that calls them out to be kind, caring and attentive and help other people.

Anyway, from my observations, people (women including) have a tendency to find this behavior rather charming.

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

For the most part, I'm completely for chivalry and admire guys who practice it and even jump in to defend guys when crazies start going off. The difference these days, is a lot of guys treat it like a down-payment (if I do this, she has to act like that) but a lot of girls have far too many barriers up to respond to that alone. What's far more attractive, is a guy who lives a life of chivalry, whether he's acknowledged or not, not just to get a response. I think because dad's stopped teaching their sons about it a few generations back, it's lost a lot of it's impact & significance. I'm probably 'pro' chivalry as much as I am because for a lot of guys I've known it's just basic practice. Like, the minimum that would be expected of them, similar to any other minimums society expects.

[bang678]

I think Chivalry has taken a step up but a lot of men dont realize it and therefore cry that chivalry is dead or thay women dont like it.

You dont get a gold star for holding open a door. Thats not chivalrous. Its just polite. Everyone is expected to hold open doors reguardless of gender.

Society has changed. So acts thay are chivalrous have changed too.

To me, an example of a chivalrous act is like running out the car and pulling it up to the doors for her if its cold out so she doesn't have to take the cold walk to the car.

Now these acts are necessarily restrictive, lile women could totally do the same for men.

But the point of a chivalous act is basically just being extra nive

[bang678]

*being extra nice or making their life easier.

[johanmdsn]

I definitely do not view this as sexist. Feminist and everyone else has to accept that being a male necessarily comes with manliness and being a gentlemen encompasses all the things you have decided. It is lovely when a guy wants to protect a girl by walking on the traffic side or open doors to be kind to them. It does not necessarily have to even be a man. I find it equally as lovely if a woman opens the door for me or pull chairs, its called kindness and putting others before yourself, and there's nothing sexist about it. If a guy does this, it is a turn on and girls do notice these things, provided that he does it genuinely and isn't just doing it to impress her.

[TripleAce]

it's a silly term women use to get things for free... and not give up their dominance for not having to pay for shit...

funny cause some women, a lot actually find it rather insulting and cheesy for a guy to constantly open doors etc...
but you never hear complaints when he takes out his wallet hahaha lol.. girls my goodness

[Goodwifie]

I had a guy make fun of me while I was trying to change a tyre, when he walked passed me again I was standing up and that's when he spotted my massive pregnant belly.
Shits not easy to do when your pregnant and he asked me if I needed any help but I'd already got it done. It made me late finishing my work deliveries and it was a stinking hot day.

[TripleAce]

@Goodwifie lol that is kinda comical lol... something you'd see on a show or something hahaha
Ok well you don't need to be changing tires while pregnant you know lol... it would be nice of a guy to help in that context...

[Goodwifie]

Yes it soooo funny.
I stop and help someone if they need it , you don't know what kind of shit they are going through and can change a persons day.
Kindness doesn't have to cost you a cent.

[Highlander984]

This is how I live. You can do all this without me BUT... If you are with me, you will be respected. I respect you and everyone who sees you are with me will respect you or have me to answer to. I understand temperament so I get who you are inside. Chivalry is wonderful if it is not a suck up.

[Saraw1993]

I think those things are sweet but I want a guy to be himself, i don't want him to feel like he has to act a certain way to get my attention or interest. Being yourself is always the best policy because the good sweet things you do will shine through naturally

[karahiri]

a little kid held the door open for me today. i thought it was so sweet. holding doors open just seems like good manners to me- people, regardless of gender, should do it for each other. the chair bit... i don't need that, but i respect those who -want- to do that. as for the traffic thing- i've never noticed that.

[Pinay_ako]

Chivalry is not dead. I don't care if it's the 21st century, certainly is a big turn on to me when a see gentleman open doors for their ladies, gets up to give up their seats to seniors and pregnant women or anyone who needs assistance. Or when they walk on the danger side beside their children or gf/wife. I do notice it but I don't mind opening doors or giving up my seat to others who need it more than me. It goes both ways. It is not a must but it does change my outlook on a person.

[spuitkaas]

I'm not very sensitive for it. I would probably not even notice and if I do I'm not greatly impressed I guess. I don't see the point of pulling a chair for a person. I think that's just kinda stupid. So either the gesture is extremely small then I will accept it. If it's more obvious I won't really like it

[cclulu]

Some girls may have a different opinion about this where they like to be independent about doing it on their own or not used to a guy being chivalry. But in all honesty, every girl appreciates it because it is a kind, thoughtful gesture. I absolutely love it! I'll feel taken care of and thinks the guy is really sweet for putting the effort! :) If you're doing it, keep doing it!

[DonkeyRick69]

No chivalry is dead and to be chivalrous makes women think your weak and pathetic. They don't want a white knight, they want Conan the barbarian

[Yasmine007]

Some girls might not like it, but I am very old fashioned and will definitely notice the absence of such behaviours.

[DinaM]

Holding doors open at least isn't "chivalry," it's just common courtesy. If the guy reaches the door first then sure, he should hold it open for me. If I reach the door first I'll hold it open for him. NOT doing so would be mean.

[-desc-]

I personally find things like that necessary for both sides. I'm a very giving person in relationships once I open up to people, so part of me expects the same treatment. I don't expect it all of the time, but I do see it as a way of being kind.

[-desc-]

Adding onto that, as long as either side doesn't show it as a way of saying that the other can't. Like a guy opening a jar for a woman that can't, the correct way to do that would to show your kind intent, not to show that you had to step in because she couldn't do it.

[Neyila]

it's common courtesy and unrelated to sex in my opinion. it'd be nice for a guy to do that for me, just as i'd do it for them. i wouldn't like someone, guy or girl, who would selfishly close the door behind you when they knew you were approaching.

[Nadia1994]

Call me old fashioned or whatever but I absolutely love chivalry. I hate it when a guy isn't chivalrous, just because it's 2017 doesn't mean guys can stop being a gentleman. I don't think it's sexist at all.

[Aoibheann12]

I love chivalry. It's the sweetest thing! I think it's just being kind,

[CoffeeGirl456]

uhmm I like, no matter how strongly women are, all need protective action even small things 😮

[Margillard]

Chivalry is deemed sexist, it along with marriage was killed by feminism.

[PaimarireHart1]

Who doesn't love a gentlemen? I mean of course its not a necessity but damn would it be a change of pace from the what the majority of girls consider the usual when it comes to dating.

[Anonymous]

Was reading earlier the top 20 things that guys think are romantic, in their view, that women ACTUALLY think is creepy, in their view..

Chivalry, like walking a girl to her door/car is one of them
Paying for their stuff, is another.

Until I hear wrong, I'm going to stop being chivalrous from now on

[Opinion Owner]

http:// madamenoire. com/290330/ 14-gestures-we-wish-men-knew-are-just-creepy/

Remember to take the spaces out, I can't post links yet, so I had to put spaces in

[-desc-]

I mean, normally someone buying something for someone is seen as unusual and/or a pickup through an action. I think it's okay, though I'd prefer it if it was a friend buying something for me instead of a stranger, but that's usually because I don't like strangers getting too close to me unless I'm acquainted with them.

It'll work out fine, just be cautious of your actions and what you're doing for a certain person.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, no, I get that strangers shouldn't really be walking with you to your car or whatever, but.. I mean, where do you draw the line of what a stranger is, and what "friend" is.. and no girls, there is no such thing as "just friends", as much as you'd like to think there is

[-desc-]

Girls have different opinions of what Friends are. And yes, there are things such as 'Just friends' as I've had male friends that weren't interested in me, just as I wasn't interested on them.

People like me who are more insecure consider someone as a friend when we actually start to talk and open up to them, though I imagine extroverted people are more friendly, or maybe more insecure... But it's up to you to decide if you're friendly enough with a person to be able to be chivalrous.

[Opinion Owner]

There is no such thing as "just friends". You're funny

[-desc-]

Hey, think what you want, though it's not like you're automatically interested in someone from the moment you lay your eyes on them. If you are, that's list and/or you being attracted to their appearance. Feelings take time to devolp, of that be a few weeks or years, it isn't love instantly.

[-desc-]

*lust, not list

[Opinion Owner]

News flash, we generally are. Men are initially attracted to how you look.. We may develop feelings but, we are initially attracted to how you look. There is no such thing as "just friends". Anyone you think you've friend zoned.. you didn't actually do it. THEY DID

[Opinion Owner]

The friend zone, is self inflicted

[-desc-]

Listen. That's lust, not love. And don't you know that feelings fade? Even if you don't think of someone as 'Just a friend', you'll either harbor those feelings forver, start dating them, or the feelings will fade. I've never though of anyone I've known for a day as more than a friend, maybe not even a friend.

[ats934]

I mean... The chivalry that we all think of is one part of a 19 part code of 17th century medieval jousting rules. We should bring the rest of it back as well...

[LeFrogDog]

Notice or not is not important. It's something you do for others. Girls do notice and your reward is a cute :)

[Goodwifie]

Small acts of kindness can sometimes mean a lot to the other person.
I help when and where I can.

[gumballs]

yes I like chivalry, I know some guys who are so respectful and do things like that for me when I didn't ask for it, mashallah

[Revolver_Ocelot]

depends on your appearance. if you're gorgeous and hygienic they care and will say thank you. if you're not, they'll ignore you and you'll have ruined their day.

[Anonymous]

That isn't chivalry. It has nothing to do with the chivalric code.

[Hanibi]

I'm very traditional and so I prefer guys to do those things for me. For me, it's what differentiates guys and real men.

[mahaim1234]

I like it when it's not overbearing

[AzureGirl]

I think it's nice. It's certainly not a bad thing.

[JustBoredGirl]

I dont realy like it. I think its a bit lame.

[Warmapplecrumble]

I like the care a man provides for me :-)

[Elliegirl]

I love it! And trust me, we notice.

[candygirl1091980]

omg it's the cutest thing ever!!

[kelseywilliams]

yea i love that but cuddle time is the best

[Imafreespirit]

I absolutely love it

[Anonymous]

i like it when it is not too much

[SallyLN]

I love it. :)

[CT_CD]

They don't like it