I can answer this based on personal experience. When I was in high school, I like a girl that I though was the prettiest one in our class. I admired her from afar but never made any attempt to establish a relationship because I was a shy geeky kind of guy and figured she was so pretty that she could have any guy she wanted so I had no chance and I didn't want to walk into what I thought was certain rejection.
Years later after we were both married, I had a conversation about high school with her. At that point I told her that I had thought she was the prettiest girl in our class. It was then that I learned that she, like you apparently, actually had very little romantic life in high school and though she didn't actually say it explicitly I got the impression that if I had asked her out she'd have willingly accepted.
I don't know whether it would have worked out with us or not, but I definitely regret not trying.
If you are interested in him, I would encourage you to make sure he knows that because my guess is that he probably thinks you are "out of his league" and thinks he has no chance with you. I recommend that you make the first move so you don't end up years later regretting that you didn't like happened to me.
If you do and are willing to share, I'd be interested to hear how it works out.
If you're like a 10, then its too stressful having you as a girlfriend. Because of all these stares you'd get from other guys. And then there are always this male friends you have but tell him "Not to worry about"..
beauty level 10 girls are nice to look at and appretiate from a distance, but I prefer the cute girl with the glasses and the pullover thats way too big for her, that nobody else pays attention to.
He’s just shy. That’s all there is to it. Unless he’s told you these things you are assuming, don’t assume them. The problem is when two people like each other and both are shy, one needs to step up to the other. If you are both to paralyzingly shy, there’s really no point in even having a crush, as nothing will come of it. I’d say just talk to him.
Yes it happens. If you hold yourself like confident girl he might be scared, even if you show him your real side he might still be scared. He can't accept you if he can't accept himself. That's a tough case.
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Shy guys and more true for shy inexperienced guy don't know how to act or to express them self or their feelings around the girl they are attracted too (trust me I talk from experience)
Now what you need is to be sure of his feeling... do you have any commun friend (s) ? More importantly male friend that you trust.
Maybe you can ask an other guy to ask him subtly about you and what he thinks of you and if he's interested and has feelings toward you.
Maybe he'll open up more easily to an other guy...
Let me us know if you choose to folow any advice from here and how it will turn out 😉
Good luck !!!
This hits too close to home, except in my case she had previous experiences, and well, as a shy guy myself, my first reaction was that she's too good looking for me, but I think you should keep trying because he's probably just too nervous.
He may be anxious because of that, but nothing an open and honest conversation can't fix. I mean, if you like each other... What a waste that would be right?
Maybe try to show him that he has nothing to worry about, and even if there is... Well you'll be 2 to face it together so that's good?
If you truly are very good looking, maybe he doesn't really believe you are attracted to him. I know that I steer clear of the very beautiful girls as I assume they have too many guys after them, and even if I got into a relationship with her, I wouldn't think it would last long.
For your title question, I don't know if a shy guy will reject a girl because he is insecure but what I do know is that the woman herself will lose interest in the shy after a while because the shy guy just won't take any effort or initiative and so most women will just give up.
Hence this called be called as a shy guys's rejection. However what you are asking in your title question is also a possibility.
Yes, shy guys generally are insecure. That's true.
He thinks that because you don't share that with him. You may have to become vulnerable with him for him to see that you are. That's the nature of the beast. Initiative takes risks and you may gain him or a valuable (if potentially painful) lesson. Either way no guarantees but an opportunity for growth.
Shy guys usually are so because they think that they have some qualities that do not meet the standards of her crush , they always think that how could a smart girl like her can love me? Even though there are other smarter boys than him are around her
Well personally being a shy guy I think she's got better options if she's really attractive. And then I lose the nerve to talk to her in the first place and it just snow balls. You know I'd say find them on fb and I think the poke option is still a thing it's a easy way to say hello without using words.
If you think he likes you and you like him just be confident and make the first move I am also quite shy and if I girl made the first move with me that would help a lot with nerves, he may also fear you rejecting him since you get so much attention
He may feel insecure. Like he doesn't deserve you.
Just move on, no one is interested in a shy man for long. But you're probably right, he's probably just scared to talk to you.
Guys will never reject in such a situation
If they have some other person then maybe something like that may happen
He might be if he's really shy. Try making him feel comfortable around you.
Tbh i'm shy in real life and i don't try to even approach girls that are out of my league because i don't have a chance , i guess he's feeling the same thing
You should have this exact conversation with him. Do ya both good.
Yes sometimes it can happen, we our insecure and fear will be rejected by a girl.
I have done so before
It's not that. He just doesn't know how to express his feelings
Not reject completely, but feel too bad for the girl, feel like they don't deserve the girl or make her happy.
It's so hot when a girl is really attractive and hasn't had a boyfriend
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